Hit on by the wrong gender

[Penumbra]

If you have been hit on by someone of the gender you are not attracted to, how have you responded and why? Or how might you respond if it were to happen?

I've been hit on by women.

My response was to try it out and see how I like it.

After that, my response was to politely decline. I'm certainly not offended, and indeed I consider it a compliment.

 

[Mycroft]

If you have been hit on by someone of the gender you are not attracted to, how have you responded and why?

You'd respond in exactly the same way you would to someone of the same gender whom you had no interest in.

 

[LuisDantas]

If you have been hit on by someone of the gender you are not attracted to, how have you responded and why? Or how might you respond if it were to happen?

It happened twice, quite a while ago. It was subtle enough for me to simply pretend I did not notice and go on.

The way I see it now, it is not all that different from being hit by someone of the "right" gender. Awkward, but mostly because I have to find a way to say "not interested" without causing undue sorrow.

Personally, I just take it as a compliment if a woman finds me attractive and thank them but simply tell them that I'm straight. I just don't understand why some people take offense at this.

If you do take offense, could you explain why?

I do not take offense, but I almost understand why one could. People may hold weird expectations about how others should treat them once an admission of attraction is made. I know I used to.

 

[ZooGirl02]

I can't be hit on by the wrong gender since there is no wrong gender for me. I am bisexual. That said, I'd rather not be hit on at all because I am in a long term relationship with David who is the man in my avatar. I don't want anyone but him.

 

[Deidre]

I've been hit on my women, and it's sexy and flattering. Something has always intrigued me about dating a woman, but I never did. Now, I'm engaged to a wonderful guy, so the whole idea will just have to remain tucked away in my mind, as a fantasy.

 

[Deidre]

I just take it as compliment and verification that the person hitting on me has no taste in men.

hahahaha!!

 

[Estro Felino]

If you have been hit on by someone of the gender you are not attracted to, how have you responded and why? Or how might you respond if it were to happen?

Personally, I just take it as a compliment if a woman finds me attractive and thank them but simply tell them that I'm straight. I just don't understand why some people take offense at this.

If you do take offense, could you explain why?

Well...it has happened to me many times...especially in high school and when I lived at campus, during my university studies. I've never been attracted to women. Only to men. But I've always found easier to have female friendships...so I've always had women as best friends.
Before I came out and confessed my sexuality to them, some of my college female colleagues used to compliment me all the time. They were very sweet and used to hug me all the time...and I hadn't realized yet they liked me. One of them even hit on me explicitly; another one, a very pretty girl, with green eyes and red hair even tried to kiss me. I pushed her away, immediately, telling her: I am sorry...don't.
I have to admit it is really frustrating to be hit on by females, because I feel almost guilty for not liking them. And I know how it feels not to be loved in return, so I can relate. It is also frustrating because I would like men to be as adventurous and daring as those girls...and to hit on me ...
it seems that men don't easily fall in love with me ....women do.

 

[Revoltingest]

Well...it has happened to me many times...especially in high school and when I lived at campus, during my university studies. I've never been attracted to women. Only to men. But I've always found easier to have female friendships...so I've always had women as best friends.
Before I came out and confessed my sexuality to them, some of my college female colleagues used to compliment me all the time. They were very sweet and used to hug me all the time...and I hadn't realized yet they liked me. One of them even hit on me explicitly; another one, a very pretty girl, with green eyes and red hair even tried to kiss me. I pushed her back, immediately, telling her: I am sorry...don't.
I have to admit it is really frustrating to be hit on by females, because I feel almost guilty for not liking them. And I know how it feels not to be loved in return, so I can relate. It is also frustrating because I would like men to be as adventurous and daring as those girls...and to hit on me ...
it seems that men don't easily fall in love with me ....women do.

How can women help themselves resist you?
From your current avatar, you look like a Greek god!
If I weren't so repressed, even I might be tempted.

 

[Estro Felino]

How can women help themselves resist you?
From your current avatar, you look like a Greek god!
If I weren't so repressed, even I might be tempted.

Lol...life is just unfair...but I appreciate your empathy

 

[MARCELLO]

Unspoken or hidden genderism is what you are talking about here.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

At this point, only guys really flirt with me. Women just don't like me. I'll never be a hit with the ladies. Oh, well.

 

[dgirl1986]

I have been hit on by dudes and I am usually ok with it if they are not being sleazy or pushy or getting up in my personal space. I will usually politely decline.

 

[MountainPine]

It happened to me once in high school. The guy couldn't speak, but he pointed to me and himself back and forth, and his classmates told me he was gay and warning me that he was hitting on me. It was disturbing. I tried to talk him into hitting on girls instead.

 

[Buttercup]

I've never been hit on by a woman. I'm not sure how I'd feel but it wouldn't be bad.

 

[Politesse]

I've never been hit on by anyone. I guess I'm not really missing out on much, but it would be nice not to be assumed non-sexual for once.

 

[psychoslice]

Its easy for me, as I am bisexual.

 

[Riders]

10 years ago my best friend was Raymond he was gay he took me to a Lesbian bar while he was at the gay bar. I wanted to see what it was like and yea I had a couple of women tell me they were interested in me I said thankyou for the compliment I'm flattered. I think its flattering and complimentary and I love attention, I'm heterosexual but when ever someone man or woman gives me attention for my nice baby face or my looks I eat it up, I love the attention.

 

[dgirl1986]

It happened to me once in high school. The guy couldn't speak, but he pointed to me and himself back and forth, and his classmates told me he was gay and warning me that he was hitting on me. It was disturbing. I tried to talk him into hitting on girls instead.

So....you tried to convince a gay guy to hit on girls? What...

 

[MountainPine]

So....you tried to convince a gay guy to hit on girls? What...

Yep, nothing wrong with that.

 

[Thief]

lucky me....I'm married....

I just say...I'm taken...