This is all good information, although I think some of it also relies upon perception of the rate of advancement, especially over the past 25-50 years.
Just as an example, the recent 50th anniversary of the Moon Landing. I was just a little kid back then, but it was a time when one might have had high hopes for the future. One might have expected an eventual mission to Mars and future missions to Jupiter and beyond - even before the turn of the century. That never happened, which might contribute to the perception that humanity is not progressing, but standing still.
One might compare time frames and see enormous progress and advancement from 1940 to 1980, while discerning a slowing of progress or stagnation from 1980 to the present. The perception is that we may have peaked at some point in the 1960s/70s, while seeing a steady decline in the years since then.
So, even if we're doing enormously better than we were 250 years ago, people might also measure progress by what they've seen in their own lifetimes. To be sure, in the developing world, a great deal of progress has been noted (as you've cited here), such as in the areas of healthcare, life expectancy, and education.
But all this really means is that the West has slowed progress while the rest of the world catches up. Not that that's a bad thing, but it does contribute to the perception that the West is standing still.
So, while it's good that there's greater progress in education for women in Islamic countries, from the West's point of view, it doesn't seem to add anything. It doesn't translate to a cure for cancer or warp drive technology.
As for war, that's another tricky point to make. 200 years ago, military technology was more primitive, so a thousand wars back then wouldn't add up to a hill of beans compared to just one war today. So, the point about "fewer wars" today doesn't really say much. In the nuclear era, we've had to deal with numerous instances of brinkmanship, which causes people to worry more about war than they otherwise would have in earlier eras in history.
The progress is perhaps the most pronounced over the last 20 years where the benefits of education and health are now truly global. There’s less of a West verses the rest dichotomy. Same deal with ‘developed’ vs ‘undeveloped’, They are part of a twentieth century paradigm that we both grew up with (we’re similar age). Now we are part of a global civilisation as never before.
I was in Japan recently and in regards technology they are streets ahead of my ‘Western’ country. Their life expectancy is just as good and their education is better because it needs to be. Instead of Christianity meeting cultural needs around births, marriages and funerals Buddhism/Shinto does.
The easier challenges will now be sustainable development with green technologies. The greatest challenges will be to build unity in our increasingly diverse communities, finding a place for everyone, building greater levels of international cooperation, and addressing problems with a spiritual dimension such as psychological distress and addictions. The equality of men and women is essential for progress.