What would you do if you found him/her cheating?

[The Sum of Awe]

Let's say you come home from a long, hard day of work. You enter your bedroom to find your wife/husband sleeping with another guy/girl, both nude in your bed. Both happy, your mate with an evil smile.

What would you do?

 

[9Westy9]

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[Viker]

Have you seen any old biker movies? That. Or I would ask the new body if they like it really rough.

 

[JacobEzra.]

Tis is actually a fear of mine which keeps me from having relationships.

I wouldn't know what to do. Probably in a fit of rage, beat the **** outta the dude.

 

[YmirGF]

I honestly don't know. Can I get back to you?

I'd probably be terribly hurt, and not being prone to violence, would go into another room, sit down and wallow in sadness.

 

[Songbird]

I'd wonder why my mate wanted me to walk in on it, and then I'd realize it's obviously because he wants me to join in!

 

[Viker]

I'd wonder why my mate wanted me to walk in on it, and then I'd realize it's obviously because he wants me to join in!

Hi ther!

 

[Songbird]

Hi ther!

How YOU doin?

 

[Viker]

How YOU doin?

I'm great. And you?

 

[Songbird]

I'm great. And you?

Doing great too.

 

[InformedIgnorance]

Personally I am not sure, I take great pains to avoid violence so have become exceedingly passive - for this reason I may just internalise it or try to refuse to acknowledge it to myself... I think that if I did, I may become violent - potentially to both. One thing I do know however is that I would find it extremely difficult to forgive, much as I try to be forgiving, though I might manage it; however I would certainly never trust her again - so the relationship is probably dead.

 

[Viker]

Personally I am not sure, I take great pains to avoid violence so have become exceedingly passive - for this reason I may just internalise it or try to refuse to acknowledge it to myself... I think that if I did, I may become violent - potentially to both. One thing I do know however is that I would find it extremely difficult to forgive, much as I try to be forgiving, though I might manage it; however I would certainly never trust her again - so the relationship is probably dead.

Relationship was likely already dead. I would have been a pressure cooker over heated 20 years ago. If I was married I would be really messed up. We get over this stuff.

I would ask her if she wanted to stick around any more. I wouldn't care much after that. I'd hate to throw her in the street. I've been there, lol.

 

[InformedIgnorance]

No, just because someone has a lapse in judgement does not mean it is already dead, only that it has issues that need to be sorted... on the other hand the inability to continue to trust your partner probably does mean the relationship is dead... I am a very (perhaps overly) trusting person, until my trust is betrayed in which case I might forgive someone, but I often can't trust them again - ever.

 

[Quintessence]

It depends entirely on whether or not I knew about their relationship beforehand. I do not shackle and chain my partners; I'm not monogamous and I don't expect them to be either. What is more important is trust and responsibility. If I knew about it beforehand, chances are neither trust nor responsibility was breached and they can do what they want. If this was done behind my back, that is irresponsible and a breach of trust.

 

[Kathryn]

Having basically lived this scenario, I'll tell you, not what I WOULD do, but what I DID.

I walked into the living room and had a seat. They had to actually get dressed and walk past me, which the woman did with all sorts of stupid behavior - gesturing, avoiding eye contact, exclaiming, "THIS IS TOO MUCH DRAMA FOR ME, " on the way out before she realized that my car had hers blocked in (yes, that was satisfying).

I went outside to move my car, and this woman gestured again to me as she rolled down her window, and she said, "I just want you to know that I've met you before, at chamber of commerce functions, and I had no idea you two were married. I think you're a really nice lady." I looked at her levelly, and said, " You know what- - I AM a nice lady. And I have no idea what he's told you, but I'll tell you this: This is my house, that is my bed, and those are my 600 thread count sheets. I wouldn't put too much into this relationship if I were you, because I am about to take this man to the cleaners. Now - I'll move my car. Have a nice evening."

After I moved my car, I went back into the house, where my idiot husband was standing in the kitchen in his underwear, saying, "We should probably talk." I noticed two bottles of nice red wine in the middle of the table. I looked at him and said, "No need to talk - but I will take these." I picked up the two bottles of wine, and walked out.

