I agree. The very strange thing about people is that our internal thought life is completely separate from our external actions and speech, but sometimes we lose the ability to perceive that or autonomy or in some way are afraid to be who we are, to be ourselves. For example in a slave ( a real slave ) this ability is often damaged. They're afraid to keep secrets or afraid people can see their thoughts, afraid to try anything, afraid to leave their master. To a lesser extent this can happen to free people. They lose themselves. This appears to be an area where a little sex play or porn can help people, that is according to a documentary I watched.