Most unwanted pregnancies are due to the irresponsibility of men and women who willingly take a known and unnecessary risk to satisfy themselves. Willing sexual partners are not slaves or hostages, and are not the victims when the murder of an innocent party is the end result of their actions.
But I will admit that sometimes women are victims in another sense, especially young ones who are pressured against their consciences to get abortions at a time when they are stressed out and confused. I know some women who had abortions when they were young, and have been haunted ever since with a remorse that will never go away.
This can be very unhealthy, though (see below from US News):
When You Want To, But Don’t
Abstinence can become unhealthy – psychologically – when you want to have sex but aren’t. “People will say, ‘I want to but I’m shy,’ or ‘I don’t know how to approach people.’ That’s really hard for people and can make them feel awful about themselves.”
And the anxiety of unfulfilled desire, coupled with the pressure to have sex – whether it’s societal or self-inflicted – can become a vicious cycle, Herbenick adds. Those types of behavioral trends can start early. Studies looking at when people began having sex found that those who started late – mid-20s to early 30s – were more likely to suffer from anxiety that may prevent them from having sex. “If you’re so anxious you can’t try online dating,” it is not abstinence that will pose a health issue, but the anxiety or depression it causes.
“If a person strongly desires but is unable to because they are unwell physically, or can’t find a partner, that is distressing,” Lindau says, adding that doctors aren’t usually the ear for that type of malaise. “Normally they take that to a friend or a psychologist.”