The odds that your own child could be homosexual or lesbian is much higher than you think (assuming you reproduce). Would you hate your own child?
I know, you probably think that such is "self-adopted" rather than "born that way". But what you do not understand is, neither is it self-adopted nor born that way. Mother of the World, nature if you will, convinces those few to be that way, but she carries a "big stick".
For example, some men like women's high heeled shoes, are fetish about it. Would one say such a man was "born with a gene that drives him to go gaa gaa over a lady's high heeled shoe?" ... I mean, think about it, high heeled shoes (as far as I know) didn't exist back in the days of Gilgamesh or Homer.
So how do you explain?
But if you study this stuff, you find that such a man, though impossible to find the "high heeled shoe gene" in him, I mean this fetish is way more than just "brainwashed" into the guy, he is pretty much on automatic mode even if high heeled shoes did not exist 2000 years ago.
So it is like, he or she was INDIRECTLY born that way, sort of predestined if you will, AND he or she also was "influenced" to be that way, but no way can it be denied.
I mean, if it were as simple as only something like "brainwashing" then that discounts the power of predestination. But could you say you were "brainwashed" to be a hetro? Of course not.
The answer is inbetween.
It doesn't matter if some "it" is found only in a few. For some reason, beyond your understanding, mother nature has this broad clockwork going on, yes "influence" also plays a part, and She has this complex clockwork in the make in a much more broader scale that DOES influence things and way more powerful than some address from the President of the United States. .... you may not understand, I mean how do birds know how to migrate? Some birds do not migrate if you will, they may be a minority. Does that make them "evil"?
No. Nor is there a "simple human explanation". Nothing is simple.
I know, you will say God decided. But nature and this Mother is also God. in fact, if there is a Mono-God, She has to be a women in singular, the other Gods are men (or eunuchs).
So there is nothing to hate in this regard. I mean, look at the American Right-Wing. Are they talking about homosexuals in context of the 2016 election?
The answer is no. It is not an issue. Islamic terrorism and the economy are the issues. Actually, other than a small minority of Christians or Muslims, no one in the conservative wing or the right-wing give a rat about this "issue" and so many have children who are homosexual, it doesn't matter to them as an "issue".
There is no such "issue" anymore. In fact, even when it was an issue, it was never really an issue. Why?
Because they are everywhere. I can tell you among the top Right-Wing stars, they are there. And everyone knows. And zero care what their "orientation" is, none, zero. They are Republican and Democrat, Muslim or Hindu, nice or not so nice, honest or criminals. On and on. They are everywhere.
So no one cares about this "issue".
For whatever reason beyond your understanding, Mother Nature has a reason. She decided. They may be a minority. But maybe something they know may save the entire world when that day comes. Often, it is the smallest of minority where comes the Answer just in time when it is needed.
More are understanding this. That it is critical to our OWN survival. Yes, some such as in somes circles as Islamic extremism do not yet understand. It is to their own peril and survival.