Gay parenthood

[LuisDantas]

well...I think that sex education includes sociology, besides biology (anatomy). And if you talk about sociology, you have to talk necessarily about the relationships between the two genders.

Gays and lesbians, I have learned from a reliable source, are known to live in the same world as anyone else. There are persistent rumors that the two genders are present in that world as well.

The rumors about children who never noticed that straight men and women exist or that failed to understand what non-homosexual affectiveness is remain unconfirmed.

 

[Estro Felino]

Gays and lesbians, I have learned from a reliable source, are known to live in the same world as anyone else. There are persistent rumors that the two genders are present in that world as well.

The rumors about children who never noticed that straight men and women exist or that failed to understand what non-homosexual affectiveness is remain unconfirmed.

I wish all people were like me. That is, I've always been a healthy relationship with sex, since I was 9. Much sooner than puberty.
But most kids don't. They can be traumatized; just imagine how a ten year old boy may feel, when he finds out that his gay parents have anal sex. Whereas all the other parents have vaginal sex.
That discovery can create confusion in this kid: he may feel repulsion towards his parents.

 

[LuisDantas]

I wish all people were like me. That is, I've always been a healthy relationship with sex, since I was 9. Much sooner than puberty.
But most kids don't. They can be traumatized; just imagine how a ten year old boy may feel, when he finds out that his gay parents have anal sex. Whereas all the other parents have vaginal sex.
That discovery can create confusion in this kid: he may feel repulsion towards his parents.

Anything is possible under the right circunstances, but I would say that this is a very weak worry among all undesirable things that may happen in a household.

all right...a person like me may laugh for months thinking of what their gay parents do in bed.
But other kids may vomit for months.

Is that so?

 

[Wirey]

That discovery can create confusion in this kid: he may feel repulsion towards his parents.

I know, right? Because the thought of my Dad scraping the barnacles off of my mom used to cheer me up immensely!

 

[dgirl1986]

I wish all people were like me. That is, I've always been a healthy relationship with sex, since I was 9. Much sooner than puberty.
But most kids don't. They can be traumatized; just imagine how a ten year old boy may feel, when he finds out that his gay parents have anal sex. Whereas all the other parents have vaginal sex.
That discovery can create confusion in this kid: he may feel repulsion towards his parents.

You assume that kids think about their parents having sex. I think most kids do their very best not to regardless of their sexual orientation.

 

[dgirl1986]

I know, right? Because the thought of my Dad scraping the barnacles off of my mom used to cheer me up immensely!

LOL barnacles

 

[Estro Felino]

You assume that kids think about their parents having sex. I think most kids do their very best not to regardless of their sexual orientation.

well...that's why I think that if the kid in question asks their parents if they have a sex life, it's better that they deny.
They could tell him: son, we are just best friends who love each other very very much.

 

[dgirl1986]

well...that's why I think that if the kid in question asks their parents if they have a sex life, it's better that they deny.
They could tell him: son, we are just best friends who love each other very very much.

I have never in my life heard of any kid that has ever asked about their sex life...ever.

To say such a thing to your child will be a lie. The more honest thing to do, in the unlikely event of it being asked, is when you are older we can talk about it. It will also depend on the orientation of your kids also.

 

[LuisDantas]

well...that's why I think that if the kid in question asks their parents if they have a sex life, it's better that they deny.

Gosh. Are you kidding?

They could tell him: son, we are just best friends who love each other very very much.

Lying to a child just because? Really?

 

[Drolefille]

Things I've learned from this thread: Gay people hate women, straight people can't be misogynist. Gay people should teach their children straight sex ed, even if their kids aren't straight. Kids finding out about their parents having sex is only traumatizing if it's anal sex, which only gay people can have. Lying to your children is the best policy.


And this is why I'm glad some days that some people aren't parents.

 

[dgirl1986]

Things I've learned from this thread: Gay people hate women, straight people can't be misogynist. Gay people should teach their children straight sex ed, even if their kids aren't straight. Kids finding out about their parents having sex is only traumatizing if it's anal sex, which only gay people can have. Lying to your children is the best policy.


