What would you do if you found him/her cheating?

[zenzero]

Friend SoA,

What would you do if you found him/her cheating?

one option:

Lyrics to (Give Him) Another Chance:
Give him another chance
Give him another chance
The first time that I met you
You wanted all my love
I gave it all to you
And all my kisses too
Now that you have hurt me
You make me feel so blue
I think that you're the one dear
Whose faults have made it more
You told me that you loved me
And we were meant to be
No matter what would happen
You'd never part from me
But now you've broken your promise
And turned to someone new
And leave me broken hearted
With no one to call my own
I dreamt that we we're walking
Down by the riverside
The moon was in its blue
And you were in my eyes
If I should ever lost you
How much tears would I cry
Come on and give our love another chance

option 2:

"Don't Stand Another Chance"

Standin' at the edge of time 'bout to lose my mind
'cause you try to take him away from me, I won't let it be
You just walk into my life and try to take away my only prize
But you better give credit 'cause his love is right here for me

You don't stand another chance
You don't stand another chance
You don't stand another chance
You don't stand another chance

He belongs to me, just wait and see
Take him in my arms, give him love, not too much of me
Nothin' you can do or say to make him look your way
So you better give credit 'cause it's gonna come walking my way

You don't stand another chance
You don't stand another chance (ohh)
You don't stand another chance (you don't stand baby)
You don't stand another chance (you don't stand)
You don't stand another chance

Sit and wait at home 'bout to leave me alone (I know baby)
You'll be with him when he's up, not down, to keep him on the ground
Let me tell you something, it's true, he's not in love with you
So you better give credit 'cause it's nothing coming down your way

You don't stand another chance (not a chance, baby)
You don't stand another chance (you don't stand, baby)
You don't stand another chance (baby) you don't stand another chance (you don't stand)

Well, you know somebody's gotta lose
We all can't win... maybe next time, okay
You guys are confusing

You don't stand another chance (you don't stand)
You don't stand another chance (you don't stand, baby)
You don't stand another chance (you don't stand, baby)
You don't stand another chance (another chance)

option 3:
Join the fun
option 4:
Click pictures and file a divorce
option 5.
All 3 sit down and thrash it out as to who wants what and choose the best option for all.

Love & rgds

 

[Kathryn]

All I needed to read was you got two bottles of wine out of this. Were they good stuff? As in "I'm drunk, they must be quality" good?

Yeah, they were actually pretty good - better than the stuff he usually bought for ME.

Oh, I definitely had the last laugh!

 

[Foxfire]

Yeah, they were actually pretty good - better than the stuff he usually bought for ME.

Oh, I definitely had the last laugh!

Reminds me of a couple of good jokes:

Marlene was driving home from one of her business trips in Northern Arizona when she saw an elderly Navajo woman walking on the side of the road.

As the trip was a long and quiet one, she stopped the car and asked the Navajo woman if she would like a ride.

With a silent nod of thanks, the woman got into the car.

Resuming the journey, Marlene tried in vain to make a bit of small talk with the Navajo woman. The old woman just sat silently, looking intently at everything she saw, studying every little detail, until she noticed a brown bag on the seat next to Marlene.

“What in bag?” asked the old woman.

Marlene looked down at the brown bag and said, “It’s a bottle of wine. I got it for my husband.”

The Navajo woman was silent for another moment or two. Then speaking with the quiet wisdom of an elder, she said, “Good trade...”



Read more: Navajo Wine​

And there's this one:

A husband and wife are sitting on their porch watching the sunset, sipping a glass of wine .
After a while the wife says, "I love you so much. I don't know how I could ever live without you."
The husband says, "Is that you talking ? Or the wine?"
She says, "It's me talking. To the wine."
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[Infinitum]

Having basically lived this scenario, I'll tell you, not what I WOULD do, but what I DID.

I walked into the living room and had a seat. They had to actually get dressed and walk past me, which the woman did with all sorts of stupid behavior - gesturing, avoiding eye contact, exclaiming, "THIS IS TOO MUCH DRAMA FOR ME, " on the way out before she realized that my car had hers blocked in (yes, that was satisfying).

I went outside to move my car, and this woman gestured again to me as she rolled down her window, and she said, "I just want you to know that I've met you before, at chamber of commerce functions, and I had no idea you two were married. I think you're a really nice lady." I looked at her levelly, and said, " You know what- - I AM a nice lady. And I have no idea what he's told you, but I'll tell you this: This is my house, that is my bed, and those are my 600 thread count sheets. I wouldn't put too much into this relationship if I were you, because I am about to take this man to the cleaners. Now - I'll move my car. Have a nice evening."

After I moved my car, I went back into the house, where my idiot husband was standing in the kitchen in his underwear, saying, "We should probably talk." I noticed two bottles of nice red wine in the middle of the table. I looked at him and said, "No need to talk - but I will take these." I picked up the two bottles of wine, and walked out.

I called some girlfriends, told them what had happened, and arranged to meet them at a local pub, where we discussed this in detail, and a 21 year old cutie pie offered me some revenge sex if I was interested (I didn't take him up on the offer, but it was funny anway).

Within two months, I was divorced and every bit of our assets were in my personal bank account, including the equity in our home.

About two years later, I married my current husband, who is absolutely my best friend with benefits, and I can't even believe I was married to that idiot - who now works at Lowe's. Wow.

