I'm NOT retiring. I am going to be self employed.
And yes - I got to stay home with my kids. We lived BELOW the poverty level for 6 of those 11 years. We literally did not eat out or even buy a soda (and I am not exaggerating) for those six years. We had one vehicle - the SAME vehicle for 11 years. We had no cable TV, no game system, and for much of that time didn't even have a VCR. I'm not complaining - just giving some context. As I said before, I didn't even use disposable diapers - and I hung the cloth ones out on a clothesline. I mean, really REALLY "old school."
When my wife and I start having kids hopefully next year, there is no way in hell she'll be able to stay home for more than a couple months after the baby is born.
It's very difficult to pull this off - requires a lot of sacrifice.
Even with our small house and relatively little luxuries (our cars are 4 and 5 years old), one of us simply couldn't support the whole family by ourselves. And we're 50% above the median household income in the country. In fact, our income puts us in the top 28% of households in the country.
We didn't own a home - we rented. We didn't have two cars - we had one very old car.
Oh - and later as a single mom, I raised four kids (teens) on about $50,000 a year - and that includes child support. It was hard, but do-able.
There is almost no way we'll be retiring in our 50s, and that's even with both of us working full-time until then, making good financial decisions and me hopefully making damn good money within the next 10 years.
I repeat - neither me nor my husband is retiring.
And did you miss the part about my husband's income tripling in the past three years? That will open a lot of doors of opportunity. But this didn't happen till he was over 50. And in spite of his income tripling, he's still working his *** off.
Yes, raising kids is very hard work, which is why it'll be extra hard for us who have to work full-time while doing it for their childhoods.
Your choice. Don't tell me that you have to have two incomes to raise kids. My oldest daughter is staying home with her kids, and my youngest daughter's husband is staying home (going to school) while she is working. In other words- one income houses with one parent staying home. Today - present tense. One in Virginia (in a high cost of living area) and one in Louisiana (just moved from Colorado Springs - another high cost of living area).
Like I said, it requires a LOT of sacrifice to pull this off - but it's definitely do able.
You no longer get to criticize the current generation, considering how good you've had it. I know had some rough times where you didn't have much money, but if you were able to stay home to raise kids for 11 years, you had it pretty damn good, by my standards.
It was very austere living for most of those eleven years. I don't know - but I don't call washing **** out of diapers in the toilet with your bare hands "having it pretty damn good," but hey, that's just me.
It was tough - but worth it.
You have not worked that hard. You've worked full-time for 20 years. Raising kids doesn't count. I've already worked full-time for 10 years. So, if I found a sugar mama, maybe I could retire in 10 years, too, but I wouldn't be bragging about how hard I worked when I retired at 40
Let's see - started working at age 14. Worked full time when I was in college. Stayed home for eleven years to raise four kids (stairsteps - I had kids in diapers for six straight years). And your comment about staying home to raise four kids not counting for working your *** off is RIDICULOUS. I was home alone with them most of the time -my husband worked out of town for 8 months out of the year.
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Re-entered the full time workforce at age 30 and worked full time (over full time, I might add) for 20 more years. Now at age 50, I will quit working for someone else and work for myself. Oh, and did I mention that I will also be caring for four elderly parents and in laws? That's the flip side of the coin for baby boomers.
I'd say that's a pretty long run at hard work.
And I repeat - I'm not retiring.
OK, I don't want to hear any more from you then. You're retiring at 50, and you got to stay home to raise your kids for 11 years.