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Yemeni child bride dies after internal bleeding on marriage night

Reverend Rick

Frubal Whore
Premium Member
Words are my weapons. However, I do think a basic code of human rights needs to be enforced around the world. All human beings deserve freedom and opportunity, culture notwithstanding.

I'm not interested in politically correct spinelessness.

This should be good then, I am rarely PC or spineless.

Just consider your logic for a moment, if we should go around the world telling folks how to live in their country would they have the same right to do that to us?

In other words, does might make right? One day we may not be the big dog in the world any more. Are you prepared for that?
 

Saint Frankenstein

Here for the ride
Premium Member
This should be good then, I am rarely PC or spineless.

Just consider your logic for a moment, if we should go around the world telling folks how to live in their country would they have the same right to do that to us?

In other words, does might make right? One day we may not be the big dog in the world any more. Are you prepared for that?

You seem to have gotten me all wrong and think that I'm somehow a supporter of America's empire. That's not it at all. I stand for individual liberty and human rights. I believe that everyone deserves such things, regardless of the lines drawn on maps. However, your posts here lead me to believe that you think Muslim women are less deserving of those things. I have more compassion than that. Don't you believe that all human beings deserve to be treated fairly and humanely? Isn't everyone deserving of human rights? Does an Egyptian woman have less of a right to self-determination than an American woman?

If someone's going to try to tell me how to live, they had better have some good reasons why. Otherwise, I will simply ignore them. If they try to use the law as a weapon, then it's time to fight it.
 

Reverend Rick

Frubal Whore
Premium Member
If someone's going to try to tell me how to live, they had better have some good reasons why. Otherwise, I will simply ignore them. If they try to use the law as a weapon, then it's time to fight it.

And that is exactly what will happen when you attempt to apply your standards on others, they will fight.

America is the shining beacon around the world for freedom. Your right to disagree with me and worship as you please. Our own country is still not totally equal, just ask the GLBT's here.

Do you not see the hypocrisy here? Not so long ago black folks had to sit in the back of the bus. Stop and frisk or driving while black is still in force.

I believe we need to get our own house in order first before we preach to others.
 

Saint Frankenstein

Here for the ride
Premium Member
And that is exactly what will happen when you attempt to apply your standards on others, they will fight.

America is the shining beacon around the world for freedom. Your right to disagree with me and worship as you please. Our own country is still not totally equal, just ask the GLBT's here.

Do you not see the hypocrisy here? Not so long ago black folks had to sit in the back of the bus. Stop and frisk or driving while black is still in force.

I believe we need to get our own house in order first before we preach to others.

I'm not speaking as an American. That's something you're not understanding. There's a lot of things wrong here, too, but I never denied that. However, it's much worse in other places in the world. I just believe that everyone deserves the same rights and support global change and progress.
 

psychoslice

Veteran Member
I understand what you are saying saint_frankenstein, but while so many are asleep in ignorance this will never happen, but because people like yourself question this ignorance, then just maybe the ignorant will one day awaken.
 

Saint Frankenstein

Here for the ride
Premium Member
I understand what you are saying saint_frankenstein, but while so many are asleep in ignorance this will never happen, but because people like yourself question this ignorance, then just maybe the ignorant will one day awaken.

Thanks. :) You just have to do what you can. I have hope. Every person counts.
 

Reverend Rick

Frubal Whore
Premium Member
I'm not speaking as an American. That's something you're not understanding. There's a lot of things wrong here, too, but I never denied that. However, it's much worse in other places in the world. I just believe that everyone deserves the same rights and support global change and progress.

OK, your a globalist. That means the world should be the highest authority not the United States government then. If that is true, China, India, Russia and the like may want to restrict religion or two billion Muslims might want Sharia law.

Should these folks have a say on what is right and what is wrong for the planet?

Should we as a country consume the lion's share of things when we are the minority population?

What if our concept of freedom is not supported by the majority of the planet?

What if the world decides everyone should have clean drinking water and other first world countries should abolish their healthcare plans?

We flush our toilets with clean water while others have none.

Remember, a globalist has to think of the whole planet not just ourselves.

A globalist would have to respect what everyone else wants if they are in the majority.

Bottom line, our 250 million people cannot dictate to two billion Muslims how they treat their women.

How do we accomplish your lofty goal, blow them all to hell? That will make things better. :no:
 
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danieldemol

Veteran Member
Premium Member
So why do Muslims practice this? Do they not know that a child's body is not mature enough to handle this? Nor are their minds developed enough for this. It's just plain ignorant to think that a child is ready for marriage, and all the things that go along with it.

I think you have an excessive focus on marriage here. It was sex that killed the girl, not a marriage certificate, she did not die of paper cuts.

Although I agree that the marriage age should be raised, it is important to remember that the worst of the harm comes from excessively early intercourse.

