Why do I hate almost everyone?

[ChristineES]

WEll, in my opinion, people should be able to fire any person for any reason. So where does that leave us?

I guess that leaves us to disagree and hopefully to agree to disagree. If someone does a good job and never comes in late, works hard and gets along with people, I see no reason to harass someone or to fire someone. Maybe you should not hire them in the first place. Different religion or lifestyle or whatever (that doesn't effect work) is no reason to fire someone.

 

[Aqualung]

First of all, to not enjoy someone's company is not the same thing as hating them.

You're right. I use my words loosly to get my point across. I don't hate people - maybe loath is a better word. And maybe I loath the things people do and say, rather than the people themselves.

Secondly, you are applying a standard of worth, just like the "shallow" people whom you hate.

Ah, so you know exactly what I meant when I said "shallow" I take it? Please, do educate me in its definition, because I was obviously mistaken in using that word, since that's not at all what I meant at all.

 

[Aqualung]

I guess that leaves us to disagree and hopefully to agree to disagree. If someone does a good job and never comes in late, works hard and gets along with people, I see no reason to harass someone or to fire someone.

Same here, but I also see no reason to legislate against it if I do happen to want to be unreasonable and fire them.

 

[Buttercup]

I like almost everybody on a face-to-face basis, but I hate people in traffic. I especially hate people in large vehicles who drive without regard for the safety of others.

But even though I like people in general, I prefer to keep most of them at arm's length. I wouldn't want anybody in the world, not my parents or my very closest friends, to feel they could just drop by anytime. I don't always answer my phone, and I actively encourage people to call my better half's cellphone, not mine, if they want to get together somewhere. I enjoy having people over, and cooking for them, once or twice a month, but I really don't want to hear from anybody but my husband on a daily basis. This has caused some difficulties with one of my friends, who likes to talk on the phone all the time, and -- God help me -- send text messages all day long. I don't respond to text messages. I don't even read them.

I didn't have a phone for years, and the fact that I have one now doesn't mean I'm on call. If you call me from the WalMart parking lot to complain about how rude the clerk was, I'll tell you I just don't give a ****, and I'm busy.

I think we were twins separated at birth. The only difference is I never have the guts to tell people all that you've just said.

 

[Dr. Nosophoros]

LOL! why ask why?

Recreational misanthropy is fun! that is why it is one of my many hobbies.

 

[Ðanisty]

I like almost everybody on a face-to-face basis, but I hate people in traffic. I especially hate people in large vehicles who drive without regard for the safety of others.

But even though I like people in general, I prefer to keep most of them at arm's length. I wouldn't want anybody in the world, not my parents or my very closest friends, to feel they could just drop by anytime. I don't always answer my phone, and I actively encourage people to call my better half's cellphone, not mine, if they want to get together somewhere. I enjoy having people over, and cooking for them, once or twice a month, but I really don't want to hear from anybody but my husband on a daily basis. This has caused some difficulties with one of my friends, who likes to talk on the phone all the time, and -- God help me -- send text messages all day long. I don't respond to text messages. I don't even read them.

I didn't have a phone for years, and the fact that I have one now doesn't mean I'm on call. If you call me from the WalMart parking lot to complain about how rude the clerk was, I'll tell you I just don't give a ****, and I'm busy.

So, I only have a very few good friends. But that's okay with me.

Wow, you just described me. Nobody stops by my house without calling first! I don't care if you moved away and I haven't seen you in 5 years. You better call first.

If you don't like mindless sheep, then stay away from them. If someone fired you because you're not a Christian, then that is against the law (I don't know where you live, but it is illegal in the US to push someone out of a job because of reasons such as religion or lifestyle).

Illegal or not, it happens and it happens pretty frequently. There's not much you can do when they tell the EEOC that they fired you for different reasons. I would stay away from mindless sheep if I could find a company that doesn't hire them and, even worse, put them in management positions.

I don't hang around people much myself, I am extremely shy and I am a loner. I have been in therapy for a long time and have learned to put things into perspective. I have learned to know that if someone rejects me, then it is not necessarily my problem, but theirs. I no longer have the need for everyone to accept me.
It is human nature for people to judge others they don't understand, not that it is right. You see children ganging up on one child who they perceive as different. It is a sad truth, and there is no way to escape it. I was bullied terribly as a child just because of an overbite. I know what it means to be rejected, I know only too well. I used to take it personally, and I was unhappy. Now if someone rejects me, I have learned to put it perspective (and it can be hard at times).
I forgot that when most people complain they just want someone to complain with, they don't care about a possible solution.

Oh, I'm not unhappy. I just hate some people. My hatred for them really doesn't have much affect on my happiness.

Maybe they didn't fire her. Maybe she was treated so badly by her coworkers that the only sane thing to do would be to quit. I've had that happen to me a lot (not with jobs but with other things).

:yes: That's why I said I was pushed out rather than fired. I've been fired too though.

In South Carolina, they can. Unless you've got a contract, you can be fired from any job for any reason, or no reason. There are federal laws to protect some minorities, but you can always say they had a bad attitude or something.

It's the same in Georgia. I once got fired for "being rude to customers." I found it amusing, that's sure not what the customers told when they said I was the only person willing to help them.

 

[ChristineES]

It is a screwed up world, no denying that. I never liked the word hate. It would be different if you said you disliked everyone. Hate goes beyond dislike. But since I don't think I ever experienced hate (yet I have experienced strong dislike, lol), then I can't say anything about it.
I wish we lived in a society where people did not discriminate against others, but it is very much a flaw in this world. Hang in there.

 

[Ðanisty]

It is a screwed up world, no denying that. I never liked the word hate. It would be different if you said you disliked everyone. Hate goes beyond dislike. But since I don't think I ever experienced hate (yet I have experienced strong dislike, lol), then I can't say anything about it.
I wish we lived in a society where people did not discriminate against others, but it is very much a flaw in this world. Hang in there.

I think part of it is that way have different ideas about hatred and anger. I've expressed this before, but I do not find them to be debilitating emotions at all. I use these emotions and the energy they create as tools.

 

[Phil Lawton]

I hate to be posting such a bold statement as a topic but honestly I've tried to get along with society and I just can't anymore.

Growing up I was into the material things, cars, money, power,etc.

Now I'm turning 30 in sept and since about 25 I've really begun changing my views on life, animals, plants, nature,etc but I'm looked at like the wierdo because I actually care about the world around us.

At the moment I'm single but am coming off of two long term girlfriends( 3+ years) and I realize for them its all about status and power rather then good nature. I make pretty good money and can live comfortably with what I have and honestly that's enough for me. I don't need to sacrifice my personal time to keep up with the joneses because it really doesn't matter to me anymore.

THE PROBLEM IS:
Since I've made this mental change I'm being alienated from pretty much everyone I used to hang out with and society in general. How did our world turn into this?

Is anyone else in a similar situation and if so, how do you go about your daily life with meeting like minded people?

I've gone from extrovert to introvert over the course of 3-4 years but this is the way I feel and I'm doing what I want to do. Why is this wrong in societies eyes?

Am I wrong?

Thx in advance for your responses and honestly only this type of forum can help me at this point

A little misanthropy never did anyone any harm.

As rash as it is to claim to that one "hates everyone", it's also as foolhardy to claim to "love everyone". 96% of the world's population are bum-holes and half of the other four percent aspire to be like the 96%.

Glad to hear that you have lost the desire for status - that was a trait I shrugged off years ago and it's very liberating.