But we are not comparing to a single lifestyle or a 'supposed' monogamous one. We are comparing open marriages to monogamous marriages. The cheating factor (and not revealing all information) would be a wash between the two situations.
Personally, I thought we were comparing open marriages to all sexual lifestyles, ie, if this sort of sexual behavior is already accepted, than why shouldn't that sort of sexual behavior also be accepted.
lunamoth said:
The more open, the more partners involved, the less control there is over the transmission of STDs among those involved. It really is a numbers game. If the relationship is open, it is also open to the introduction of STDs from some third- or fourth-hand connection.
I will concede that it is probable that the more sexual partners you have, the greater risk you have of contracting an STD. However, how much of that is simple correlation, and not causation? For example, I still find it likely that ultimately, smart sex with many partners has a better batting average than dumb sex with less partners. But, perhaps dumb people are more likely to have more sexual partners, hence raising the correlation.
Also note that the correlation is the number of sexual partners you have had that increases your risk of STD, not the sort of relationship you were in when you had them. If you are currently in a monogomous relationship, but had 4 sexual partners before you married your husband, you have had a total of 5 partners. If I, on the other hand, only had 1 sexual partner before I entered into an open relationship, and then procede to have 3 partners during that relationship, I still will only have had 5 sexual partners-- the exact same number as you. Our risk for contracting an STD was exactly the same.
lunamoth said:
Is it safer than a sexually active single person - sure. Is it safer than a monogamous marriage - no. Is there a cost to society associated with increased STDs? Yes. Thus the moral connection.
By the same reasoning, you must also conclude that it is immoral to be a sexually active single person, no? And if we already accept that, then why not this?
In addition, I believe that open relationships have the ability to make our attitudes about sex healthier. Instead of the current sneaking around going on in many marriages, you have an acceptable way to release some of that excess horniness. It could put sexual spice back into marriages-- there is an excitement about a new partner that is hard to match in a tried-and-true one, but the tried-and-true knows you better and there is the comfort and deep love associated. Playing the two off of each other could help you appreciate your husband/wife all the more. So, there also may be a benefit to society as well.
Um, you do know genital herpies is skin-to-skin so even wearing a condom won't protect you. As far as the comparison I am referring to how risky having an open relationship is. There is no gurantee either way sure, but there is a greater risk if this so-called open relationship allows for multiple partners {assuming those involved are not drug users}.
I didn't know that actually. Thanks. (Upon looking it up, a condom doesn't provide 100% protection against contracting herpes, but it does provide some.) As for the rest, see above.