Vasilisa Jade
Formerly Saint Tigeress
Since I am suprising myself on how serious I am actually considering this... I figured I should post here so that I can think this through a little more in depth, with the input of my bestest best varietal group of intellegent internet friends. I'll try to keep this short and concise.
I work now at AT&T Mobility and Chili's Bar and Grill, sales rep/ server. AT&T alone wasn't cutting it and I had to start serving agian. I have two college classes left. I can't take them because of my schedule. If I fix my schedule (quitting serving) I can't take them cause of money... even with a pell grant. (Last year AT&T cut our pay). For over a month I have been working 6-7 days a week with at least one double shift. For the last year I have been averaging a minimum of 6-7 shifts a week with 1-2 days off. 2 days at best but I will still have double shifts.
I can't do this forever and I don't have the strength to do it and finish college at the same time. My grades would suffer horribly.
I can't replace waitressing with anything better cause my shifts at AT&T are so, all over the dam place it would be impossible to have somewhere work with it. I am lucky Chili's does. Even then I would be in the same boat. Working too much.
I have looked into replacing AT&T with something better. Problem is that I have been there for 2+ years, I have 4+ years experience in sales, wherever I went would be like starting seniority over agian. I would be the newbie. I would take a pay cut. Benefits might not be as good. *When a company starts laying off people they lay off the newbies.* That's the biggie. I have job security right now and I can't give it up with the way the economy is.
Sooo... here are my ultimate goals:
1. Finish college. I want my masters.
2. Get away from waitressing. It's the worst job in the world and drives me insane.
3.Make equal or greater income without sacrificing pay or benefits.
4. Get down to 2-3 days off a week like normal so I can complete school without going gray.
I thought for so long this was an impossible set of goals, that I lack the strength and determination to achieve...
Then me, my boyfriend, my best friend and her boyfriend went to a strip club an hour and a half away.
It was off in the cut down a side road with hardly a sign. It looked like an old pretty stone church. It was a club/restaurant/bar/strip club. All the guy employees were waering black and white tux looking clothes. When you walk in it doesn't even look like a strip club. When the girls weren't dancing they wore pretty black gown dresses. I didn't even know they were the dancers. All the guys inside were clean and middle-upper class looking...(not that you have to actually be middle-upper class to look that way). There was one stage with two poles and it was bottoms on and some of the girls even left thier top on! It seemes optional. They definitely weren't the newbies. And guys were not allowed to touch them. This is the coolest part... the girls were all tattooed and pierced and they played rock and metal. They were healthy, didn't look drugged out, and even looked like they were having fun. The other girls in the gowns would go up to the stage and have thier friends I guess dance on them, and once I saw a girl plop down right there indian style and chat for a second. The VIP room where the girls get naked was by INVITATION ONLY! The girl has to not only like the guys money, but like the guy as well. My boyfriend has a friend who's girlfriend works there. She said she averages 500-700 a night. She's experienced, but still.
So...
I don't have to get naked. No one touches me. I just dance and I get paid. Hell I'll go topless I don't care about boobs. I don't have to take my bottoms off, that's the big point. And there were bouncers everywhere. I could work friday night and saturday night, do a quarter of the work and make ten times the money. It would satisfy all my goals.
Here's the only cons:
1. My boyfriend. He's not jealous but I know deep down he's way too concerned about his image and what others think of him. I know jealosy would be minimal.
2. The image/title. People don't think, "Exotic Dancer." They think "Stripper/Whore"
I could care less. I'm focused and not dirty in any way. But my boyfriend would care about my image, and him being with me. I know it.
Most of the usual cons associated with that job don't apply to this club.
This is what I told my boyfriend:
I have goals, and I am going to do what I need to do to accomplish them. If I can do it without breaking my back and having anxiety attacks, all and all way easier than I originally imagined, I am jumping on it and getting it done. If he can make more than 30-40 grand a year so that he can help me help myself instead, or think of a better idea I'll welcome it. Until then... this a pretty good win-win situation. I am not going to kill myself working my butt off, still not getting far enough ahead as I need to be, so that his sensibilities can be pampered and whatever traces of jealosy unchecked and not tampered with, WHEN I don't HAVE to do so.
My friends all think it's a cool idea. Even my dad is cool with it. He's just concerned about safety. I figure, it'll take me about 3-6 months to get into good shape if I follow through with it. (I get in shape and stay in shape... another perk) By then if I still think it's a good idea I'm gonna audition. I weigh 130 lbs and I'm 5'3". All my fat goes to my hips and thighs. So I'm changing my diet, running, using ankle weights, free weights and a jump rope. I can already feel a difference in just a week. I am also going to put a pole in my room. I didn't realize how good of a workout they are. There are entire excerisise programs designed around them that have nothing to do with stripping.
