Your claim is clear, I was asking about the reasoning behind it
Behind what? Why many women are choosing to be voluntarily celibate? That's an entirely different topic, but I will give it a very quick summation. I will have to make some generalization, and that means there will be exceptions. The things I'm about will be statistically true, meaning that I'm referring to the top of the bell shaped curve. It does NOT mean that it is true of 100% of women.
Some of it is that they are simply sick to death of hookup culture. Women are wired a little bit differently than men. Men can have casual sex the way they can pee. Women connect sex to EMOTIONAL intimacy. When a woman has sex, it releases all sorts of hormones such as oxytocin that bond her to the person she is having sex with. This is why you hear so many stories about "Well, it was supposed to be just sex, but I fell in love." Again, these are only generalizations. There are men who are also dissatisfied with hookup culture, who also want more than just casual sex. But this is more typical of women than men.
Some of it is what men want these days from a sexual partner. Porn has become incredibly common. Women do watch porn, but nearly to the degree that men watch it. Porn has trained men to expect and desire certain things: men expect women to shave which makes them look like children, expect anal sex, expect to use choking, etc., etc. Most women do not want these things. They do it because they feel pressured into it. Again, there are some women who are truly fine with it. We are talking here about women in general. And quite frankly, these women are getting sick and tired of having to do things they don't like.
Let me give you a scenario that I have heard so many times. She goes out on a date with him. They go back to his place or hers for drinks. He puts his hand on her thigh. She removes it. It happens again and she removes it again. But he is persistent. At this point, she realizes this is getting out of hand, and becomes
scared. It is obvious he isn't accepting NO as an answer. She is afraid if she puts up a fuss, that it will get very ugly very fast. So she acquiesces rather than end up beaten or worse.
After enough of those experiences, whether it happens one time or ten times, women simply decide it just isn't worth it to continue dating.
Next, women are becoming voluntarily celibate because they are tired of relationships that are unequal, where they become the mommy for a man-child, or where he is emotionally or physically abusive. How many frogs should you have to kiss to find a prince? Not every woman has a good "picker," and after a while, they just get tired of frogs.
And finally, there are women who are religious, and want to wait for marriage. Since that is no longer the culture, and dating relationships now imply having sex, these women simply stop dating.
I'm gonna give you a few sample sites. It's just a start. I have read
extensively on this topic, and I can't reproduces that for you in an online forum. If you want more, you would do well to research this more on your own, so that you can look for whatever specifics you personally want.
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"The rise of voluntary celibacy: ‘Most of the sex I’ve had, I wish I hadn’t bothered’"
More and more people are choosing to go without sex. And, in many cases, they’ve never been happier
www.theguardian.com
"A lot of women don’t enjoy hookup culture—so why do we force ourselves to participate?"
"My girlfriends and I were top students, scientists, artists and leaders. We could advocate for anything—except for our own bodies."
qz.com
"Frustrated with hookup culture, Gen Z women are swearing off sex and entering their 'celibacy era'"
Gen Z women are 'taking back their power' by voluntarily quitting sex for nonreligious reasons. Some experts think it may not be the right choice.
www.businessinsider.com
"The dark side of hookup culture for women"
As college students, many of us have experienced or are familiar with hookup culture. Hookup culture is based on sexual intimacy paired with outward rejection of any emotional connection to accompany that physical relationship. The prevalence of this culture for college students can be...
www.michigandaily.com
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Risk avoidance appears to be a particularly common motivation for women to pursue voluntary celibacy today. "
How common is it for people to take a break from sex and dating? Why do so many people today seem to be doing it? And are they happy with their decision to abstain?
www.psychologytoday.com
"In addition to religious or spiritual reasons for choosing celibacy, New York City sex therapist Stephen Snyder, MD, author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship, says there is a trend among heterosexual women whose relationships with men have left them discouraged and annoyed. "
The topic of celibacy and the choice to abstain from sex has gained a lot of buzz in the past several months as more and more young people are voluntarily taking a break from doing the deed. But why? And what are the implications for mental health?
www.verywellmind.com
"All of the abstinent women in my research talked about how the main driver of their abstinence was the fact that
having sex with men felt like it would be too much of a risk. The women described a feeling that having sex would be tantamount to a loss of self."