That surreal statement of yours amuses me: forcing people to live in harmony.
Were we to conduct a straw poll, inviting the peoples of the world to say whether they would rather live harmoniously with their neighbours, with an end to all conflict and bloodshed, or keep the status quo, Im certain their combined voices would call for the former alternative.
I may read study what I like; marry if I wish; eat and drink according to my needs; make my views known, whether they be subjective or objective; share what I have with others; enjoy my hobbies; own a pet; love my family. None of those things are made impossible by the deletion of pain and suffering.
And this relationship with God doesnt make complete sense actually, it doesnt make any sense at all! It is nonsensical to say God created us to love us. For we know that God, the Necessary Being, is all-sufficient and doesnt have needs, and so the very idea of him craving love from his created dependents is comical and absurd. Nor can it be said that we humans are the beneficiaries of this love, for as formerly non-existent beings how could we be better off by being brought into existence. I invite you to explain how existence superior to non-existence?
This is absurd. Your posts are ponderous. You're thinking everything to death. Do you not see that we do crave the status quo? Do you not see that the conflicts we have are constructed in order to maintain the status quo? To give up the status quo is to give up our comfort zone.
You may marry whom you like, but what if you marry an abuser, and then suffer at the hands of your spouse? If there were no possibility of suffering, you might not be allowed to marry whom you wish.
You don't understand relationship. That much is very, very apparent by your posts. Your thinking is very independent. But if God is love, then a relationship must exist, because love is a relationship. And that relationship demands that one make room for the other. That is precisely why God limited God's Self when God created humanity: We needed a voice and a say in the relationship. If not for us, God could not be who God is: Creator. For Creator is not Creator if there is no creation.
We are better off for being brought into being. Only if we are created, can we love. I don't understand how anyone could argue that non-existence would be better for us. That's completely absurd, first of all because it's a non-argument. We
do exist. Secondly, because it would completely negate any reason for being. And if there were no reason for being, we wouldn't need to even entertain the question of whether or not we'd be better off not-existing.
Your arguments, while perhaps mildly entertaining, are absolutely pointless. This is nothing more than argument for the sake of argument. It has not enlightened anyone here, and has done nothing more than muddy the waters of the OP.
God is benevolent, because we who are tuned in to God, believe God to be benevolent. It's that simple. If the relationship is there (and it is), then we do have a say in that relationship. And we say that God is benevolent.
You can call it circular logic all you want to, but you'll be yelling red-faced, trying to get someone to listen to you. God is kind. God has been nothing but kind to me, and to everyone I've ever met.
I'm really tired of being drug into quasi-intellectual discussions that end up with absurdities like "would we really be better off as non-creations."
To finally answer the OP, most people assume that God is benevolent because that is the experience most folks have in their relationship with God.