"Who is my mother? Who are my brothers? ... Whoever does the will of my Father who is in heaven is my brother, sister, and mother" (Matthew 12:48-50).
Rabbi Neusner says that on many occasions Jesus seems to invite transgression of the fourth commandment, which says that we must honor our father and mother.
Jesus asks one to forget about burying his own father and elsewhere he says that whoever loves father and mother more than him is not worthy of him.
. "Who is my mother? Who are my brothers? ... Whoever does the will of my Father who is in heaven is my brother, sister, and mother" (Matthew 12:48-50).
Rabbi Neusner asks whether he has a right to do this. This spiritual family already existed: It was the people of Israel, united by observance of the Torah, that is, the Mosaic law.
A son was only permitted to leave his father's house to study the Torah. But Jesus does not say, "Whoever loves father or mother more than the Torah is not worthy of the Torah." He says, "Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me." He puts himself in the place of the Torah.
You are only stating the Core of Shema. God comes first. Know Shema and then know the proper channels of authority. Amen.
But also know that to bind to Shema may mean breaking a lower law in order to do it.
Thus Jesus own mother said he sinned by not saying he was in the Temple as they were preparing to leave Jerusalem. He said he sinned not. Who was right? Yes he did "dishonor" his mother and father by neglecting them IN LIEU of Shema.