It's interesting that you ask a question ("chastity or promiscuity, which is best") as if there were a single answer that fits all people.
I question that premise, actually.
I question that premise, actually.
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Really? No it's on the same level actually. They share the same boat.
We do? No we don't.
You may not agree that there is evidence for God, just as I don't agree there is evidence of LUCA, but disagreement never killed no one.
The whole problem though, is that this comes with the risk of kids. That's a big part of why marriage was always traditionally so essential, so I guess these people doing it outside marriage better have a solid plan for that possibility. Do they both agree 100% to abort, or will they marry if it happens. So the bonding is not free from some very serious risk assessment. So long as they have it figured out, they can do what they want
I agree, but no one here is fighting. I don't fight Satan's world. I am just speaking.I guess I'd argue that since promiscuity seems so natural and so prominent in today's times, (at least in western culture) my conclusion is why fight it? I often wonder how this can possibly be a christian culture where people act and dress as they do, they are clearly more and more carnally blatant, so it must be such a jarring uphill argument for those with your views. I let this stuff go a long time ago
I don't think Christianity ever really took this kind of thing seriously for long anyway.
Wouldn’t all women be safer in a world that practised chastity before marriage? Women please have your say.
For instance [in the future] should a woman ..., who is unsurpassed in her beauty and adorned with the most exquisite and priceless jewels, travel unveiled and alone, from the east of the world to the west thereof, passing through every land and journeying in all countries, there would be such a standard of justice, trustworthiness and faith on the one hand, and lack of treachery and degradation on the other, that no one would be found who would wish to rob her of her possessions or to cast a treacherous and lustful eye upon her beauteous chastity!...’ Baha’u’llah
I would add gays to that.Would you apply exactly the same definition of chastity or promiscuity to men as well as women?
It is still not accurate, because you have information. Something that is not accurate is inaccurate... Just like an inaccurate source.An educated guess is a guess supported by information. An inaccurate source is...inaccurate.
Everything.What in particular?
No. I was disagreeing with your claim that there is no evidence of God, and I think we have enough evidence to know where marriage originated, also.A better way of putting this is that we don't agree on what evidence is suitable for the claim being put forth. In this case, the biological roots of marriage to support the idea that it is a universal human interest has more tangible proof than the claim that it is a dogmatic institution rooted in the cultural needs of a a single group of people because it says so in a book claimed to be the word of a being worshipped by that group.
I am not saying this is right, per se, only that my claim has more substance to it for a secular culture.
Actually, throughout human history, we have not done that. The rules were always very different for men and women.Would you apply exactly the same definition of chastity or promiscuity to men as well as women?
I've been faithful to my lover for over 25 years now.I would add gays to that.
Actually, throughout human history, we have not done that. The rules were always very different for men and women.
The opening scene of Shakespeare's King Lear gives a classic example, where the Duke of Gloucester admits that he has a son out of wedlock, but makes it clear that this is normal for men, but not for women. As he says,
"But I have, sir, a son by order of law, some year
elder than this, who yet is no dearer in my account:
though this knave came something saucily into the
world before he was sent for, yet was his mother
fair; there was good sport at his making, and the
whoreson must be acknowledged."
Isn't what he's doing is saying "I was okay having good sport with this woman, but she, obviously, was a whore for letting me?"
I've been faithful to my lover for over 25 years now.
I'm not expecting a reward or prize. And the trophy could only be really, really tacky.
Exactly my point, so for the purposes of this thread, would you apply exactly the same definition of chastity or promiscuity to men as well as women?
It is still not accurate, because you have information. Something that is not accurate is inaccurate... Just like an inaccurate source.
No difference.
Everything.
No. I was disagreeing with your claim that there is no evidence of God, and I think we have enough evidence to know where marriage originated, also.
Promiscuity is so rampant, that people think it is okay to sleep around with every Tom, Dick, and Harry, and then go home to their mate and children. I find it sickening and disgusting.
And what about the children born from such selfish unions?
It's not good for society...it leads to unloved children, who then grow up selfish themselves and uncaring, one step from petty criminal behavior.
It explains a lot in this world.
Ultimately, yeah. And so to sink one's mind into trying to understand someone else's behavior is to enter a blackhole. Let the chaste be chaste and the promiscuous be promiscuous, I guess.
But I do tend to wonder about the relationships some people get into. Like why would my old friend get with a guy (who I also know) who has kids by like 3 other women who he left behind. That kind of thing bothers me a little bit if I think too much about it. But they both are promiscuous, so hey, why not right. I think it most likely won't last, but these people probably have hearts of steel that can no longer broken in a sense. Perhaps chastity saves you from morphing into a certain kind of person that you might not want to become, as the promiscuous risk becoming essentially bored from love.
The whole problem though, is that this comes with the risk of kids. That's a big part of why marriage was always traditionally so essential, so I guess these people doing it outside marriage better have a solid plan for that possibility. Do they both agree 100% to abort, or will they marry if it happens. So the bonding is not free from some very serious risk assessment. So long as they have it figured out, they can do what they want
Theorizing?There is a difference between theorizing based off of tested data and making a claim based on a religious text. One is based off information--providing a level of accuracy as long as the data is sound--and the other is based off an assumption based on religious bias.
I have no problem with adaptation... but adaptation to what?Not likely. Adaptation in life forms is well established, as is the survival of certain innate response mechanisms through these adaptations. Likewise, it can be shown that culture arises through advances of technology.
For one thing, history and the Bible - considering how far back we can trace the history of marriage.Then what is your evidence of God (specificallyfor this argument, that this being is the word of truth in your view of marriage)? And what is the evidence of where marriage originated?
You didn't ask me but ...I do personally. To not would be such a double standard.