No - what I mean is that people are not as likely to be offended by the TONE of a person's argument if they agree with the premise. People tend to applaud sarcasm and condescension as cleverness and wit when theyagree with the content of an argument.
I tend to agree.
But i wouldnt be so bold in generalising it especially when you make an exception in the opposite case for yourself. like..
No, I don't like his condescension and his intentionally provocative style.
Why should i not think that people (including you) are of yourse also likely to be offended by the TONE of a persons argument if they dont agree?
See ... it is all a two sided coin.
But i do not have a problem with you beeing offended (or not offended). What interests me is if it actually was an offense EVEN from the standing point of someone who does not have your opinion.
I never expected you to accept my judgment. I'm not trying to win you over. I'm not even claiming to be objective. Style, humor, and wit are ALL subjective qualities.
I can accept that (and thank you for not trying to win me over).
Yet when all is subjective then why discuss it at all. As i stated my interest is in the rather objective question. We would never have all people agree on something as volatile as "style".
Ok, that's your view. Your subjective view. Have at it.
You see.... i think it is NOT subjective.
My reasoning for it is rather logical and reasonable. It MAY be not conclusive and therefore WRONG, but it is not based on subjectivity.
I never called Dawkins an ******* or any other "name," by the way. I said "Bullocks!" tongue in cheek regarding his style of delivery. That's about like someone saying, "Hogwash!"
Then I must have misunderstood your following statement taken from a post a few pages back:
Richard Dawkins may be right as rain - though personally I doubt it. And the thing is, he'll certainly never win me as a convert, because he's simply such a ****** when it comes to his delivery.
Oh really? So as long as we're telling the truth (or what we believe to be the truth) we can just say it any way we want and that's ok? Wow, are you married or in a long term relationship? If so, have you tried that theory out?
I have been married for 17 years now, with three kids. Thanks
And indeed i do tell the truth when i am asked for my honest opinion. Everybody around me knows that you shouldnt ever ask me about my honest opinion if you don't want it.
Please do remember that honesty doesn't automatically equate to being mean or belitteling or insulting.
As i already stated.... if my kid came along with an F i wouldnt sit there and say "fine" just because it might feel insulted if i said "thats crap".
"Honey, no offense, but your *** is looking huge these days."
Well if we really want to devle into that then an apropriate statement would be:
"Honey, that garment makes you look ugly, old and fat. I would rather wear the other one that we bought 2 weeks ago." (constructive criticizm you know
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Or (to give you a statement that I get from my wife)...
"You have really gotten fat and look old, go and burn some fat."
Thats what i get to hear after a week of vacation with long nights and much pizza. And you know what... she is damn right about it and i love her for that.
Let me know how that works out for you.
If you prefer a liar or someone like a politician ... well thats not something that would make ME happy. Never knowing the truth while someone smiles into your face is not my favorite way of living in trust with someone.
The OP is not about the truth or untruth of Dawkins. It's about his style and delivery of his opinions.
Truth matters to me too, but that's not what I was discussing.
Ok, i think i finally get the message.
I care for truth even if it doesn't sound as pleasing as I might want it to be.
You seem to care for comforting words and mild criticizm no matter how bad the situation actually is.
Well thats two different approaches and if yours makes you happy, then have a go at it. I have my problems with it.
I think Dawkins is honest. He is not someone who smears honey around your mouth in order to lure you into something. He is "brutally" honest. You might find that insulting, I would agree that sometimes it is not the most effective way. But it is a truth (unless prooven otherwise).