Uhhh, no we couldn't. Our life expectancy is about 35 more years. There's no way that what we have now would cover even the most basic expenses for that amount of time.
I didn't have a house with much equity in it in my thirties either. So what? I lived in a 1300 square foot house at that time - six of us did, in fact.
Yeah, I did too when I was your age. And my life STILL requires a steady influx of paychecks, and will for another decade or so.
Alceste - I am fifty years old. I am blessed to be able to quit my full time job because in the past three years, my husband has nearly tripled his income. All his decades of hard work have finally paid off.
If this hadn't happened (and rather unexpectedly, I might add), we'd both be putting our noses to the grindstone for at least 15 more years.
I'll repeat - I'm fifty years old. I've worked more than full time for over two decades, and prior to that, I stayed home to raise four kids till they were in school (eleven years of VERY hard work, as I've described).
I don't think I have a SUPERIOR work ethic - I have a GOOD work ethic and I've made some good decisions and choices over my lifetime.
When you're fifty, I sincerely hope you can say the same - in fact, I hope you are more successful than I am and make better decisions.
As I've alluded to earlier - maybe you just don't live in an area conducive to home ownership. My oldest daughter and her husband could definitely buy a home in Louisiana if they chose to - in a metropolitan area - for a reasonable price.
Alceste - I couldn't afford to have kids either, I don't guess. At least, I couldn't afford to buy disposable diapers, or day care, or a second car, or cable TV, or a bedroom for each child, or new clothes for myself. You may not believe this, but I literally could not afford to buy a SINGLE SOFT DRINK for five years. What that means is that we literally did not go out to eat for five years. We didn't buy sodas, we didn't buy chips, we didn't see a movie, we didn't go camping, we didn't buy CDs, we didn't buy new furniture (we bought nearly everything we owned at Goodwill).
As for you not being able to retire - I think you're being a bit melodramatic, or at the least, you're painting yourself into a corner by your own choices of locale, careers, lifestyles, etc.
Yes, I'm sure I'm not complaining. I guess what I described sounds awful to you, and that's why you think I'm complaining. Actually, I was literally never aware of my own financial "tightness." Not in the sense that it got to me, anyway. It just was what it was, and I dealt with it. Every day, I woke up to those gorgeous children, in a house crowded with love - who's complaining?
I was simply painting a very realistic picture for you in case you had some sort of pollyanna idea about my life.
I lived in an apartment for a long time. Then military quarters (more apartment living.) We rented homes off and on - very humble, small homes. We moved alot due to the military (my husband was enlisted for most of the time we were married.) When he got his commission (at age 31) we moved to Germany and lived in military quarters (apartments) again - on the fourth floor and no elevator - but I was in HEAVEN!
I stayed home with my kids for eleven years and then RETURNED to full time work outside the home.
First of all, I'm not retiring. I will continue to earn money - I just won't be working 8-5 for someone else - I'll be working for myself. But you already know that, since I've told you that several times.
Also, we have four - FOUR - elderly parents who need more and more of our time and support. So this is a good decision for us as a family - as a whole family. My mother has had a major stroke. My dad has cancer. My mother in law has a bad heart and multiple health problems, as does my father in law. I will be spending a considerable amount of my time helping them. To everything there is a season.
As for the retirement savings - I don't believe I've shared that information with you.
My house is 2500 square feet and includes my husband's office. It's nice but it's not a luxurious mansion. But so what if it was? We've worked very hard for many decades to afford to live in this house. We've only had it TWO YEARS, Alceste.
Great. Sounds like that's what you're going to have to do if you want to continue living in that area.
Are you complaining? Because it sounds like you are.
See my comment about not eating out for literally five years. Do you think we went on any vacations during that time? If you're not sure, I'll tell you - no. By the way - even if you have time off when you have no money and four kids - it doesn't feel much like a vacation, I can assure you.
Yeah, my grandmother, who worked in the cotton fields starting at age 6, always said the same thing to me too. That's how grandmothers are.
Oh, you're just jealous.
My point was that my husband and I have worked VERY HARD for DECADES to finally afford our comfortable lifestyle. My husband is STILL getting up at 3 am and putting in 15 hour days - but as of this past year, now he only has to do it two weeks out of every month.
All those decades of hard work have finally paid off. Now when he's home for two weeks out of each month, we can play.
Life is good. It was good before - but it's better now. And part of that satisfaction comes from knowing how hard and how long we've worked to get here.