Okay I'm done. What say you? Any pros or cons I'm missing?
I work now at AT&T Mobility and Chili's Bar and Grill, sales rep/ server. AT&T alone wasn't cutting it and I had to start serving agian. I have two college classes left. I can't take them because of my schedule. If I fix my schedule (quitting serving) I can't take them cause of money... even with a pell grant. (Last year AT&T cut our pay). For over a month I have been working 6-7 days a week with at least one double shift. For the last year I have been averaging a minimum of 6-7 shifts a week with 1-2 days off. 2 days at best but I will still have double shifts.
I can't do this forever and I don't have the strength to do it and finish college at the same time. My grades would suffer horribly.
I can't replace waitressing with anything better cause my shifts at AT&T are so, all over the dam place it would be impossible to have somewhere work with it. I am lucky Chili's does. Even then I would be in the same boat. Working too much.
I have looked into replacing AT&T with something better. Problem is that I have been there for 2+ years, I have 4+ years experience in sales, wherever I went would be like starting seniority over agian. I would be the newbie. I would take a pay cut. Benefits might not be as good. *When a company starts laying off people they lay off the newbies.* That's the biggie. I have job security right now and I can't give it up with the way the economy is.
Sooo... here are my ultimate goals:
1. Finish college. I want my masters.
2. Get away from waitressing. It's the worst job in the world and drives me insane.
3.Make equal or greater income without sacrificing pay or benefits.
4. Get down to 2-3 days off a week like normal so I can complete school without going gray.
I thought for so long this was an impossible set of goals, that I lack the strength and determination to achieve...
Then me, my boyfriend, my best friend and her boyfriend went to a strip club an hour and a half away.
It was off in the cut down a side road with hardly a sign. It looked like an old pretty stone church. It was a club/restaurant/bar/strip club. All the guy employees were waering black and white tux looking clothes. When you walk in it doesn't even look like a strip club. When the girls weren't dancing they wore pretty black gown dresses. I didn't even know they were the dancers. All the guys inside were clean and middle-upper class looking...(not that you have to actually be middle-upper class to look that way). There was one stage with two poles and it was bottoms on and some of the girls even left thier top on! It seemes optional. They definitely weren't the newbies. And guys were not allowed to touch them. This is the coolest part... the girls were all tattooed and pierced and they played rock and metal. They were healthy, didn't look drugged out, and even looked like they were having fun. The other girls in the gowns would go up to the stage and have thier friends I guess dance on them, and once I saw a girl plop down right there indian style and chat for a second. The VIP room where the girls get naked was by INVITATION ONLY! The girl has to not only like the guys money, but like the guy as well. My boyfriend has a friend who's girlfriend works there. She said she averages 500-700 a night. She's experienced, but still.
So...
I don't have to get naked. No one touches me. I just dance and I get paid. Hell I'll go topless I don't care about boobs. I don't have to take my bottoms off, that's the big point. And there were bouncers everywhere. I could work friday night and saturday night, do a quarter of the work and make ten times the money. It would satisfy all my goals.
Here's the only cons:
1. My boyfriend. He's not jealous but I know deep down he's way too concerned about his image and what others think of him. I know jealosy would be minimal.
2. The image/title. People don't think, "Exotic Dancer." They think "Stripper/Whore"
I could care less. I'm focused and not dirty in any way. But my boyfriend would care about my image, and him being with me. I know it.
Most of the usual cons associated with that job don't apply to this club.
This is what I told my boyfriend:
I have goals, and I am going to do what I need to do to accomplish them. If I can do it without breaking my back and having anxiety attacks, all and all way easier than I originally imagined, I am jumping on it and getting it done. If he can make more than 30-40 grand a year so that he can help me help myself instead, or think of a better idea I'll welcome it. Until then... this a pretty good win-win situation. I am not going to kill myself working my butt off, still not getting far enough ahead as I need to be, so that his sensibilities can be pampered and whatever traces of jealosy unchecked and not tampered with, WHEN I don't HAVE to do so.
My friends all think it's a cool idea. Even my dad is cool with it. He's just concerned about safety. I figure, it'll take me about 3-6 months to get into good shape if I follow through with it. (I get in shape and stay in shape... another perk) By then if I still think it's a good idea I'm gonna audition. I weigh 130 lbs and I'm 5'3". All my fat goes to my hips and thighs. So I'm changing my diet, running, using ankle weights, free weights and a jump rope. I can already feel a difference in just a week. I am also going to put a pole in my room. I didn't realize how good of a workout they are. There are entire excerisise programs designed around them that have nothing to do with stripping.
Okay I'm done. What say you? Any pros or cons I'm missing?