would you marry someone of a different faith as yours?

[Sees]

Open-minded, kind-hearted, honest, etc. is more important for me. Obviously if she was constantly telling me I'm worshipping devils and may/will end up in her version of hell it may be a bumpy road not worth traveling

Some people will go through periods of changing religion and philosophy almost like a mood swing or coming of age...might be worth the wait if you love everything about them. Another follow your gut thing.

 

[SkylarHunter]

It's very important for me to share my life with someone who shares my beliefs and values. I don't think it would work out if we were too different in a such a fundamental level.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

To me, it isn't the beliefs that I judge by, but how they use those beliefs in everyday life.

 

[Fireside_Hindu]

I did.

It works because we're both open minded, compassionate and respect the others space and right to believe what they want as long as they aren't hurting anyone (including themselves).


:camp:

 

[Levite]

maybe they have a different faith as yours, or none at all. would you do it if this was the only thing that you had a difference in? but had an excellent connection besides that?

and why? or why not? if you don't mind answering that part too.
even if you ad a joke to it as well.
thanks.

I would not, and did not.

In fact, twice in my life I was in a relationship with a non-Jewish girl I would otherwise have asked to marry me, and instead ended the relationship because they were uninterested in converting. Eventually, I ceased dating non-Jewish girls because I was very ready to be married, and I would never marry someone not Jewish, and one cannot depend on being lucky enough to fall in love with someone willing and interested in converting.

It is extremely important to me to follow Jewish law in regard to endogamy (not marrying outside the Jewish People) because it is not just a law, it is also a clear matter of the survival of the Jewish People at a time when our numbers are still much diminished after the Shoah, and we face a monumental assimilation crisis in America. Intermarriage weakens the integrity of the Jewish People, as the children of Jewish men who marry non-Jewish women (who do not convert) are not Jewish, and even in the reverse situation, a Jewish child needs a Jewish upbringing in a Jewish environment. It does not make for a strong identity when one sees a parent doing something else, professing to believe something else, etc. And almost inevitably, the children of intermarriages have weaker affiliations with the Jewish community, less exposure to Jewish education, and less exposure to Jewish traditional life.

It's about understanding that I and my needs are not the end-all, be-all of my responsibilities. I am part of a chain of tradition that stretches back millennia, and which I have a responsibility to ensure stretches forward as well.

 

[zenzero]

Friend kloth,

would you marry someone of a different faith as yours?

Since follow my own path which has no differences with any other religion have no problem but 'MARRIAGE'? that is a very big commitment which am sure will never be able to maintain or afford.

Love & rgds

 

[LuisDantas]

maybe they have a different faith as yours, or none at all. would you do it if this was the only thing that you had a difference in? but had an excellent connection besides that?

I don't know that it is realistically possible to find that exact scenario. But if it is, then it is of course ok.

and why? or why not? if you don't mind answering that part too.
even if you ad a joke to it as well.
thanks.

Anyone who has an excellent connection with me is by definition of a compatible faith with mine.

 

[arthra]

maybe they have a different faith as yours, or none at all. would you do it if this was the only thing that you had a difference in? but had an excellent connection besides that?

and why? or why not? if you don't mind answering that part too.
even if you ad a joke to it as well.
thanks.

Baha'is can marry non-Baha'is and we also allow for the ceremony of the other religion to take place on the same day ... I've seen a Baha'i marry a Muslim... My son married a Christian... My daughter married an agnostic. The Baha'i wedding is very simple and requires that the parents of each prospective spouse to consent to the marriage.. They also must vow to abide by the will of God.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Personally, I don't think I could marry a Satanist. That just seems like asking for a complicated marriage.
But anything else is fine, Doesn't really bother me

Aww. So I guess it's a good thing I kept the receipt for the ring, right?

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Yes, I would.

 

[Thana]

Aww. So I guess it's a good thing I kept the receipt for the ring, right?

Hehe :drool:


Aww no disrespect Saint, I just meant that it'd probably be a way too complicated relationship for me.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Hehe :drool:


Aww no disrespect Saint, I just meant that it'd probably be a way too complicated relationship for me.

It's fine. If I ever get married, I highly doubt it would be to a practicing Christian.

 

[Smart_Guy]

I'm Muslim and I don't mind marrying a non Muslim!

Yet there is a rule in Islam which is a man can marry only an Abrahamic believer!

So simply put, I can and don't mind get married to a Christian or a Jew as long as I can handle the other preparations!

 

[Breathe]

As long as:

1. They were not an atheist: I would not one to be married to someone who, ultimately, thinks I'm talking ********; I'd find it passively antagonising, like I'm being judged negatively if the conversation crops up, or like I'd have to hide it, even though some of it would be in my head. This is probably my most controversial position because of hurt feelings.
2. They were not like your typical misotheist, LHP Satanist (theistic or atheistic) and similar groups like that: I don't mind the LHP, but I find misotheists to be angsty, and I often find some LHPers to be a little... well... too fruity for my taste; we'd rub each other up the wrong way. Some LHPers, I'd have no problem with, but others... meh.
3. They were not a fundamentalist: I do not want someone who is completely crazy about things and lets it run their life to extreme measures where it interferes with the relationship.
4. They weren't away with the fairies: I want someone who is a little bit sane, so I don't feel like they're going to stab me in my sleep.
5. They were not hostile to my own beliefs: self explanatory.
6. They respected my right to believe and did not force their beliefs on me.
7. They weren't a creationist: no, just no.
8. Anti-theists: I wouldn't touch them with a pole. Even if I had no faith. I find them intolerable and cancerous.
9. Someone who believes I'm going to hell for believing differently to them: for a similar reason to 1. I wouldn't want to be married to someone who thinks I'm going to suffer for all eternity. I feel it would be frustrating for a relationship.

I'm already married to someone with whom I don't share a faith with, though.

 

[Aupmanyav]

Married in faith, but would not want my grandchildren to marry outside the faith. There is no need. Options are available in our own faith.

 

[Desert Snake]

There are too many things I wont compromise on to just not care.

 

[zenzero]

Friend Aupmanyav,

Married in faith, but would not want my grandchildren to marry outside the faith. There is no need. Options are available in our own faith.

Yes that exposes your faith in 'humanity', and that we are all God's children.
Sorry to note that you wish your grand children not to grow in understanding on their own and make their own intelligent choices.

Love & rgds

 

[LuisDantas]

Married in faith, but would not want my grandchildren to marry outside the faith. There is no need. Options are available in our own faith.

Of course, those are theirs decisions to make...

 

[chinu]

Married in faith, but would not want my grandchildren to marry outside the faith. There is no need. Options are available in our own faith.

Why do you worry ? Aren't your Gods more powerful than others

 

[illykitty]

I am already married to a non-religious theist. I don't think he really gets my search but at least he is ok with it. He would even buy me things, as gifts, if I made up my mind.

I wouldn't marry an anti-theist or fundamentalist, both are so obnoxious to me. So similar just on different ends of the spectrum. It just wouldn't work. I wouldn't want to marry someone who condemns me (to being stupid or to hell). How can a relationship ever work on such basis?