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Riders
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Alisha is a nurses aid.Some nurses aids are mean.
When I was 21 I was in love with the idea of nursing. Helping people almost seemed llike a mission.
I got a job as a nurses aid at an old folks home .In 1988 nursing homes did not require you to be licensed as a nurses aid to get the job.
But they could enter you into a program and after 10 days of training you could take a test and get your license.
After 2 days I was so disgusted and freaked out from changing diapers I almost flew away after I quit,I grew wings and flew out decided nursing is not my thing.
When I was 21 I was in love with the idea of nursing. Helping people almost seemed llike a mission.
I got a job as a nurses aid at an old folks home .In 1988 nursing homes did not require you to be licensed as a nurses aid to get the job.
But they could enter you into a program and after 10 days of training you could take a test and get your license.
After 2 days I was so disgusted and freaked out from changing diapers I almost flew away after I quit,I grew wings and flew out decided nursing is not my thing.
I changed adult diapers for over a decade.
I was just a direct care staff. Group home work for the severely disabled. It wasn't what I wanted to get into; it was the first place that called when I was putting in applications. I needed a job. So, that's what I did.
Riders
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Continued: pain so much I tried to get her to use meditation from the meditation videos on youtube:
with breathing techniques.she said it made her headache pain worse.So I told her I'd get some beautiful music instead.I played the them song to Twin Peaks she loved it and went to sleep.
She asked me several times if I was her room mate and if I was planning on leaving.
She asked her son tonight if he'd talk me into staying She thought I was leaving.
He said no she's not going anywhere she's stuck like you. She said ok.
with breathing techniques.she said it made her headache pain worse.So I told her I'd get some beautiful music instead.I played the them song to Twin Peaks she loved it and went to sleep.
She asked me several times if I was her room mate and if I was planning on leaving.
She asked her son tonight if he'd talk me into staying She thought I was leaving.
He said no she's not going anywhere she's stuck like you. She said ok.
Riders
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I feel a little bit of darkness in my nursing home
There's 2 or 3 people who cry out for help now and then
I really think the staff may give them drugs to calm them down.
Where are they're families?
My room mate trusts me asks alot of questions when she's scared.it makes me feel good but I don't want to be too attached to her.
I just. Hope this week when instart getting up into my chair I can make progress
There's 2 or 3 people who cry out for help now and then
I really think the staff may give them drugs to calm them down.
Where are they're families?
My room mate trusts me asks alot of questions when she's scared.it makes me feel good but I don't want to be too attached to her.
I just. Hope this week when instart getting up into my chair I can make progress
Riders
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Ok sometimes I want to journal about Celebreties.Dennis Quade he's starring in the new movie about Reagan.I always liked him in Parent Trap The Big Easy and Great Balls Of Fire
.He did well in those I had a crush on him in The Big Easy because he played a Cajun cop in Luisianna.
Alot of folks in my Pentecostal Church were Cajun.
So anyways I heard he became Christian in part because of a drug addiction.
I don't have a problem with that I'm still considering Christianity too.but he probably won't be playing in any movies like The Big Easy with sex in it anymore.
I wonder how he feels about that now. Has anyone seen the new Reagan movie yet did you like it?
.He did well in those I had a crush on him in The Big Easy because he played a Cajun cop in Luisianna.
Alot of folks in my Pentecostal Church were Cajun.
So anyways I heard he became Christian in part because of a drug addiction.
I don't have a problem with that I'm still considering Christianity too.but he probably won't be playing in any movies like The Big Easy with sex in it anymore.
I wonder how he feels about that now. Has anyone seen the new Reagan movie yet did you like it?
Riders
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Ms Glendas sons were here today they recommended me to watch Mercy Me about this Christian pop group
Riders
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Ok so I was watching the Drew Barrymore show in the morning.
I saw one celebrity who had stayed unmarried their whole life.
She claimed that she had been harassed and persecuted for being single.
So I had put couple threads upm here a few years back about feeling attacked by the Christian church for being single.
She did nor bring religion into it so I think I will put it up under general debates.
I saw one celebrity who had stayed unmarried their whole life.
She claimed that she had been harassed and persecuted for being single.
So I had put couple threads upm here a few years back about feeling attacked by the Christian church for being single.
She did nor bring religion into it so I think I will put it up under general debates.
I saw one celebrity who had stayed unmarried their whole life.
She claimed that she had been harassed and persecuted for being single.
