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Why is it Important to Love Who You Sleep With?

T-Dawg

T-Dawg

Self-appointed Lunatic
Ah, you might want to move this conversation to the Eros Room.....
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NOOOOOOOOO!!!!
I can't see anything that's discussed in the eros room, you have to be 18+ to join...
 
Quagmire

Quagmire

Imaginary talking monkey
Staff member
Premium Member
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Humanistheart

Well-Known Member
Sunstone said:
Assuming it's important to love whoever you sleep with, why is it important to love whoever you sleep with? What makes it important? What are the consequences of having sex with someone you love compared to the consequences of having sex with someone you don't love?
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I don't care for the phrase 'sleeping with' as used to imply sex. It's quite misleading. As for 'love', it's just a word. It's not a true emotion but rather a complicated emalgamation of other emotions. I find the less you know someone the better the sex is.
 
Vasilisa Jade

Vasilisa Jade

Formerly Saint Tigeress
Storm said:
Ah, you might want to move this conversation to the Eros Room.....
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We already redirected the off-topic parts to a safer medium of conversation.

TheAmazingLoser said:
NOOOOOOOOO!!!!
I can't see anything that's discussed in the eros room, you have to be 18+ to join...
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I KNEW IT! :facepalm:


You naughty naughty dude.

Tits okay though. I was a bad and unusually over-curious kid and I didn't have the sense of precaution that you do. lol!

ALrighty sorry for the derailment. I am done spreading my evil here.
 
idea

idea

Question Everything
Why is it Important to Love Who You Sleep With?

Because anything less is a watered down second best fake of what you could really have....


The Bible does not use the word sex - instead it uses the word "know". not just one flesh, one mind, one heart, emotionally, physically, spiritually united...

Everything - all of it. Why settle for part of it when you could have all of it?


Why is it Important to Love Who You Sleep With? ????
Asked by a person who has no idea what love is. If you knew what love is, you would never ask this question.
 
blackout

blackout

Violet.
idea said:
Why is it Important to Love Who You Sleep With?

Because anything less is a watered down second best fake of what you could really have....


The Bible does not use the word sex - instead it uses the word "know". not just one flesh, one mind, one heart, emotionally, physically, spiritually united...

Everything - all of it. Why settle for part of it when you could have all of it?


Why is it Important to Love Who You Sleep With? ????
Asked by a person who has no idea what love is. If you knew what love is, you would never ask this question.
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So what happens when married people don't love each other then?
(and don't know each other after how many years...)

Just wondering.
 
Sunstone

Sunstone

De Diablo Del Fora
Premium Member
idea said:
Why is it Important to Love Who You Sleep With? ????
Asked by a person who has no idea what love is. If you knew what love is, you would never ask this question.
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Someday, when you have graduated middle school, you might realize how much you have just embarrassed yourself to question an adult's experiences of this world.
 
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idea

idea

Question Everything
I am happily married - 8/8/98.

There is a difference between love and lust.

You know the script that states "love your enemies" - those who can love all people? If you can love all people, you can love your spouse.

Love is a choice, not an instinct.

Chapter 3: Falling in love
Pg 30: the average life span of a romantic obsession is two years.


“in love” state gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship. The “in love” experience should not be called love
  • falling in love is not an act of the will or a conscious choice.
  • it is effortless, no discipline or conscious effort, instinctual animal nature, not selfless, no sacrifice, no thought or will in it.
  • one who is in love is not genuinely interested in fostering the personal growth of the other person. Our purpose is to terminate our own loneliness and ensure result through marriage – does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person, instead feel like you are at the apex of life’s happiness and our only desire is to stay there….
We can recognize the “in-love” experience for what it was – a temporary emotional high, and now pursue “real love” with our spouse.
Real love – a love that grows out of reason and choice, (not instinct) effort, and discipline. We choose to be kind, generous – this is real love.

How do we meet each other’s deep emotional need to feel loved?
If we can learn that, and choose to do it, then the love we share will be exciting beyond anything we ever felt when we were infatuated.
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from Dr. Chapman, book "Love Languages"
What he wrote is true.
 
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Sunstone

Sunstone

De Diablo Del Fora
Premium Member
idea said:
from Dr. Chapman, book "Love Languages"
What he wrote is true.
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Since when has Chapman been a reliable source of information about love? He merely ripped off some of Helen Fisher's ideas without giving her credit, then misunderstood and twisted them into baby pap.
 
idea

idea

Question Everything
Amazon.com: The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (9781881273158): Gary Chapman: Books
It is a best seller, aver rating = 5 stars.

Here is another to try and explain it.
Dr. Eric From:

3.1 Characteristics of immature and mature love

Aspects of Love: Emotional Part of Love
Immature Love: Possessiveness, Jealousy, Infatuation, Preoccupation, Anxiety
Mature Love: Lasting Passion, desire for companionship, Warm Feeling of Contentment

Aspects of Love: Belief Part of Love
Immature Love: Love is blind, love is external to us, cupid’s arrow, love is beyond our control.
Mature Love: Love is something you have to decide, love means: commitment, trust sharing, sacrifice

Aspects of Love: Behavior Part of Love
Immature Love: Selfish, Lustful, Concern only for satisfying own needs, clinging, over-dependent, demanding of obedience from partner.
Mature Love: Creates an environment of growth and development, allows partner space for growth.
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blackout

blackout

Violet.
The man with whom I share my house and children
will never know me. never understand me,
or love who I am.

so whatever.
 
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