when its a lifestyle choice, how is choosing a different path 'ruining lives'? I know more men who's lives were ruined because of the homosexual lifestyle.
I've never once felt as though the fact that I'm attracted to women and unattracted to men was a "choice." It's been my preference since as long as I remember and it was a very painful experience having to hide it and even trying to pretend it was otherwise.
Do you think all homosexuality is a "lifestyle choice" or do you just think
some is? One of those statements is ignorant and offensive, the other is not.
Besides what on earth is a "homosexual lifestyle?" If I didn't tell anyone I'm a lesbian no one would ever know. Granted I've been to a lesbian bar a few times to watch the bands, but hetero people go to those shows too. Being homosexual is not a "lifestyle" any more than, say, preferring redheads is a "lifestyle."
Some people participate in events that try to raise awareness about homosexual issues but that isn't a "lifestyle" because heterosexuals participate in that too. Some people have lifes based largely around sex, but there are heteros like that too. I don't understand what is meant by "homosexual lifestyle" because as a homosexual myself I've never seen it. Maybe I missed the memo?
Edit: I guess one of the points I'm really trying to drive home is that even though homosexuality is defined by something sexual it doesn't mean that homosexuals base their lifestyle around sex. I don't live, think and breathe sex with women; it just so happens that when I
do have sex -- at appropriate, ordinary times with ordinary emphasis on a monogamous relationship and growing strong together -- it just happens to be with another woman. So what? Whenever you think of a "homosexual lifestyle" try to think of it like a man who prefers blondes or something. Is preferring blondes a "lifestyle" or will he just happen to be sleeping with a blonde when he's sleeping with someone? Is blonde-liking a "lifestyle?"
I'm sure there's arguably something reminiscient of a "gay culture" out there but it's ridiculous to assume that anyone's a part of it just because they're gay. As far as I know, most of us gays are exactly like heteros except when it comes to who we lie with -- culturally, lifestyle, and everything.