Trailblazer
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It is not a scientific fact that people need sex, except for procreation.And you continue to argue with the scientific facts.
Other than for procreation people want sex, they don't need sex.
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It is not a scientific fact that people need sex, except for procreation.And you continue to argue with the scientific facts.
Yes, assuming that no harm comes from abstinence, a reasonable assumption in somebody who has no libido.If you have no desire for sex then it is not a need or a want.
If having unforced sex is bad for your mental health, I'd say that you already have mental health problems.Sex is not necessary for mental health, and it can be either good or bad for mental health, depending upon the person.
What harm can come from abstinence if one has no desire for sex?Yes, assuming that no harm comes from abstinence, a reasonable assumption in somebody who has no libido.
That's true. And some of us need a religion or at least a connection to God to feel happy and fulfilled. I would never tell someone they need that if they don't want it so I would appreciate it if people did not shove sex down my throat. It is very disrespectful.But remember, need has at least two meanings. We need things like companionship and sex if loneliness and abstinence leave us feeling unhappy or unfulfilled means in a different sense than we need water and oxygen.
You are correct in saying that people with no libido get no direct benefit from sex unless it's to keep a partner happy or to procreate. I have neither situation.And right now, I'd say that you are in an argument caused by equivocation. You're using different definitions of need. Nobody needs sex to survive, and people with no libido get no direct benefit from sex unless it's to keep a partner happy or to procreate (I'm leaving out sex for hire and sex to manipulate people but those would be benefits of sex to some), but those with a healthy sex drive DO need sex to feel complete.
Yes, I consider masturbation sex.Do you consider masturbation sex? I ask because there are apparently health benefits from Masturbation: Facts & Benefits:
"Studies of male masturbation have shown it’s healthy to masturbate and even beneficial for long-term health. One study suggested that people assigned male at birth (AMAB) who ejaculate frequently may have a lower risk of prostate cancer. Ejaculating often may prevent the buildup of cancer-causing agents in your prostate gland."
I assume that for a man, sex a few times a day would substitute for masturbation, since the benefit seems to be from ejaculation.
One has a mental health problem because they don't want sex?If having unforced sex is bad for your mental health, I'd say that you already have mental health problems.
None that I know of. Did you think I meant otherwise? My words were, "assuming that no harm comes from abstinence, a reasonable assumption in somebody who has no libido." That says that I consider it likely that abstinence because of an absence of a sex drive has no downside. Abstinence in the presence of a sex drive for religious reasons (ask the priests) or involuntarily (ask the incels) often does, however.What harm can come from abstinence if one has no desire for sex?
I haven't seen that here on RF. I've only seen people arguing that sex can be physically and psychologically beneficial as well as pleasurable. I haven't seen anybody encouraging you to have sex you don't want.I would appreciate it if people did not shove sex down my throat.
No, I am not. Lack of sex in the presence of a libido might be unhealthy as discussed above, and abstinence because of a fear of sex might be unhealthy, but lack of sex for lack of a libido is not.If you are implying that lack of sexual desire is not healthy
That's not correct. There are psychological benefits as well. And probably physical benefits as we discussed including the benefit of the exercise.Except for procreation, there is no other reason for people to have sex except for physical pleasure.
I think you've changed what was said to you. It's not about what's necessary. It's about what makes life better. Yes, I can bond with my sister without sex, but the emotional bond with my wife is greater than with my sister because of a sexual relationship.To try to pretend sex is 'necessary' for partner bonding is just an excuse to have sex, since partners can bond without sex.
That's also not what I wrote, which was, "If having unforced sex is bad for your mental health, I'd say that you already have mental health problems." I'm thinking of a person consenting to legal sex who has mental health problems because of it. If that's harmful rather than neutral or at worst an inconvenience, then something's wrong.One has a mental health problem because they don't want sex?
I hoped you'd know what I meant by what I said. I meant that people are pushing sex as 'necessary' in general, not necessarily directed at me.I haven't seen that here on RF. I've only seen people arguing that sex can be physically and psychologically beneficial as well as pleasurable. I haven't seen anybody encouraging you to have sex you don't want.
I knew that and I said it on purpose, as a pun.Also, probably not the best way to express that sentiment.
Okay, fair enough.No, I am not. Lack of sex in the presence of a libido might be unhealthy as discussed above, and abstinence because of a fear of sex might be unhealthy, but lack of sex for lack of a libido is not.
