I guess I'm saying if someone wants to present their entity as the real McCoy, I simply ask they show their work.
Fair enough. But what happens next?
If you stand unconvinced, then what?
With all due respect, I don't think that there are many people willing to reconsider their beliefs because they have not convinced you. Unless you happen to be some form of religious authority that the believer accepts as such, of course.
Categories can be useful. Generalities can be an adequate statistical representation of an observed case. Can other details be lost, or can we lose site of important information along the borders of two categories, certainly.
That is true enough of subjects of consensual reality.
Deities are simply not likely to be a part of that group. Often enough their reason for being includes either transcendence of those limitations or failure to be coherent enough to qualify.
Perhaps it would have been better for me to use the singular. So instead of my saying, "that believers want to claim", I said, "when a believer in a specific entity wants to claim", thereby focusing on the specific case instead of a broad generalization. Or perhaps I am missing your point entirely.
In all honesty and with all respect, I think that we are simply starting from dissimilar understandings of what deities are and what they are supposed to be, and neither of us has any significant motivation towards bridging that gap.
Mainly, I also suspect, because we do not use those concepts for very similar purposes.
I am interested in encouraging religious people to transcend god-beliefs entirely - not so that they become non-theists, but rather in the hope that they develop better, more solid and more constructive forms of religiosity.
At the end of the day, I just don't find the words "god" and "deity" worth of salvaging. Too much trouble, hardly any benefit.
I am not entirely sure of your own perspective, but it seems to have a lot more time and consideration for those two concepts than I am willing to give them.
In a nutshell, I think that it is well worth disregarding deities in order to understand and even protect the religious doctrines and practicioners when the need arises. You seem to hold the deities as much less questionable and much more solid and trustworthy concepts than I ever attempted to.