Welcome to Religious Forums, a friendly forum to discuss all religions in a friendly surrounding.
Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:We hope to see you as a part of our community soon!
Which post of yours? The one it was quoting and directly in response to?I'm just not sure what any of this has to do with the post of mine you quoted.
That's one perspective I can't argue against.Precautions have already been discussed repeatedly by those involved in victim advocacy groups who with to minimize risks for future potential targets.
The comments in this thread that ignore what rape crisis centers have been doing for decades have been more focused on what women should be doing or not doing.
I find some (not all) of the advice falls back into the cultural mindset that its more comfortable for society to have some control on women in particular while looking the other way when it comes to the rapist himself or herself.
Precautions have already been discussed repeatedly by those involved in victim advocacy groups who with to minimize risks for future potential targets.
The comments in this thread that ignore what rape crisis centers have been doing for decades have been more focused on what women should be doing or not doing.
I find some (not all) of the advice falls back into the cultural mindset that its more comfortable for society to have some control on women in particular while looking the other way when it comes to the rapist himself or herself.
I know!
I was talking about my past posts only!
I agree with you that we kinda kept talking about the victim only, but what else can we do as civilians sharing discussions in forums, being expected to be victims, except to worrying about and advising each other?
If I was in position to do some or say some about the rapists that would make a difference, I'd have done it with elaboration!
that it happens as much to males,
No it doesn't. I'm not saying it never happens, there are few absolutes when it comes to human sexual behavior. But outside of prison the likely hood of a male being raped by assault is tiny. I'd bet that there are 20 guys who fantasize about being "taken" for every one who is.
Women face a whole different level of risk. From armed home intruders to parking lot assaults to step-family, persons of boobage have problems that penile folks don't have.
Tom
Men tend to think they're (we're?) invulnerable....except about prison.Not saying there isn't a disparity. I advocate for male victims of rape, in spite of the difference in frequency.
But what I'm saying is, why are male victims of violence suddenly invisible when it comes to lessening risk?
No worries.
I find it interesting that when it comes to discussing victims of rape as a topic surrounding awareness of impact on the victim...I see a pushing to recognize male victims of rape (which I already do), that it happens as much to males, that male children are affected much more than what is discussed typically.
I do discuss male victims of rape, and find it a serious issue.
But when it comes to fault, risk, blame, any of these words that are brought up, suddenly the male victim becomes invisible, and we suddenly bring up what women need to wear, how women need to take self-defense, if women need to carry a rape whistle, if women should be more wary of how much they drink, and so on and so on and so on.
If we're talking risk mitigation, for fellow male victim advocates, why is everyone suddenly silent on what men can do to make sure they don't get raped, either?
Men tend to think they're (we're?) invulnerable....except about prison.
Yes, & I don't know the extent of the problem.That's a problem.
This thread is in many respects an extension of this one, only the intent here is to consider perpetrators and targets of crimes more broadly. In that thread, I'm noticing a worrying tendency for some to to completely absolve targets of crimes of any contribution to the event. Although I suspect some of this is due to choice of words and semantics, it is very concerning to me that people are able to ignore causal variables simply because they are centered on the victim of a crime.
Being a target of a crime does not magically erase the fact that aspects of that person's behavior or personality contributed to the situation. Suggesting so is unscientific, unwise, and potentially downright dangerous. It nullifies our ability to conduct an impartial, objective risk analysis of crime and its causes, and in particular it won't allow us to develop ways that we can protect ourselves from becoming targets. After all, if we can't bother to acknowledge how we, as targets, contributed to the situation, we're going to be blind to how we can change our behavior to reduce our risk. We need to take responsibility for ourselves too, not just engage in rubbish finger-pointing exercises.
Thoughts?
Growing up, my parents had one of those "Club" steering wheel locks for their car. When I was in my early teens, a news magazine show (20/20, IIRC) had a story where a reformed car thief showed how easy it was to get past one by cutting through the steering wheel with a hacksaw.
I told my Dad about this. He kept using his Club anyway. I asked him why, since a thief with the right tools could get past it in about 10 seconds. He pointed out that locks and anti-theft systems aren't about making it impossible to steal the car, since any system could be thwarted by a thief eventually. Instead, they're about making our car less appealing than the next car in the parking lot.
IMO, most measures that a victim can do are like that: they don't prevent crime; they just change the crime a bit so that the victim is someone else.
... and that's why we don't say that the victim is at fault.
No men take these specific steps to reduce their risk of sexual assault, but some men still seem to think it's reasonable to impose these restrictions on women.
No men take these specific steps to reduce their risk of sexual assault, but some men still seem to think it's reasonable to impose these restrictions on women. Since both men and women are sometimes sexually assaulted, I find this glaring double standard deeply irrational.
Last I checked, victims don't normally ask to be victims.
Yes and the things we do might thwart a crime like carrying around mace. We aren't going to ask to be attacked and maybe other things would make it so a crime didn't occur but the victim isn't at fault for the crime happening just cause circumstances made it so.Growing up, my parents had one of those "Club" steering wheel locks for their car. When I was in my early teens, a news magazine show (20/20, IIRC) had a story where a reformed car thief showed how easy it was to get past one by cutting through the steering wheel with a hacksaw.
I told my Dad about this. He kept using his Club anyway. I asked him why, since a thief with the right tools could get past it in about 10 seconds. He pointed out that locks and anti-theft systems aren't about making it impossible to steal the car, since any system could be thwarted by a thief eventually. Instead, they're about making our car less appealing than the next car in the parking lot.
IMO, most measures that a victim can do are like that: they don't prevent crime; they just change the crime a bit so that the victim is someone else.
... and that's why we don't say that the victim is at fault.
Sometimes they do.