I think it goes without saying that no one wishes to be exploited, and one would imagine (or hope?) that the person with whom your friends with in this scenario, wouldn't morph into an exploitative type of person, simply because sex is introduced into the equation. But, I imagine that could happen.
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Friends with ''Benefits''
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great idea ...... God would be proud
its the true slutness of Eden
i know tons of girls who are just....well.....REALLY FRIENDLY
even if you fall in love with one , its no biggy ,
your friends with beniifits and in love
just because your in love with a sexual friend doesn't mean you have to go down the family and kids route..... Lifes about having fun
hmmmm are you being sarcastic?
Mequa
Neo-Epicurean
Yes, in my experience many "friends" do show their exploitative true colors after years of knowing them, where they appeared perfectly lovely for years, when I finally let my guard down and allow myself to become vulnerable with them. (Sex would be one such example.) Smelling weakness and vulnerability, they go in for the kill, before discarding. Something I have come to expect from my fellow human beings.
True friends are rarer than hen's teeth, in my experience.
mainliner
no one can de-borg my fact's ...NO-ONE!!
mainliner
no one can de-borg my fact's ...NO-ONE!!
no why ?hmmmm are you being sarcastic?
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What a GREAT saying...haha
In my experience, friendships that were doomed, usually showed a few red flags along the way, that I chose to ignore or discard. I'm a believer in giving people the benefit of the doubt, to a fault, but getting better at reading the warning signs earlier, now. I simply wouldn't enter a FWB arrangement with someone who exhibited red flags, prior to the arrangement. If we're honest...many people ignore red flags, and wonder why they end up hurt halfway through a relationship. (any relationship)
I get the sense from your responses Mequa, that you think a FWB arrangement is exploitative in nature? I think it all depends on what two people want in life, and when it comes to dating/relationships.
What a GREAT saying...haha
In my experience, friendships that were doomed, usually showed a few red flags along the way, that I chose to ignore or discard. I'm a believer in giving people the benefit of the doubt, to a fault, but getting better at reading the warning signs earlier, now. I simply wouldn't enter a FWB arrangement with someone who exhibited red flags, prior to the arrangement. If we're honest...many people ignore red flags, and wonder why they end up hurt halfway through a relationship. (any relationship)
I get the sense from your responses Mequa, that you think a FWB arrangement is exploitative in nature? I think it all depends on what two people want in life, and when it comes to dating/relationships.
Drolefille
PolyPanGeekGirl
great idea ...... God would be proud
its the true slutness of Eden
i know tons of girls who are just....well.....REALLY FRIENDLY
even if you fall in love with one , its no biggy ,
your friends with beniifits and in love
just because your in love with a sexual friend doesn't mean you have to go down the family and kids route..... Lifes about having fun
The true "slutness" of Eden?
I appreciate your candor, and wonder if that would happen to me as well. Although, I tend to be pretty guarded with men, once sex would be introduced into the equation, would I be able to keep it all separate? My feelings vs. 'the arrangement.' Good points.
mainliner
no one can de-borg my fact's ...NO-ONE!!
dust1n
Zindīq
Great way to put it. Welcome to RF.
In short, an emotional condom is every bit as necessary as a physical one?
And, therein might lie the problem.
Mequa
Neo-Epicurean
One problem is that an emotional condom can also break.And, therein might lie the problem.
mainliner
no one can de-borg my fact's ...NO-ONE!!
what's an emotion condom ???One problem is that an emotional condom can also break.
Its normal where i live , i know a £1000 per/day escort who has the same outlook on life
What outlook would that be?
One problem is that an emotional condom can also break.
Aw, yes it sure can. Might need a parachute-sized one. haha
mainliner
no one can de-borg my fact's ...NO-ONE!!
Microsoft lolWhat outlook would that be?
To the best of my understanding, it is the attitude of entering a relationship with pre-set boundaries about what it is supposed to mean.
Usually some variation of "it is just about fun and sex, not commitment".
Come to think of it, the oddest thing of a FWB situation to me is the contradiction between being happy with someone yet feeling a need to avoid letting other people know. For me at least that is a source of stress.