So I had put couple threads upm here a few years back about feeling attacked by the Christian church for being single.
She did nor bring religion into it so I think I will put it up under general debates.
Ok so I was watching the Drew Barrymore show in the morning.
I saw one celebrity who had stayed unmarried their whole life.
She claimed that she had been harassed and persecuted for being single.
So I had put couple threads upm here a few years back about feeling attacked by the Christian church for being single.
She did nor bring religion into it so I think I will put it up under general debates.
Riders
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I really think some people believe it's a woman's job to get pregnant multiply your fruit make the world bigger.
Anyways another day Drew had another single lady. On being single Drew said it's not like I need all the domination of having a male companion and his masculinity.
I do think men tend to be dom inant by nature. When I was into
My sex addiction I was a little bit into BDSM.So I identified with being submissive . Tobecontinued
Anyways another day Drew had another single lady. On being single Drew said it's not like I need all the domination of having a male companion and his masculinity.
I do think men tend to be dom inant by nature. When I was into
My sex addiction I was a little bit into BDSM.So I identified with being submissive . Tobecontinued
Riders
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So anyways yea I miss the presence of a dominant protective masculine man .
But and Drew and her guest took back the statement that they didn't miss it in their life.
Personally I'm getting use to not having men in my life.I have my room mate Ms Glenda who is buddy's with me.
There are men here. One of them held my hand for a few seconds.
I have been using Craigslist but not for dating.I had an ad up under activity partner section.
I ask for a chat buddy who will talk about politics and religion only nothing else.No sex no dating talk.
I had a couple of men I liked for a couple of weeks
They dropped out after 2
Or 3 weeks but it was a good experience.There was no sex or romance talk I enjoyed it. Being in the presence of a man is enough
But and Drew and her guest took back the statement that they didn't miss it in their life.
Personally I'm getting use to not having men in my life.I have my room mate Ms Glenda who is buddy's with me.
There are men here. One of them held my hand for a few seconds.
I have been using Craigslist but not for dating.I had an ad up under activity partner section.
I ask for a chat buddy who will talk about politics and religion only nothing else.No sex no dating talk.
I had a couple of men I liked for a couple of weeks
They dropped out after 2
Or 3 weeks but it was a good experience.There was no sex or romance talk I enjoyed it. Being in the presence of a man is enough
Riders
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oh man i think theyre trying to keep me fat so they can keep me here longer. If my nursing home can make me fat they can keep me sick sand keep me here longer. They gave us these to die for sugar cookies for desert and will probably leave them out for snacks tonight. I only had one for dinner and I have to say no tonight. its hard but i can do it. ive been on my fooddplan for 2 days.
Riders
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I have been single my whole life and I am 57. I have had people ask me how I can be happy alone. I had a friend J. Who told me my sisters did not love me or ant me and I had no one who liked me except her, she liked me so without her I'd be alone.
I am now in a nursing home I don't know how long for. I h Hopefully leave one day. Bu if I have to stay forever consider this.
I am not alone here, I've made friends. I have a family who loves me that contact me regular. But if I were alone, I would be fine. I am Christian and a Zen practitioner.
For religious folk, I have God me, my breathing meditation, my internet computer and cell phone. But even without all that I can pray meditate read my bible watch religious material on tv exercise eat right do over eater's anonymous meetings on the computer and I will be ok, if I do that all day, I will be happy even alone,
I saw a tv show that showed a man who had gotten older i think in his 60s in prison for a crime he did not commit. They finally solved the crime and let him out. A reporter asked him why he wasn't bitter that he had almost given a lot of his life up for a crime he did not commit.
He said you can either make prison a hell hole or make it a Buddhist Meditation retreat, You can claim that for any religion.
If you serve God all day make your situation into a religious temple you can live anywhere in any situation.
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I am now in a nursing home I don't know how long for. I h Hopefully leave one day. Bu if I have to stay forever consider this.
I am not alone here, I've made friends. I have a family who loves me that contact me regular. But if I were alone, I would be fine. I am Christian and a Zen practitioner.
For religious folk, I have God me, my breathing meditation, my internet computer and cell phone. But even without all that I can pray meditate read my bible watch religious material on tv exercise eat right do over eater's anonymous meetings on the computer and I will be ok, if I do that all day, I will be happy even alone,
I saw a tv show that showed a man who had gotten older i think in his 60s in prison for a crime he did not commit. They finally solved the crime and let him out. A reporter asked him why he wasn't bitter that he had almost given a lot of his life up for a crime he did not commit.