I agree that there might be psychological benefits, but there might also be psychological drawbacks, and this all depends upon the person.That's not correct. There are psychological benefits as well. And probably physical benefits as we discussed including the benefit of the exercise.
Better for who? Sex does not make life better for everyone. I can speak from having an extensive amount of experience with and without sex.I think you've changed what was said to you. It's not about what's necessary. It's about what makes life better.
The emotional bond is greater for you because of the sexual relationship, but the bond is not greater for everyone for that reason.Yes, I can bond with my sister without sex, but the emotional bond with my wife is greater than with my sister because of a sexual relationship.
Okay, fair enough.That's also not what I wrote, which was, "If having unforced sex is bad for your mental health, I'd say that you already have mental health problems." I'm thinking of a person consenting to legal sex who has mental health problems because of it. If that's harmful rather than neutral or at worst an inconvenience, then something's wrong.
OK, but I haven't seen that. When somebody is advocating for another to have sex they don't want, it's generally to get sex for themselves. People are telling you that it's necessary for them. It sounds to me like you're better off without sex given your comment, "I was never happier than the day I decided I no longer wanted sex, and I never looked back. I never want to go back to that prison again"I meant that people are pushing sex as 'necessary' in general, not necessarily directed at me.
The impression I got from your writing is that the men you've encountered required sex before marriage, but that they accepted your no answer and looked elsewhere.I feel exactly as I expressed it, like a man is trying to well...... you know what I mean.
I know of no drawbacks to healthy, consensual sex unless you want to talk about betrayal, STD, unwanted pregnancies, death from auto-asphyxiation and other things that don't come from sex per se but rather, from unsafe sex or sex behind somebody's back - like one's own significant other that expects fidelity, or sex with a married person whose spouse finds out. One can be killed by a jealous husband.I agree that there might be psychological benefits, but there might also be psychological drawbacks
Better for whomever likes life better with sex than without it.Better for who?
Yes, that's what I said. Didn't you say something similar: "When we were first married and for a long time afterwards our bond was only physical because it was based upon sex." I'll bet that your bond was based in more than that, but if sex made you closer, your connection was in part because of that sex.The emotional bond is greater for you because of the sexual relationship
Yes, they are, assuming they still like and respect one another, which isn't always the case. In my case, much of it is based in shared values, mutual respect, and a long history of shared experiences. If sex disappeared, we would still have all of that.Older married couples who no longer have sex are still bonded in their love.
Yes, I'm sure it was, but I can't help but believe that if you both enjoyed sex, your sex life would have made your lives even better.The bond I had with my husband was greater because we had a bond based upon our shared Baha'i beliefs.
They have been advocating for sex, and not only for themselves. They have been telling me that sex is 'generally necessary' for everyone in order to be happy and psychologically well-adjusted.OK, but I haven't seen that. When somebody is advocating for another to have sex they don't want, it's generally to get sex for themselves. People are telling you that it's necessary for them.
Yes, that's true.It sounds to me like you're better off without sex given your comment, "I was never happier than the day I decided I no longer wanted sex, and I never looked back. I never want to go back to that prison again"
Yes, that is what has happened.The impression I got from your writing is that the men you've encountered required sex before marriage, but that they accepted your no answer and looked elsewhere.
If you mean there are no drawbacks to sex in marriage I agree with that, and most Baha'is would also agree with that. The Baha'i Faith position says that is the right of every individual to express the sex instinct within marriage.I know of no drawbacks to healthy, consensual sex unless you want to talk about betrayal, STD, unwanted pregnancies, death from auto-asphyxiation and other things that don't come from sex per se but rather, from unsafe sex or sex behind somebody's back - like one's own significant other that expects fidelity, or sex with a married person whose spouse finds out. One can be killed by a jealous husband.
Yes, our bond was based in more than sex, our connection was in part because of that sex, and sex made us closer.Yes, that's what I said. Didn't you say something similar: "When we were first married and for a long time afterwards our bond was only physical because it was based upon sex." I'll bet that your bond was based in more than that, but if sex made you closer, your connection was in part because of that sex.
