I hear what you're saying. It's interesting we have different perspectives.
Originally in the Bible Eve helped Adam (no balance) and after the fall, as you say, Eve is sensitive (still no balance). Through years and years we've (America) have been trying to conform our nation to biblical laws (as we interpret them) by not allowing balance, equality, and diversity because
they feel they have the proper means of how to structure society--God's Word. If I were Christian,
I'd feel I have the proper way, you feel you have the proper way, and so on and so forth.
The thing is, because there is a diversity of cultures and beliefs here in America, one belief is not better or more
right than the other. It isn't as in some countries where in many parts that belief system is all they know. It is a part of their culture and way of life. It's not they they tell others are wrong; it's that they might not know there are other people who think very very differently than they do.
In America, it's the opposite. We see the religious diversity and how each religion tries to put its men and women in their own respective class based on what "God" told them.
I like Anne Wilson Schaef and auther said it like this: "Why would we try to annul the rick heritage of variability we have on this planet to develop a one-party system?
When a rainbow gets constricted, it becomes on color--white." (White--Christian and race)
Unless they chose to, women should not have to live under biblical laws. Especially, if it is not her belief or values.
we live in a world where men and women are not living as they were designed.
When God created Adam and Eve, he created Adam first and gave him full responsiblity for oversight of the Garden of Eden. Afterward he created Eve to be a helper for him. So she was not given full responsibility over the garden and over her husband. But she was made to be capable to assist him and when we consider the events in Eden, we can even see that she could work autonomously for when Satan approached her, she was alone at the time and doing something independently. So the womans role was certainly not a helpless one.
It was after they were removed from Eden that the roles of men and women became unbalanced. Adam became overly dominant, Eve became overly sensitive.
If men and women fill the roles they were assigned correctly, then the relationship works perfectly....and the bible explains how each can fit into such a role. When applied correctly, it works. But you have to remember that mankind went astray for a very long time and the cultures and customs which we despise today were brought about by imperfect people, not God.