I called some girlfriends, told them what had happened, and arranged to meet them at a local pub, where we discussed this in detail, and a 21 year old cutie pie offered me some revenge sex if I was interested (I didn't take him up on the offer, but it was funny anway).

Within two months, I was divorced and every bit of our assets were in my personal bank account, including the equity in our home.

About two years later, I married my current husband, who is absolutely my best friend with benefits, and I can't even believe I was married to that idiot - who now works at Lowe's. Wow.

 

[InformedIgnorance]

It depends entirely on whether or not I knew about their relationship beforehand. I do not shackle and chain my partners; I'm not monogamous and I don't expect them to be either. What is more important is trust and responsibility. If I knew about it beforehand, chances are neither trust nor responsibility was breached and they can do what they want. If this was done behind my back, that is irresponsible and a breach of trust.

*Nods* It would indeed depend on whether or not it was understood to be an exclusive relationship... though I have no experience with the other sort so I cannot really comment lol

 

[The Sum of Awe]

It depends entirely on whether or not I knew about their relationship beforehand. I do not shackle and chain my partners; I'm not monogamous and I don't expect them to be either. What is more important is trust and responsibility. If I knew about it beforehand, chances are neither trust nor responsibility was breached and they can do what they want. If this was done behind my back, that is irresponsible and a breach of trust.

Yes, if she asked me first I'd be okay with it, as long as she knows sometimes I wont let her if it appears she's obviously just cheating, but I'll allow her to if she's desperate for someone besides me.

But if she didn't ask, I'd most likely lose it too hard and it would turn into a hospital case for all of us.

 

[McBell]

Let's say you come home from a long, hard day of work. You enter your bedroom to find your wife/husband sleeping with another guy/girl, both nude in your bed. Both happy, your mate with an evil smile.

What would you do?

I honestly have no idea.

 

[Viker]

Having basically lived this scenario, I'll tell you, not what I WOULD do, but what I DID.

I walked into the living room and had a seat. They had to actually get dressed and walk past me, which the woman did with all sorts of stupid behavior - gesturing, avoiding eye contact, exclaiming, "THIS IS TOO MUCH DRAMA FOR ME, " on the way out before she realized that my car had hers blocked in (yes, that was satisfying).

I went outside to move my car, and this woman gestured again to me as she rolled down her window, and she said, "I just want you to know that I've met you before, at chamber of commerce functions, and I had no idea you two were married. I think you're a really nice lady." I looked at her levelly, and said, " You know what- - I AM a nice lady. And I have no idea what he's told you, but I'll tell you this: This is my house, that is my bed, and those are my 600 thread count sheets. I wouldn't put too much into this relationship if I were you, because I am about to take this man to the cleaners. Now - I'll move my car. Have a nice evening."

After I moved my car, I went back into the house, where my idiot husband was standing in the kitchen in his underwear, saying, "We should probably talk." I noticed two bottles of nice red wine in the middle of the table. I looked at him and said, "No need to talk - but I will take these." I picked up the two bottles of wine, and walked out.

I called some girlfriends, told them what had happened, and arranged to meet them at a local pub, where we discussed this in detail, and a 21 year old cutie pie offered me some revenge sex if I was interested (I didn't take him up on the offer, but it was funny anway).

Within two months, I was divorced and every bit of our assets were in my personal bank account, including the equity in our home.

About two years later, I married my current husband, who is absolutely my best friend with benefits, and I can't even believe I was married to that idiot - who now works at Lowe's. Wow.

All I needed to read was you got two bottles of wine out of this. Were they good stuff? As in "I'm drunk, they must be quality" good?

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

Let's say you come home from a long, hard day of work. You enter your bedroom to find your wife/husband sleeping with another guy/girl, both nude in your bed. Both happy, your mate with an evil smile.

What would you do?

I hope I'd have the presence of mind to just turn around and walk out.