Thanks, that's pretty cool. I like music but I have never played any instruments or did any singing. A man I met on a dating site who I have been messaging for over a year plays the guitar and the harmonica and sings karaoke. He is a believer but not religious, which I like. He was raised as a Christian, dropped out, and we have shared attitudes about Christianity. It's too bad he lives in a distant state and neither one is willing to move, but he is a good friend and confidant.Speaking of which, I've probably told you that we had a band together for years. Recently, my wife has begun uploading our recordings to YouTube and adding stock video footage to them, which we enjoy every evening on our terrace. She's the bass player, I play lead electric guitar, a third person is on rhythm guitar, and the drumming is digitally synthesized. Maybe you'd like to hear an example. Both of us are singing this, me during the verses and both of us during the choruses. This a song written by Jerry Garcia of the Grateful Dead and his chief lyricist Robert Hunter:
It was good while it lasted and now I cannot even remember what exactly what happened that caused it to come to a halt. All I can remember is that there was a rift in the marriage because I wanted him to get a better job so I could pursue a new career and he refused to get a better job, so I was angry with him, and I did not feel like being close after that. It was sometime after that when I decided I did not want sex anymore for other reasons.Yes, I'm sure it was, but I can't help but believe that if you both enjoyed sex, your sex life would have made your lives even better.
I am sure they are, and I might be happy with it again if I ever got married again. I have not ruled out having sex again if I got married, but the chances of my marrying again are slim to none, not because I won't have sex but because of other compatibility and lifestyle issues. As I always say, it would be an act of God if I ever married again. What I am saying is that it would be fate, thus God's will, but it would also a miracle! It certainly won't be because I went looking and found a man on a dating site.It's OK that you don't like, want, or have sex, but for those couples who do, they're happier together with it than without it.
If you want to know more about Ray Epps, I recommend to watch this:I don't know who that is. It seems that you think he committed crimes and should be incarcerated, too, and that if he's not, everybody else convicted of crimes that day should be released. If so, I don't agree.
And by what I know, there is no evidence for seditious conspiracy.You'd need to see the charges they were convicted of on a case-by-case basis. Some were convicted of seditious conspiracy.
So, should we correct them, before they lead more people astray?That's what the church teaches. That's what the priests, pastors, and ministers teach their adherents.
Trump was judged, but I don't think it was right judgment, because no evidence.Trump raped her according to a court of law.
Yes, because Biden is not be judged the same way, for example by the accusations of Tara Reade....you will think its partisan politics and undeserved.
Babbit was not murdered. She was killed by people defending the Capitol from insurrection. She should have been defending her country, not attacking it. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. No tears shed here.The biggest crime that day was the murder of Ashli Babbit.
The "Republican riots" were an attack on the nation's Capitol, not looting. The crimes are different, and so are the reactions to them.And, if we look the consequences for riots democrats support, the "republican" riots should be judged the same way.
It doesn't matter what you or I know. It matters what the juries who heard the arguments and convicted them knew.by what I know, there is no evidence for seditious conspiracy.
How she was attacking anything? She didn't have any weapon.Babbit was not murdered. She was killed by people defending the Capitol from insurrection. She should have been defending her country, not attacking it.
From Wiki:How she was attacking anything? She didn't have any weapon.
I don't think that is true and I don't think she deserved death penalty for what she did. But, it is interesting how differently for example George Floyd was made martyr.....She participated in an insurrection....
Because he was basically murdered?I don't think that is true and I don't think she deserved death penalty for what she did. But, it is interesting how differently for example George Floyd was made martyr.
As much as Ashli Babbit, but Ashli was from wrong party, and with wrong skin color, so in her case murder doesn't matter.Because he was basically murdered?
No, she was attacking, he was being murdered whilst apparently being 'restrained'.As much as Ashli Babbit, but Ashli was from wrong party, and with wrong skin color, so in her case murder doesn't matter.
Ashli Babbit earned her death when she attacked her country. Don't shed any tears for her. Why do you take that traitor's side? Who taught you to think like that? What do you stand for?As much as Ashli Babbit, but Ashli was from wrong party, and with wrong skin color, so in her case murder doesn't matter.
As much as Ashli Babbit, but Ashli was from wrong party, and with wrong skin color, so in her case murder doesn't matter.
Doesn't matter? What about all the pain it's caused people? The violence, oppression, suppression? Doesn't matter? Religious and political leaders have used "doesn't matter" for two millennia to oppress and punish, and massacre people. Doesn't matter that something that isn't real has been used in such horrific ways?If I am wrong and Bible God is not real, I don't think it matters much, because I would still think the teachings are good in the Bible.
If I am wrong and Bible God is not real, I don't think it matters much, because I would still think the teachings are good in the Bible.