He said you can either make prison a hell hole or make it a Buddhist Meditation retreat, You can claim that for any religion.
If you serve God all day make your situation into a religious temple you can live anywhere in any situation.
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That sounds challenging, are you able to request them to not to offer you such?
Riders
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If I get out of here, when I get out, I would like to go to an NA meeting. I just went to a chatroom internet NA meeting. Yes, they are drug addicts but according to them a drug is a drug is a drug. So, any addiction counts as a drug including my overeating. So anyways, there were issues with AA meetings because even though I was safe when I went to AA meetings with my mom with me,I had a couple of older men who came onto me and many times it was quite the norm to hear folks cracking dirty jokes.
However, both AA and NA have all womans meetings once a week. I would like to go to the woman's meetings at NA. I would like to support drug addicts because there is such a crisis now with Oxycodone's Opiates. Maybe sometime I could do volunteer work with the homeless love to do that.
However, both AA and NA have all womans meetings once a week. I would like to go to the woman's meetings at NA. I would like to support drug addicts because there is such a crisis now with Oxycodone's Opiates. Maybe sometime I could do volunteer work with the homeless love to do that.
Riders
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Well they moved Ms Glenda out of my room. Her sons were very suspicious of me and I don't blame them. While she was here she could not use the phone they gave her because she didn't know how because of her dementia. Because I had ordered pizza for myself too many times she wanted to too. SO I would get the aid in here, I knew how to click on her sons names call them and hand off the phone too her shed get on there and ask them to bring her lunch.
I think they are neglectful of her did not like it. She also started asking me about her money, why can't I order food she'd ask, she'd say I have worked my whole life, I have a credit card where is it? I know she has dementia, but I feel for her.
She'd also ask, why can't you get out of bed and come over here and get me up and the 2 of us go home together? I knew how she felt, I feel that way. So I think they thought I was stirring up trouble. But the other day a guy came in from the financial office and talked to her. I didn't even know who he was, so I think someone set me up.
He came in and said she needed to sign some papers and that the home was going to start giving her her 75 dollars every month and he'd bring it that day. She started begging me to get her money so she could order in, so I called the aid in, what I should have done is say Ms. Glenda wants to ask you something but I asked her to get that guy in here to bring her money.
She said I think your more interested in her money then she is. Sometimes she has a hard time communicating so I talk for her, but it was stupid, I should have let her do it this time sense it involved her money. So there probably mad about it. But as I said before I have my family to support me here and I attend Narcotics anonymous here on the internet so they are all I need. I didn't break any laws so the police are not coming for me.
I tried to do something good. I don't have a phone right now because my sister has not had time to get a plan for me, we do not know when I will but I am lucky I have my computer so I can videocall her and my other sisters on facebook.
I think they are neglectful of her did not like it. She also started asking me about her money, why can't I order food she'd ask, she'd say I have worked my whole life, I have a credit card where is it? I know she has dementia, but I feel for her.
She'd also ask, why can't you get out of bed and come over here and get me up and the 2 of us go home together? I knew how she felt, I feel that way. So I think they thought I was stirring up trouble. But the other day a guy came in from the financial office and talked to her. I didn't even know who he was, so I think someone set me up.
He came in and said she needed to sign some papers and that the home was going to start giving her her 75 dollars every month and he'd bring it that day. She started begging me to get her money so she could order in, so I called the aid in, what I should have done is say Ms. Glenda wants to ask you something but I asked her to get that guy in here to bring her money.
She said I think your more interested in her money then she is. Sometimes she has a hard time communicating so I talk for her, but it was stupid, I should have let her do it this time sense it involved her money. So there probably mad about it. But as I said before I have my family to support me here and I attend Narcotics anonymous here on the internet so they are all I need. I didn't break any laws so the police are not coming for me.
I tried to do something good. I don't have a phone right now because my sister has not had time to get a plan for me, we do not know when I will but I am lucky I have my computer so I can videocall her and my other sisters on facebook.
Riders
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Continued from above, the other thing in this is that i asked a guy Bobby I was playing dominoes with about the people who yell out for help, I asked are they doing that because their family abandoned them here or are the staff neglecting them?
I think I have asked too many questions and its possible someone got upset about it. Did they set me up for that? Should I transfer to somewhere else? BUt if I do it maybe worse then this place. Nursing homes in America are short handed and some of them physically abuse their patients.