Otherwise people could be mislead into thinking that raising the age of marriage would solve the problem without addressing sexual attitudes.

At what age do you consider it safe for a girl to engage in intercourse?
 

Reverend Rick

Frubal Whore
Premium Member
At what age do you consider it safe for a girl to engage in intercourse?
If your asking safe not appropriate, perhaps physically not mentally 14 years old. The thing is even at that age some petite girls would not be able to handle my Johnson. :no:

I think 15 to 18 would be a better answer.
 

danieldemol

Veteran Member
Premium Member
Thanks Rev,

These figures are taken from an atheist's blog here;
Canterbury Atheist: ‘The Legacy of Mary’ – Vatican City approves 12 as The Age of Consent!

"Here’s the top five (based on population) Atheistic countries, and their respective ‘age of consents’.

JAPAN [80,000,000 Non-Believers] 13 irrespective
VIETNAM [66,000,000 Non-Believers] 18 irrespective
RUSSIA [50,000,000 Non-Believers] 16 irrespective
GERMANY [40,000.000 Non-Believers] 14 under circumstances
FRANCE [30,000,000 Non-Believers] 15 irrespective


So you see although sex with children is obviously wrong in this modern age, as well as being worthy of moral outrage, it seems a bit concocted to constantly single out Islam for criticism, as though get rid of Islam and *poof* like magic, the problem will disappear.

Now lets look at the figures from the same blog for Christian countries;
"Now let’s look at where the largest populations of say, Catholics live, and spot-light the age, these Christian Catholic countries see fit to condone two consenting adults (or, as we’ll sadly soon find-out, children as well) are capable of making a decision to engage in sexual intercourse.

BRAZIL [150,00,000 Baptised Catholics] 14 if married
MEXICO [ 90,000,000 Baptised Catholics] 12 if married
PHILIPPINES [ 60,000,000 Baptised Catholics] 12 irrespective
ITALY [ 60,000,000 Baptised Catholics] 14 irrespective
USA [55,000,000 Baptised Catholics] 16 varies state by state
"

So you see, making us all atheists or Christians or Bhuddists or whatever is actually not relevant compared to changing underlying sexual attitudes.

If we can convince people that on the basis of modern scientific evidence, modern life expectancies etc prevalent cultural sexual attitudes need to change, if combined with the eradication of poverty then we could solve the problem.
 

Aquitaine

Well-Known Member
Because they were going to be pedophiles regardless of what culture/religion they were? And the "religious authorities" simply use religion to support their own perverted ways? If you switch Christianity with Islam could you see the same thing happening?
What the Bible says about pedophilia

Yes that is true: this isn't a Muslim problem, or even a Christian one. There are people like this all over the world, who will use anything to "justify" their behaviour: Religion, Culture, Politics, Economics etc.

I acknowledge that, however the difference between doing something stupid for say... cultural reasons and doing something stupid for religious reasons is that when religion is involved, it tends to think of itself as "divine" and thus transcends all other "authorities" including common ethics and morality etc.

"Divine permission" to basically be a monster. Culture, Politics and Economic affiliation won't ever dare make such bold "divine" claims to try to justify certain behaviours.

I would tell them to refer to the Quran, and to disregard the writings of men concerning the life of the Prophet.
Ah, but here lies the core problem: who gets to say what is "divine" and "authentic" literature? Sadly, people within the same religion will fight one-another, using scripture to combat other scripture, and that is essentially what has happened earlier in this thread regarding Aisha's marriage to Mohammad.

Quite frankly, I think we should just put all the scripture down; disregarding the writings of men who claim to own divine knowledge of some supreme-being. Anyways, I'm starting to go off-topic here so I apologize. :eek:
 

nash8

Da man, when I walk thru!
1. I dont. I consider both extremely problematic and only part of the problem. The man is a pedophile, the family who has done this to their child is at the least neglectful if not abusive, the culture (whether religious or not) that facilitates it is dysfunctional and that either the legislative systems, the enforcement systems or the judicial systems of the nations involved are a disgrace.

I agree.

2. I dont. I have stated time and again it is the religiously influences cultures, that it is the religious community that it is the way that certain religious interpretations have been implemented. But absolutely there is an extremely valid religious component which does not merely fail to prevent this problem, it actually makes it worse.

How can you hold an inanimate thought responsible for actions of a man?

3. Before I answer this, note I am not a christian. I read the link you posted earlier... which has nothing about the age or development of those in question only that they had not lain with a man. That is VERY different from the example of a child bride (if you so believe her to be) taken by the prophet Muhammad, very very different. Nor does it mention anything about sex with those female 'little ones', it is certainly not implied as overtly as it is in those phrases with regards to the adult female virgins (where it is not in the slightest ambiguous), there are certainly overtones though and were any christian community to do this I would hold that religious philosophy (not the entire religion itself - which you seem to be conflating) to be partially culpable.

