It's not a genetic defect. Think of it this way, what would happen if a female soul joined with a body that was male?
Good point, but does our soul have a gender, or is it moreso a set mentality traits that is typical to each gender? The only thing that is certainly different in a male and female is obviously their genitals, which is nothing more than a physical difference. Of course your mental differences
typically include females being more emotional and passive, while males are usually more aggressive and logical (obviously there is a lot more to it and grey areas, the whole balance of life thing) I don't believe one is better than the other, the typical male and female mentality compliments eachother very well.
A common question you will hear people ask is, "does it matter what your partner looks like?" or "would you prefer personality or looks?" So does your mentality traits play a role in who you are attracted to? I think so. One thing I like about my girlfriend is that she is passive, in fact, I'm not attracted to aggressive women at all, it's a major turn off for me.
I have an aggressive personality, and I can't help but wonder, if most women were aggressive, would I still be attracted to them?
Does our genetics play a role in our type of mentality? sure. Does enviroment, influences, and things of that nature influence our type of mentality? sure.
You think that life isn't supposed to be that way but you don't make the rules. The universe is a place of great wonder and mystery. It does what it wants, not what you think it should.
Life is what it is, for better or worse. I know nature is going to do what it wants, and obviously so are the people within in... no matter what the negative effects (obvious or not) of their actions might include.