Truthseeker
Non-debating member when I can help myself
What we have doing is debate. The Baha'i ideal is consultation.BTW, of course in this 'debate', each side presents their own points of view and tries to support and defend them to the other. That is what makes for a good discussion, IMO. But that is not the same as trying to convert the other person on the level of "making converts". That's just basic persuasion of ideas. That's the nature of a healthy dialog.
debate: a contention by words or Arguments. a: A regulated discussion of a proposition (see PROPOSITION entry 1 sense 1b) between two matched sides. b: law and government : the formal discussion of a motion (see MOTION entry 1 sense 3a) before a deliberative body according to the rules of parliamentary procedure.
I believe the first definition applies here.
Consultation in a Baha'i sense is different than what we see in a dictionary.
The prime requisites for them that take counsel together are purity of motive, radiance of spirit, detachment from all else save God, attraction to His Divine Fragrances, humility and lowliness amongst His loved ones, patience and long-suffering in difficulties and servitude to His exalted Threshold. Should they be graciously aided to acquire these attributes, victory from the unseen Kingdom of Bahá shall be vouchsafed to them.... The members thereof must take counsel together in such wise that no occasion for ill-feeling or discord may arise. This can be attained when every member expresseth with absolute freedom his own opinion and setteth forth his argument. Should any one oppose, he must on no account feel hurt for not until matters are fully discussed can the right way be revealed. The shining spark of truth cometh forth only after the clash of differing opinions. If after discussion, a decision be carried unanimously, well and good; but if the Lord forbid, differences of opinion should arise, a majority of voices must prevail.
‘Abdu’l-Bahá, cited in a letter 5 March 1922 written by Shoghi Effendi to the Bahá’ís of the United States and Canada, “Bahá’í Administration”, p. 21
‘Abdu'l-Bahá, Bahá'u'lláh, Shoghi Effendi, "Consultation", 9
They must then proceed with the utmost devotion, courtesy, dignity, care and moderation to express their views. They must in every matter search out the truth and not insist upon their own opinion, for stubbornness and persistence in one’s views will lead ultimately to discord and wrangling and the truth will remain hidden.
‘Abdu'l-Bahá, Bahá'u'lláh, Shoghi Effendi, "Consultation", 10
I don't want to engage in any more in wrangling as we are doing now to determine who is more virtuous. I also don't want to have debate, and it has become heated as of late. You can blame me if you want to for it become heated, and indeed I do bear a lot of responsibility for it being more heated.
I have difficulty being here where debate is the norm. I get caught up in it. I prefer to come to points of agreement though consultation.
As I am not good at discussing religion in an oral sense, that's why I am here despite the prevailing debate in any forum. If I go to a discussion section, I get little takers in having a discussion. They are relatively empty places, but I now realize I should change my ways, and just be in discussion forums. This isn't working. I get too caught up debating, and I have a temper.