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Why would it matter if he bathes since I never see him in person? He said he would bathe if he was living in a house and had a way to bathe.
Unfortunately for him, Rick Jones may soon be available, because his wife seems to be dying. But I'm not good friends with him really. It would be awkward. Also he would need to grieve the death for a while before I dare approach him. I'm not sure about his age, but he's retired. He's been around here as a Baha'i since the 70s at least.Now, if somebody cared enough about me to find a Baha'i man for me, that'd be another story (hint, hint.).
I have an old close friend that lives in Washington state as it happens, he is my age, but he is happily married. He lives in Redmond, Washington, a suburb of Seattle. Last I knew, he was rooting for the Seattle Seahawks. We started out as football buddies, and it became more than that.
As you might remember I told you about that man in Ohio, who was on Baha'iMingle, but who knows how up-to -date his profile is. There is no point bothering with those Baha'i dating sites so I finally gave up. There were a few Baha'is on Spiritual Singles and two responded to my messages but one did not like cats and the other never responded again.Unfortunately for him, Rick Jones may soon be available, because his wife seems to be dying. But I'm not good friends with him really. It would be awkward. Also he would need to grieve the death for a while before I dare approach him. I'm not sure about his age, but he's retired. He's been around here as a Baha'i since the 70s at least.
I'm not a social person, as you know, with most people. You're an exception to that. That really limits me.
Meanwhile, all the men I meet are learning about the Faith and it is possible they could become a Baha'i.
Well, now is your golden opportunity to become a social person, even if you only states out men for me in Zoom meetings.I'm not a social person, as you know, with most people. You're an exception to that. That really limits me.
Oh! Now I understand.
Get rid of him as nicely as possible. If you believe in God (not sure you do), pray for wisdom.
If that's your reasoning, well, I won't say any more.
I do not believe in "getting rid" of people, although I certainly do need to explain why I think it cannot work out between us.
I do and I do.
It's an expression. You can be nice but not be close. I understand your dilemma to an extent, but when I was dating I would never entertain the idea of staying close with someone that did not take a bath or shower regularly.
I've seen enough shows to see there are women who will just about date anyone if the circumstances are right. Did you find out why he doesn't live in a house? Maybe you said so but I didn't read the post. My brother-in-law is mentally ill (not outwardly sick, but can't work, etc.) and finally got help from the government and lives in a nice apartment. To outward appearances, he's nice and respectable. He is clean and exercises. But would I consider marrying such a person if circumstances were different? Would I trust him? No. I'd rather be alone and get together with friends or volunteer my time somewhere. However, there are times I do what others warn me not to do.
If you read the OP, you would see that I have never met him in person, so I have never been 'close' to him.
If it were me, no matter same/not same/close physically permitted/not close permitted, I would have little to nothing to do with someone who told me he lives in a car and doesn't take a bath or shower -- (figure he can't take care of me and I surely don't want to take care of a man financially unless I have to, and that's after marriage unexpected circumstances). But based on our conversation so far, I wonder ...I'm not a psychologist, and even if I gave you the best advice, some people do their own thing anyway. Hope the best for you.
If you read the OP you would know why he does not live in a house or apartment. It is because he cannot live in a city or close to a city since he has MCS, or so he believes. I do not know how serious his condition is but he told me he started getting social security disability in 2001 because of his MCS.
That may very well be why he has not found a women yet. I don't know if he likes me because no other woman would have him, or if he likes me for myself. He is a complete enigma to be so far.
I do not think he would ever want me to support him financially, if it ever got that far, although I could easily afford to do so if I wanted to.
No, I am not going to ignore any advice I am getting, and I posted it here to get advice. I will make my own decision but I needed other opinions to help me decide what to do.
Yes, that is probably one reason why but he also told me he hasn't liked any women he has met even though some of them liked him. I am not worried. Whatever is meant to be will happen.
Yes, I know, but they don't have all the facts and neither do I, not yet. Another fact is I am not perfect so why would I expect a man to be perfect? Sure I take a shower every day but there is more to life than bathing. All of us have qualities that are less than desirable, so we cannot expect to find a perfect mate. What is most important is a person's character because that is what can be changed. He can always move into a house and take a shower.
Others have advised you to end it and I agree. You don't want to get saddled with a nutter. There are ample warning signs. Keep in mind there are a lot of odd people about - and the odder they are the more likely they are to resort to the internet. It seems to me one snag with internet dating, as opposed to meeting people naturally through social contact, may be that there is no filter. When you meet people via social interaction (in the neighbourhood, through work, via church, leisure activity groups, even shopping) is there is an invisible filter operating, that puts you mostly with people who are in some ways not too wildly dissimilar in habits and lifestyle from you. But the internet provides an anonymous outlet for all the cranks and nutcases - not to mention people with ill intentions. So it seems to me you need to provide your own filter and be ruthless in applying it. I think you have to be selective, pay attention to your red flags and not be afraid to act on them promptly.