Wow. I have no idea what I'd do in the situation, but I really hope I'd have the balls (metaphorically speaking of course) to do the same.

 

[cablescavenger]

Let's say you come home from a long, hard day of work. You enter your bedroom to find your wife/husband sleeping with another guy/girl, both nude in your bed. Both happy, your mate with an evil smile.

What would you do?

I would walk away and look forward to a better life.

 

[Twig pentagram]

Let's say you come home from a long, hard day of work. You enter your bedroom to find your wife/husband sleeping with another guy/girl, both nude in your bed. Both happy, your mate with an evil smile.

What would you do?

Thats like giving a loaded gun to a six year old. You don't know exactly whats
about to happen but you know there's going to be one hell of a story to tell.

 

[CynthiaCypher]

I am part Latina, what do you think would happen.

 

[Mathematician]

If I was married I would document the affair to process an at-fault divorce and take all the assets I could from out beneath her.

 

[Reverend Rick]

I would walk away and look forward to a better life.

I was thinking kick them both out of my house and wish them the better life.

I would probably say something like, "You better leave before I decide to shoot you both".

 

[cablescavenger]

I was thinking kick them both out of my house and wish them the better life.

I would probably say something like, "You better leave before I decide to shoot you both".

I can only hope that is a joke

 

[Mathematician]

In some states it's technically legal to shoot your spouse in a fit of immediate insanity after they cheat, although the law isn't often invoked.

 

[Reverend Rick]

I can only hope that is a joke

I guess that depends on if they where leaving quickly or not. If they refused to leave or got smart with me....... It might not be a joke. I would be semi-serious.

 

[Kathryn]

LOL this reminds me of that evening at my house when I was sitting in the living room waiting for the two lovers to come out - they had to at some time, right?

Anyway, my husband sent the girl out first - without him of course. What a guy! But before he sent her out to run the gauntlet, he did come to the closed door and call out to me, "Hey - you don't have a gun, do you?"

I laughed and said, "Don't worry - you're not worth going to trial over, let alone going to jail."

Then I sat down at the piano and started playing a bit of Mozart.

It was very surreal.

 

[Songbird]

If I was married I would document the affair to process an at-fault divorce and take all the assets I could from out beneath her.

Not an option in my state. From what I've heard from friends in other states, fault divorces don't grant assets, just a ticket to skip the otherwise required waiting period. Not sure, though.

 

[Kathryn]

Here in Texas, the divorce laws are pretty good. No fault divorce, and no waiting period. I like that. It's none of the state's business why a person wants a divorce.

I told my ex that I was writing the terms and that if he fought me in any way, I would hire a private investigator and expose everything I could on him in a court of law - and then end up with just about everything anyway.

He shot back at me, "Well, maybe I'll hire a private investigator too." I looked him in the eye and said, "Go right ahead. Take your chances. I'll let you know when our appointment is with the attorney."

A few days later, we met with my attorney and he signed the agreement. He walked away with $5,000 and his car, and I got everything else. Originally we had discussed splitting the equity in the house, but I told him, "You know what - the more I thought about you with that woman in our bed, the madder I got. So...I am getting all the equity. Please sign here."

Unbelievably, he did. Later I found out just how crooked some of his business dealings had been, so I guess that's why my threat of a private investigator worked.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

Not an option in my state. From what I've heard from friends in other states, fault divorces don't grant assets, just a ticket to skip the otherwise required waiting period. Not sure, though.

That's how it is here in Ontario: division of marital assets is right down the middle... though I suppose something like Kathryn describes could happen, since people can come up with their own arrangements if they want. If the divorce is for causes like infidelity or abuse, it can be granted right away. If it's for "breakdown of the marriage" (the most common reason), then there's a 1-year waiting period.

AFAIK, some of the reasons for a separation/divorce can affect support payments, though. For instance, if one spouse leaves because of abuse, the abusing spouse can be on the hook for part (or all?) of the abused spouse's housing costs at a new place for a period of time.

 

[averageJOE]

I'd go straight to a nudie bar.

 

[BeckyRose1998]

I'd get my baseball bat and yell a battle cry. ;3

 

[Sunstone]

If I couldn't join in, I'd console myself with living well as the best revenge.

 

[Reverend Rick]

Here in Texas, the divorce laws are pretty good. No fault divorce, and no waiting period. I like that. It's none of the state's business why a person wants a divorce.

What if a couple has been married for 40 years? What if a spouse does not agree to a divorce?

There are situations where a person has kept their vows. They have done nothing wrong. No fault divorce enables someone to divide their assets any time they like.

I'm sorry, thats not a marriage. A person who has done nothing wrong should not have to move or sell their house.

Your situation was different. I can see where no fault divorce has ruined many lives.

Too many people get married and divorced for the wrong reasons.

Please try and look at this from my standpoint for just a minute.

I built my home.

I paid for my home.

It belongs to my wife and I because of marriage.

I raised my kids, I've paid all the bills, I've been a good husband and father.

It would not be fair to me to have to move and sell my home if I did not want a divorce providing I had done nothing wrong.

If my wife wakes up one morning and decides we should sell and divide everything, how would that be fair to me?

We should make decisions together, not one or the other.

Now if I did something wrong, that would be different all together.

A person who keeps their vows and is a good spouse should not have to pack their bags at the whim of another.

If she wants to sell and I do not, she can wait till death till us part and can deal with for better or worse.

No fault divorce laws suck in my opinion.