I find bestowing a human quality on God as a bad thing. Do you?
No. Humans have been redefining him since he was created, so its no surprise he has human qualities.
Why is it that God is usually referenced as He or Him?
Because his origins in Canaanite mythology factually started in a family of deities. El was the father deity who created all other deities. He had a wife Asherah, and they had sons Baal and Yahweh. In war times people would rally around their warrior deity Yahweh. In times of peace people would go back to the other deities, even Asherah had a long period of being a prime deity in these different and diverse cultures that would become Judaism. It was not until roughly 800 BC that we see some cultures giving all Els attributes to Yahweh including his wife Asherah. 622 BC we see King Josiah who was a loyal Yahwist instituting a political change to strict devotion to Yahweh alone. This was the birth of monotheism. At this time not everyone was on board with the one god concept despite all the religious books being compiled and edited into one version that represented one deity alone. It took another 200-400 years for the people as a whole to become monotheistic as a whole.
History of ancient Israel and Judah - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Israelite monotheism evolved gradually out of pre-existing beliefs and practices of the ancient world.
[76] The religion of the Israelites of Iron Age I, like the Canaanite faith from which it evolved
[77] and other ancient Near Eastern religions, was based on a cult of ancestors and worship of family gods (the "gods of the fathers").
[78] Its major deities were not numerous –
El,
Asherah, and Yahweh, with
Baal as a fourth god, and perhaps Shamash (the sun) in the early period.
[79] By the time of the early Hebrew kings, El and Yahweh had become fused and Asherah did not continue as a separate state cult,
[79] although she continued to be popular at a community level until Persian times.
[80] Yahweh, later the
national god of both Israel and Judah, seems to have originated in
Edom and
Midian in southern Canaan and may have been brought north to Israel by the
Kenites and
Midianites at an early stage.
[81] After the monarchy emerged at the beginning of Iron Age II, kings promoted their family god,
Yahweh, as the god of the kingdom, but beyond the royal court, religion continued to be both polytheistic and family-centered as it was also for other societies in the ancient Near East.
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