But this is the crux of the issue we're discussing, i.e. culpability. The effect on the victims can be terrible, and that's why rape is considered so serious. I am not for an instant suggesting otherwise.
However, guilt and responsibility aren't determined by the effect on the victim. And yes, I'll be first to agree that's a ****ty deal for the victim in such cases, but what does it achieve punishing someone for something that they weren't responsible, or less responsible, for? Consider; manslaughter, second degree murder and first degree murder. All three have equal effects on the victims and their loved ones, however they are all treated very differently. Someone fiddling with the radio and running a red light and killing someone could be charged with vehicular homicide, but the victim is just as dead as the victim of a premeditated, cold blooded murder. Should they both recieve the same punishment?
Further, I don't know about you, but I believe in the idea of reform, and judging people based on their collected good and bad qualities, not cherry picking a single event from 40 years ago, at least, not if it isn't part of an ongoing pattern of behaviour.
I ask again, what's the worst thing you ever did as a kid, and would it be fair if it were brought up at your next job interview?