Why do people end friendships because of who you voted for?

[Akivah]

I am personally don't hate people because of different opinion, I hate hypocrisy, and dishonesty they used to please the others, or because they are just "anti-Islam" or "anti-Muslims"

That's funny! You don't hate people unless they disagree with your beliefs. That's a pretty large group of hatred.

 

[David1967]

This happened in my own family. My Aunt is a college professor and a proud liberal. When her husband of over 30 years said that he was going to vote for Trump she stopped talking to him, forced him to go to mental counseling, and barred him from talking to their kids and grand kids.

She thinks that she has a monopoly on truth. She is completely unable to abide an opinion that disagrees with her. This seems to be a trend on college campuses nowadays: Free Speech is out and totalitarianism is in.

I find that very sad that a person cant have a personal view without being labeled a bad person (happened to me by one individual on this forum actually). A person who is arrogant and hateful with their views don't have much a chance of winning over someone to their way of thinking.

 

[ADigitalArtist]

I don't form deep friendships of a certain ideological threshold of difference in politics. If their voting behavior directly hurts people I care about, then it's no different to me than if they were standing there hurting them right in front of me.
That doesn't mean I can't still work with them or be cordial, heck I go walking ten miles with an older lady who is prejudiced as all get out against gays. But I'll never call her a close friend.

 

[Akivah]

I don't form deep friendships of a certain ideological threshold of difference in politics. If their voting behavior directly hurts people I care about, then it's no different to me than if they were standing there hurting them right in front of me.
That doesn't mean I can't still work with them or be cordial, heck I go walking ten miles with an older lady who is prejudiced as all get out against gays. But I'll never call her a close friend.

For me, it's a matter of parsing the conversation or agreeing not to discuss certain topics.

My best friends are all Democrats and I'm the sole Republican. Whenever politics comes up, I just let them go on about it and don't say anything. I've learned that they really don't care about my political opinions, just as I don't care about theirs. I just steer the conversation back to our entertainment.

Our family is split down the middle. After a few spirited discussions, (aka screaming matches) we've mutually agreed not to discuss politics at family gatherings. We still all love each other.

 

[Godobeyer]

That's funny! You don't hate people unless they disagree with your beliefs. That's a pretty large group of hatred.

No, that's not what I meant a all !!

I hate their "hate" not hate them.

I hate hypocrisy, and dishonesty they used to please the others, or because they are just "anti-Islam" or "anti-Muslims".

If I hate all people disagree with my beliefs I will not add anyone non-Muslim as friend

 

[ADigitalArtist]

For me, it's a matter of parsing the conversation or agreeing not to discuss certain topics.

My best friends are all Democrats and I'm the sole Republican. Whenever politics comes up, I just let them go on about it and don't say anything. I've learned that they really don't care about my political opinions, just as I don't care about theirs. I just steer the conversation back to our entertainment.

Our family is split down the middle. After a few spirited discussions, (aka screaming matches) we've mutually agreed not to discuss politics at family gatherings. We still all love each other.

Yeah and I'm pretty much that way with that gal I walk with. All the same, I won't be ok taking her out with me and my gay friends. Hell I don't care how much I love my grandpa, both my mom and I have kicked him out of our homes if he starts using a bunch of racial epithets.

 

[idav]

No, that's not what I meant a all !!

I hate their "hate" not hate them.




If I hate all peoblem disagree with my beliefs I will not add anyone non-Muslim as friend

If I only friended people that agree with me on everything I would not have any friends, or they would be rare like unicorns.

 

[Godobeyer]

If I only friended people that agree with me on everything I would not have any friends, or they would be rare like unicorns.

I agree,that's was my point ,sorry for typo error, I just fixed it

 

[idav]

I agree,that's was my point ,sorry for typo error, I just fixed it

Glad we can agree a few things.

 

[David1967]

If I hate all people disagree with my beliefs I will not add anyone non-Muslim as friend

What a relief! That's good to know.

 

[McBell]

Its so weird to me that people would break up friendships or relationships just because that person voted for someone that they don't agree with politically. I honestly think people who would break up friendships over something like that are idiots--do you expect all of your friends to have the same opinions and values as you? How is it productive or sensible to create more division and strife?

To me it seems like political values should have nearly nothing to do with friendship--part of friendship is acknowledging and recognizing differences of opinions and trying to have an open mind/ consider new view points beyond your narrow tunnel vision.

I've seen this a lot lately from people who believe that their political opinions are so valid and righteous that anyone who disagrees with them is either a "cuck" or racist, Islamophobic, trans-phobic, misogynistic, etc and that alone makes them no longer worthy or friendship despite all their other qualities. I just don't get this, can someone explain it to me?

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[Sultan Of Swing]

So he can be nasty and unfriendly to other people and that doesn't affect your friendship?

He isn't nasty and unfriendly to other people, and he certainly isn't nasty and unfriendly to me! He's generally a nice guy, you wouldn't suspect him of extreme views.

 

[YmirGF]

Its so weird to me that people would break up friendships or relationships just because that person voted for someone that they don't agree with politically. I honestly think people who would break up friendships over something like that are idiots--do you expect all of your friends to have the same opinions and values as you? How is it productive or sensible to create more division and strife?

To me it seems like political values should have nearly nothing to do with friendship--part of friendship is acknowledging and recognizing differences of opinions and trying to have an open mind/ consider new view points beyond your narrow tunnel vision.

I've seen this a lot lately from people who believe that their political opinions are so valid and righteous that anyone who disagrees with them is either a "cuck" or racist, Islamophobic, trans-phobic, misogynistic, etc and that alone makes them no longer worthy or friendship despite all their other qualities. I just don't get this, can someone explain it to me?

Keith Richards says it all in this one...

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