Actually one of the quotes talks about the female children and taking them. The Quran does not state the age of Ayesha as far as I can tell, nor does it mention sex with them either. But when you say Islam, you are stating the entire religious community.

Perhaps you are a Quran only Muslim, some are, however that is very very different than suggesting that the Quran is the only source of lore; even if not considered infallible in the same way as the Quran they are most certainly considered a valid source of comprehension about what it means to be a 'good muslim' it is essential in the discussion of morality and ethical codes of behaviour for a very significant portion of the Islamic community.

I am not a Muslim in any traditional sense, if anything I would adhere to Sufism the most. The problem I have is how do you define a religion? If I say I am Buddhist, but I am a serial killer am I a Buddhist? Is religion decided by a certain amount of people acting in a similar manner that claim to be of that religion? If I were to claim that I was a Muslim, and to write an Islamic text saying that Ayesha was 16 when she was married to Mohammed, would that make it a religious text? What is the criteria for a religious text? How many people that claim to be a part of that religion declaring something as true?

Thus comments about how this might have negative implications in terms of potential views about the duty of a child to their parents in accepting their wishes, the acceptance of pedophillia, the rightful place of women as subordinate to men, these are relevant to this discussion even if you disagree with those particular hadith or even the idea of using hadith in the first place.

Are those that deny Hadith's Muslims? Are those that accept them Muslims? If so, where is the line between Islam? If you have a problem with those that accept Hadiths that support child marriage, why not specify, rather than saying Islam supports child marriage?

Sharia is not a religion though you might be reluctant to accept it or might deem it illegitimate, it is one of the many codifications of religious philosophy within the Islamic community (which is far from heterogeneous I know - far from uniform, there are differences and divisions - it still remains a part of the Islamic religious community and the cultural communities so influenced).

Why is Sharia not a religion? Who says it's not? Why do they have the authority to declare what is and what is not a religion? What particular religious communities as it a part of? What religious communities is it not a part of? Where is Sharia more prominent? What are the socioeconomic status where Sharia is more prominent? Does it remain a part of all Islamic religious communities? If Sharia is not part of a particular Islamic community, is the community still Muslim?

And yes, I do blame the religious community for that - though far from equally, some parts (those who practice such vileness) I blame far more heavily, yet those who tolerate it, who do not seek to alleviate the conditions which facilitate or cause such marriages? Yes I blame them too. Not as much as those pedophiles of course, nor their local religious community but that they stood by and allowing some more poor muslim girl (not woman) to be raped by some grubby old man using Islam as their excuse, their justification (not their reason).

If you take out religious of your first statement, I totally agree with you.

And my question is why did they not do something about it?

They are scared for their lives? The fear of personal harm is a strong motivator of people. Would you sacrifice your life for the well-being of another? If the people that promote these ideas have the power to have you killed, would you speak out against it?

If people who are devout carry out heinous acts, one can at least say that their religion is ineffective in preventing those acts.

What religion is not ineffective in preventing henious acts? I would love to see an example.

If the laws of societies dominated by a particular religion pretty much invariably disregard human rights (eg through blasphemy laws, torture etc), even though the underlying cultures differ (eg Afghanistan, Pakistan, Indonesia, Somalia etc), why shouldn't one ascribe that to the religion?

I think you have it ***-backwards. The underlying cultures disregard human rights and those underlying cultures have been attributed to the religion.

It is what people do that counts. Not what is written in their so-called holy books.

Indeed, so how can you blame the religion?

Yes however when they strike out at their so called oppressors the extremist target innocent civilians, and a great deal of moderate Muslims cheer them on excitedly.

The taxi drivers outside Sydney airport were jumping for joy when 911 happened.

do you consider the USA to be oppressors in your oppinion?

Have you seen the statistics on drone strikes? You know America overthrew the first democratically ellected official in Iran? America gave Suddahm Hussein WMD, which he in turn used to eradicate the Kurds, we knew he had them because we gave them too him. He just chose not to use him the way we told him to, which is partly why he was ousted. Of course America is an oppressor.
 

FearGod

Freedom Of Mind
And I have to call bs on that. I don't believe in any cultural relativism. Human rights are for all and everything and everyone is open to criticism. If I see backwardness, barbarity and nonsense, I'm going to speak out about it. Where on the map the people in question tend to be living doesn't mean a damn thing to me.

Should Westerners passively accept or even respect FGM and honor killings as mere "cultural differences", as well? Get real.

No you can't impose your principles on other cultures.

For example in the west (in general) the daughter can work as a prostitute if she wished so,no one can stop her if she wanted to be a porn star.

