Its not abuse only in false reasonings of ones who point the finger everywhere but at self. Being stoned to death one can never repent. Being disfellowshipped--one can repent and turn back. Its all on self to do so. Self is the blame for being disfellowshipped--no one elses. They point the finger at every one else.
Beating someone into a confession is beating someone into a confession — no matter what pretty, churchy nomenclature is pasted onto it. Disfellowshipping someone is deprivation, and deprivation is abuse. It’s what was done to black slaves in America in the 19th century. It’s what Germany did to Jews in the 20th. Now religious groups are doing it to people whom they would coerce into a certain viewpoint. It’s insidious, it’s abusive, and it’s evil. Take away friends, family, emotional support and then wait them out until they can’t stand it anymore, and would say anything they think the group want to hear, just to get their relationships restored. Jesus certainly would not approve of such tactics of coercion.
“Being ‘disfellowshipped’ — one is expected to crack and return to the ‘party line.’” That’s what it really is. It’s not all on the self, because it’s not all about the self — life is about
relationship. God lives in the spaces between us, and when you deprive someone of that space, you deprive someone of. God.
The group has taken way God — not the individual. And then the finger is pointed at the individual, casting aspersions on her or his “spiritual condition.”