And this is why I'm glad some days that some people aren't parents.

Preeeetty much. I do not understand the thinking. It boggles me. Im using cultural differences as a possible reason.

 

[Drolefille]

Preeeetty much. I do not understand the thinking. It boggles me. Im using cultural differences as a possible reason.

I refuse to allow the nation of my ancestors to be sullied by the assumption. I still think Poe's law is applicable here. Or maybe I just hope it is.

 

[dgirl1986]

I refuse to allow the nation of my ancestors to be sullied by the assumption. I still think Poe's law is applicable here. Or maybe I just hope it is.

Well where I am from religion isnt as in your face as it is in other western countries I think so the religious programming I got was from church and youth group (i went to a private school to avoid public school problems).

 

[Drolefille]

Well where I am from religion isnt as in your face as it is in other western countries I think so the religious programming I got was from church and youth group (i went to a private school to avoid public school problems).

No no, I was just trying to say I refuse to blame Italy for the thoughts in this thread. Italy is very Catholic still and yet also Italian Catholics have always been very transactional in their belief (As a whole, not any particular individual) perhaps as a leftover from the Roman worship where orthopraxy not orthodoxy was important. I don't know. (Sabina Magliocco has written some really interesting stuff on this.)

On the other hand claiming to know "how gays are" world wide simply because one is gay is like me pretending to know how every woman in the world feels. It's ridiculous.

 

[dgirl1986]

No no, I was just trying to say I refuse to blame Italy for the thoughts in this thread. Italy is very Catholic still and yet also Italian Catholics have always been very transactional in their belief (As a whole, not any particular individual) perhaps as a leftover from the Roman worship where orthopraxy not orthodoxy was important. I don't know. (Sabina Magliocco has written some really interesting stuff on this.)

On the other hand claiming to know "how gays are" world wide simply because one is gay is like me pretending to know how every woman in the world feels. It's ridiculous.

I heard there is a huge sect of the catholic followers that are really progressive and do not have issue with LGB which I find encouraging.

Yeah we arent cloned lol that would be like saying you know how all straight people are.

 

[Drolefille]

I heard there is a huge sect of the catholic followers that are really progressive and do not have issue with LGB which I find encouraging.

Yeah we arent cloned lol that would be like saying you know how all straight people are.

I really don't know how all straight people are, as I'm not.

And it isn't about being a Catholic follower so much as it's being culturally and traditionally Catholic but not necessarily believing in the whole kit and kaboodle. Not that you'd admit it easily but it's a general trend towards secularization. Italy has it, and has had it for a while. American Catholics tend to be more openly "cafeteria" about their beliefs IME where they will say "i believe, but the church is wrong about X"

 

[Gjallarhorn]

Preeeetty much. I do not understand the thinking. It boggles me. Im using cultural differences as a possible reason.

Personal bias. See below:

well. why do you always have a chip on your shoulder? I wasn't talking about your case. I was thinking of my ex boyfriend who confessed me that he was eurotophobic. In fact he told me that he was afraid of vagina, when he was in a relationship with a girl. Her Vagina looked like a cave to him. A deep insatiable and greedy cave, ready to swallow his penis.
This is a phobia. And he did explain to me that he found a male anus more reassuring. As you can see, there are straight men who go gay because of this phobia. I have just proved it to you

 

[dgirl1986]

Personal bias. See below:

Yes because people go gay for fear of vagina *facepalm*

 

[Gjallarhorn]

Yes because people go gay for fear of vagina *facepalm*

And then phobia translated into hatred. It's easy to think out how the bias was formed.

 

[dgirl1986]

And then phobia translated into hatred. It's easy to think out how the bias was formed.

I see your point.

I think what is being missed is that a lot of gay guys have vagina phobia..because its a vagina...on a woman...and they dont like it. Its ew. Much like some women fear penis...because...well..hello!