would you marry someone of a different faith as yours?

[viole]

I don't think some religions will marry unless both are in the church.

In Switzerland it is possible to marry in a church (physical location), but making it so that officially only one married in the church (spiritual location), if the other does not want to be connected to religion. It just costs a bit more because of the paper work.

Everybody happy.

Ciao

- viole

 

[Nymphs]

We would have to have similar moral and political views because if we did not, we would likely be arguing all the time and I hate arguments.

You only argue if you want to argue.

My husband and I were on different ends of the spectrum for a few years and while we did have a few disagreements, we did not argue or fight all the time. And, eventually, he 'came around' to my side.

 

[DreadFish]

For me, my wife's religion would not be incredibly important, but it is important to some degree. To explain:

Her religion does not strictly matter to me, but if it were too radically different from my own views, naturally there would be the potential for conflict. The most important thing to me, right now, is openness to ideas; so whether she is atheist, Christian, Hindu or Buddhist, etc., isn't as important as how big her heart/mind is. I don't think I could be married to a woman who lives in a small, dogmatic world with strict definitions and ideas; that might be incessantly frustrating.

Basically, I would like a woman who lives in a world about as vast as mine, or more vast , then I could relate to her more easily and we could share ideas and experiences.

 

[The Adept]

maybe they have a different faith as yours, or none at all. would you do it if this was the only thing that you had a difference in? but had an excellent connection besides that?

and why? or why not? if you don't mind answering that part too.
even if you ad a joke to it as well.
thanks.

A Better class of people?
Why not then?

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Well, I'd prefer to marry a nice Catholic lady. But she would at least have to be fine with me being a Catholic and getting any kids we have Baptized and going to Mass.

 

[Aupmanyav]

And, eventually, he 'came around' to my side.

Did he have a choice? We have argued with each other each day of our 47 years of marriage. But, yes, we can smile at each other.

 

[Phil25]

I dont think so.

 

[TheScholar]

I would. I dated a girl that was a different faith as my own before. It was the best romance I ever had, but external forces did us in.

 

[LuciaStar]

maybe they have a different faith as yours, or none at all. would you do it if this was the only thing that you had a difference in? but had an excellent connection besides that?

and why? or why not? if you don't mind answering that part too.
even if you ad a joke to it as well.
thanks.

I would. I don't see why I'd have to avoid marrying someone just because they have a different faith than me (or lack thereof) and it's not likely I'd find someone who would share exactly my faith, anyways so I'm probably better off trying to look for someone who is open-minded and accepts different faiths. And confession time: I think it'd be a great learning experience for both of us, and I really like learning from others and teaching others...

I think that's also my why actually, hehe.

 

[Phil25]

I would. I dated a girl that was a different faith as my own before. It was the best romance I ever had, but external forces did us in.

Just curious. Was she of a different Christian denomination or entirely different religion.

 

[TheScholar]

Just curious. Was she of a different Christian denomination or entirely different religion.

She was a Christian and at the time, I was going through a period of doubt and wasn't. I stepped away from all religion for about two to three years at that point and wanted nothing to do with it. The first time she told me her denomination, I grunted.

 

[Triumphant_Loser]

maybe they have a different faith as yours, or none at all. would you do it if this was the only thing that you had a difference in? but had an excellent connection besides that?

and why? or why not? if you don't mind answering that part too.
even if you ad a joke to it as well.
thanks.

Potentially. Their religion is their business. I don't care if they worship the Oak tree in our back yard, as long as it's not forced down my throat, I don't care.

 

[omnifarious]

I would never marry a Yahweh worshipper or a LaVeyan Satanist.

Wiccan/Pagan - Ok

Luciferian/Theistic Satanist would be ideal.

 

[ShivaFan]

Namaste

Hinduism is so diverse as far as sects, and often the nuances are much more different from one sect to the next then, oh let us say Catholic verse Pentecostal, the diversity in Hinduism could arguably make a case that one Hindu married to another Hindu but of different sects could be the equivalent of one marrying someone of "another religion" even though both are "Hindu".

But speaking for myself, there can be a mix of sects in marriage and I would not have any problem, except when the sect worships some phony "guru" as god then I could not marry that person because life would be hell.

But outside of Hinduism, myself a Hindu I could easily marry a Jain or a Buddhist or a Sikh. Especially a Jaina, no problem.

And an atheist, I could marry one.

If I were told "for the sake of God and your country you MUST marry a Christian or innocents will die" then it would be a Catholic.

Same scenario, if Islam "at the point of the father's gun" I had to marry a Moslem, it would be a Shia girl.

I would marry a Jewish girl, but only if she knows how to cook samosas.

Om Namah Sivaya

 

[s2a]

maybe they have a different faith as yours, or none at all. would you do it if this was the only thing that you had a difference in? but had an excellent connection besides that?

and why? or why not? if you don't mind answering that part too.
even if you ad a joke to it as well.
thanks.

I did (sorta anyway).

I've been married to the same gal for nearly 25 years now (Oct fast approaches, *gulp*]. Then, as now, she is somewhat pagan-ish/agnostic-ish: as I have been since adulthood a rather unbending and stalwart atheist.

She dislikes my periodic references towards "believers" (of some sort of god/gods) as disrespectful. Like Bill Maher says, "but I'm not wrong"

In answer to your more directed inquiries , "beliefs" were never a primary factor. However, you own mileage may vary greatly by comparison. For some, many, or almost none, altitudes of "faith" or "belief" can remain or foster towards ever changing heights and depths in a marriage.

I do know this much...

...our marriage has NEVER been adversely affected by our differences of religious opinion. She KNOWS I'm a corrupted heathen, and neither of us care to whatever degree of impiety is ultimately obtainable or expressed by either out loud or in relative silence. I'm just too decent a human to suffer any visions of Hell in her eyes. Since she will never compete with 17 virgins in some promised Heaven, perhaps we'll call it even at this point.

All that revealed, I would counsel that we are NOT an example of coexistence amongst married couples as a whole, nor even a dissected part.

Truth is, we each retain separate views, but retain a shared hope for our species as a whole, just along differing paths towards a similar objective.

Marry for love first, and see yourself with another until you die,

All other factors, well, only you know what matters most.

I know this much: if "religion" keeps you apart now..it always will. Only truly crazy people believe that repetition can or should effect wishful outcomes.

 

[illykitty]

Namaste

Same scenario, if Islam "at the point of the father's gun" I had to marry a Moslem, it would be a Shia girl.

Om Namah Sivaya

I'm just curious, why Shia? Also, (if you could find one) wouldn't a Quran only Muslim be a better match?

 

[s2a]

I'm just curious, why Shia? Also, (if you could find one) wouldn't a Quran only Muslim be a better match?

Why not a Catholic vs, say. any Protestant?

In Northern Ireland?

What could possibly go wrong?

doh!

 

[illykitty]

Why not a Catholic vs, say. any Protestant?

In Northern Ireland?

What could possibly go wrong?

doh!

Around 45% of people are Catholic in Northern Ireland.

Doh!

 

[ShivaFan]

Quote illykitty: I'm just curious, why Shia? Also, (if you could find one) wouldn't a Quran only Muslim be a better match?

Well, like I said, at the other end of the father's gun then the Shia gal might give me more affection perhaps but that is just a personal observation. And if I decide I might run away, the odds the gun might misfire are slightly higher. Also, they are more diverse then some of the other Muslims, so I sort of would feel more comfortable since they probably have big arguments between each other as to who is "supreme" just like some Hindus do. And I do love those Iranian breads.

Om Namah Sivaya