'Have a Blessed Day' versus 'Hope You Get Lucky Tonight'

[sojourner]

I agree with you in general, but the problem is that that reaction is exactly what they are counting on. How do you think she would have reacted if someone standing on the beach next to her had started yelling, say, "Satan Rules!" (which I'd have found equally objectionable). There are lots of things that are neither illegal or a public nuisance that one should not do (at least in public) and that people who are raised by considerate and humane parents are taught not to do at a young age.

What if she had been yelling, "Oh, my god! That is so cool!!"?

 

[ChristineES]

What if she had been yelling, "Oh, my god! That is so cool!!"?

Or, as I was going to say, "That was beautiful!"

 

[sojourner]

Again, what? Did you read anything I said? I'm saying to NOT get offended because it's nothing, you apparently read the complete opposite. Also wow, what an incredibility stupid and baseless assumption off the end because you apparently couldn't understand what I was saying, really says a lot about you.

Check out post #162. I wasn't responding to you.

 

[sojourner]

Or, as I was going to say, "That was beautiful!"

Yeah. Is it really the yelling that offends him, or the yelling of religious stuff that offends him? If it's yelling in general I can kind of see his point. if it's yelling religious stuff, he needs to get over himself.

 

[ChristineES]

Yeah. Is it really the yelling that offends him, or the yelling of religious stuff that offends him? If it's yelling in general I can kind of see his point. if it's yelling religious stuff, he needs to get over himself.

Amen to that (translation: I agree).

 

[Uberpod]

OK. Now we're getting somewhere. This is a fair statement to make. Something in your past makes this statement get under your saddle. If that's the case, then simply tell the waitress, "Thanks for the thought, but just so you know, I prefer 'Have a nice day' for personal reasons, please." I'd bet money she'd never say "blessed" to you again.

Again: be honest.

I like your solution here, but not your rationale. I will say that because it allows her to save face about the minor faux pas she is making. And, I will be going to that restaurant tomorrow, probably dining alone so she won't be further embarrassed by an audience.

 

[sojourner]

I like your solution here, but not your rationale. I will say that because it allows her to save face about the minor faux pas she is making. And, I will be going to that restaurant tomorrow, probably dining alone so she won't be further embarrassed by an audience.

Great! I just think that her offense incidental; it's always good to return kindness for what is obviously intended as a kindness. I think you'll be better off in many ways. She may actually be horrified that she's offended you. so soft-shoeing it is probably best.

 

[ChristineES]

Proverbs says this:

Pro 25:21-22 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink for you shall heap coals of fire upon his head, and Jehovah shall reward you.- ESV

 

[ginaleanne]

Is "later" or "see ya" or just plain "bye" okay?

 

[Uberpod]

Is "later" or "see ya" or just plain "bye" okay?

Spectacular !

 

[Storm]

You feel free to speak for others with certainty, and claim I am the narcissistic one?

I've had customers who had the same problem you do, what with not understanding that I just wanted to do my job and go home, not be their BFF. I've listened to people vent about countless others. Guess you haven't, huh?

No, there is no sincerity in them. You could think out your template more thoroughly before the play-acting happens. See?

"Are you actually reading posts, or just quoting them?"

I said there's no thought in them, not sincerity. If you have to misquote someone to argue with them, then you know you're in the wrong.

I take it that you've been a server before?

Indeed I have. Why, do you think that means something?

When she treats everyone with a Christian default that's her right?

1) There's nothing particularly Christian about "blessed." She could just as easily be pagan.

2) Whatever her religion is, yes, it's absolutely her right to act like it's her religion. Even if she's Christian!

If I use my sexy default, I am a monster?

Never said monster. But only total creepers think it's ok to "use my sexy default" on the waitress for any reason.

If I suggest a truce, I am a narcissist?

A truce would be "have a nice day," not something calculated to offend her.

Thinking she's a bad waitress for not remembering your order and worldview is narcissistic - adjective, not diagnosis.

I 'm guessing you are not tipped that well???

Oh, I haven't needed to pretend to like ******** to stay fed for quite some time.

Are you actually reading people's posts here, or just quoting them. I went over this already in response to you earlier.

I don't believe you did, but I may have missed a post, as alerts seem unreliable. I didn't even realize this was still going. Feel free to link it.

 

[Ingledsva]

Proverbs says this:

Pro 25:21-22 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink for you shall heap coals of fire upon his head, and Jehovah shall reward you.- ESV

Kind of twisted - isn't that thought?

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[oldbadger]

Objection can be found in the miserable........

70 year old gentleman, long past viagara assistance, prepares to leave a restaurant.
Waiter: Bye, and hope you get lucky tonite!
Old man: 'Go to Hell!' and takes back his tip.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

I always thought that 'Have a blessed day' meant something along the lines of have a lucky day or have a good day. The person is just wishing you well, Must you complicate it?

It's mighty white of you to take that position.

 

[Thana]

It's mighty white of you to take that position.

Umm...
I don't know how to respond to that.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

Umm...
I don't know how to respond to that.

"Thank you" would be nice.

After all, you agree that there's nothing offensive in it, right? It's a traditional compliment... and there's nothing wrong with being white, is there?

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

I live in the Bible Belt, and I get tired of that self-righteous crap too. I usually just mutter "yeah, yeah, yeah" under my breath and roll my eyes. I suspect your proposed response is a hyperbolic attempt at going for the "shocked reaction from the fundie." it's mildly funny, but it could also be seen as sexual harassment.

Robert Ingersoll would famously respond to people telling him "I'll pray for you" with "I forgive you". Maybe something in that spirit would be more appropriate... and would address your concern of sexual harassment.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

I like your solution here, but not your rationale. I will say that because it allows her to save face about the minor faux pas she is making. And, I will be going to that restaurant tomorrow, probably dining alone so she won't be further embarrassed by an audience.

Hopefully, it would work to say "not everyone is Christian, you know." It expresses the fact that she was making a faux pas, while framing it in a hope that the offensiveness was unintentional.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

Does anyone here remember people saying "have a blessed day" when they were kids?

I don't personally. I did some Googling and found a few claims that it appeared out of nowhere around 2007, which the Google n-gram viewer seems to back up, give or take a year or two:

Google Ngram Viewer

This makes me think that, depending on who's saying it and their motive behind it, it's a fad at best and a dig at secularism at worst.

 

[Rick O'Shez]

Old man: 'Go to Hell!' and takes back his tip.

Tip of what?