For me i'll die from such subjugation,i'll spent all my life crying if i know that my lovely daughter has her decision to be """""" by men to gain money,OMG i felt disgusting just to think about it.

it is impossible to impose your culture on the others as Reverend Rick tried to explain it to you.
 

nash8

Da man, when I walk thru!
Yes that is true: this isn't a Muslim problem, or even a Christian one. There are people like this all over the world, who will use anything to "justify" their behaviour: Religion, Culture, Politics, Economics etc.

I acknowledge that, however the difference between doing something stupid for say... cultural reasons and doing something stupid for religious reasons is that when religion is involved, it tends to think of itself as "divine" and thus transcends all other "authorities" including common ethics and morality etc.

"Divine permission" to basically be a monster. Culture, Politics and Economic affiliation won't ever dare make such bold "divine" claims to try to justify certain behaviours.

Ah, but here lies the core problem: who gets to say what is "divine" and "authentic" literature? Sadly, people within the same religion will fight one-another, using scripture to combat other scripture, and that is essentially what has happened earlier in this thread regarding Aisha's marriage to Mohammad.

Quite frankly, I think we should just put all the scripture down; disregarding the writings of men who claim to own divine knowledge of some supreme-being. Anyways, I'm starting to go off-topic here so I apologize. :eek:

Indeed, I agree. My whole argument is that you can't hold the religion responsible because there is no clear definition of what this religion is, much less any other religion. It's like saying all serial killers drink water, are you correct? Most likely, but what does that accomplish?

Therefore if you are going to cite that religion influences an action, which I belief it most assruredly does, cite the specific part within that religion that causes the problem rather than the entirety of the religion itself.
 

danieldemol

Veteran Member
Premium Member
For me i'll die from such subjugation,i'll spent all my life crying if i know that my lovely daughter has her decision to be """""" by men to gain money,OMG i felt disgusting just to think about it.

That is exactly what happened in the case of this child bride. Her parents allowed their lovely daughter to be raped by a man to death for material benefits.
 

Aquitaine

Well-Known Member
Indeed, I agree. My whole argument is that you can't hold the religion responsible because there is no clear definition of what this religion is, much less any other religion. It's like saying all serial killers drink water, are you correct? Most likely, but what does that accomplish?

Therefore if you are going to cite that religion influences an action, which I belief it most assuredly does, cite the specific part within that religion that causes the problem rather than the entirety of the religion itself.

In that case then, I suppose the "specific part" with (in this case) the religions of Abrahamic Monotheism which can add to the problem, is the interpretation of "divine permission". I'll admit that a pretty broad thing to say, but think about - I can do this because it's God's will/I have God's permission etc.

That is why I say we can judge a society's religious influence on stuff like this, rather than just poverty, lack of education, culture etc. Religion may not be the primary factor, but it is one that cannot just be dismissed, at least in my opinion. :shrug:
 

Reverend Rick

Frubal Whore
Premium Member
Folks, FearGod has called this man a monster. He is in agreement and holds contempt for this man's actions.

There is no way you can group 2 billion people responsible for the actions of this man.

This is a world forum and we have over 50,000 members and no one has made an attempt to excuse these terrible actions.

As far as I can tell, we are all in agreement here, (did I just say that?).
 

Poeticus

| abhyAvartin |
Folks, FearGod has called this man a monster. He is in agreement and holds contempt for this man's actions.

There is no way you can group 2 billion people responsible for the actions of this man.

This is a world forum and we have over 50,000 members and no one has made an attempt to excuse these terrible actions.

As far as I can tell, we are all in agreement here, (did I just say that?).

Even though I am not a Muslim, I appreciate you trying to make that point clear. Nowhere in his posts, does FearGod, nor Assad91, justify the actions of the horrid man mentioned in the OP. I believe, if I recall correctly, it was a moderator who first brought up the involvement of Islam - intertwining it with the societal practices of rural Yemen.

I believe apologies are to be due in order. Either way, I apologize on the behalf of various members that shall go unnamed for the ad hominems FearGod and Assad91 experienced.
 

danieldemol

Veteran Member
Premium Member


In that case then, I suppose the "specific part" with (in this case) the religions of Abrahamic Monotheism which can add to the problem, is the interpretation of "divine permission". I'll admit that a pretty broad thing to say, but think about - I can do this because it's God's will/I have God's permission etc.

That is why I say we can judge a society's religious influence on stuff like this, rather than just poverty, lack of education, culture etc. Religion may not be the primary factor, but it is one that cannot just be dismissed, at least in my opinion. :shrug:

Lol, there is nothing specific about "Abrahamic monotheism" or "divine permission", and since none of these logically necessitate the acceptance of child marriage in modern times, I believe you are pulling your own leg.

The Baha'i faith is Abrahamic/Monotheistic, and forbids child marriage.

If you disagree, prove me wrong!
 
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