I really need help with no fap (serious)

[Vinayaka]

Actually, I suspect that the reason yogis are taught that abstinence is good for the spiritual path is because the last thing a young aspirant needs is a pregnant girlfriend.

Why would a yogi have a girl friend? In a mixed ashram?

 

[bp789]

I'm guessing OP's talking about this? Partake in the ultimate challenge - r/NoFap

Even though most of the testimonials on the website also including being free from porn addiction, there might be something to it. Even though it's mostly just anecdotes, it's surprising some of the benefits many people have apparently received through this. It would be unfair to merely say that this is all placebo effect or only works for porn addicts or whatever, especially considering how sexual purity is considered important for Brahmacharya.

 

[Sha'irullah]

I always find this issue funny. I am not mocking the OP Knowledge Gourmet but I am laughing at myself. I am asexual so I have the sex-drive of a frozen turtle. Celibacy is rather easy for me.
I like to consider myself "naturally celibate". I do have occasional "urges" but they can easily be ignored and they are not frequent. I pity people who are sexual because I do not know what it is like to actually desire a partner. Being asexual makes me more dull than what I already am so I really would like to have an urge to be intimate with others but with the way I am progressing I doubt that will happen.
My only advice is to be strong minded and remember that hedonism is the cause of chaos. The more we let our indulgences get out of hand the more closer you will enter "Hell". At least that is my view.

 

[Wannabe Yogi]

My thoughts on sex and fapping.

First of all Sex is not wrong or dirty. In the West do to Christian influences we tend to misinterpret Yogi's and Buddhist Monks. They renounce sex not because it is bad but because they want something different out of life, Thats all.

Sex addiction is a problem for many people. I am not going to deal with this issue.

Just finding a hot sex partner is not a solution to this problem either. In fact getting in to a wrong relationship could be a bigger problem then masturbation. There are two ways that I know of to sublimate sexual desire in the spiritual life long term:

-Find somebody you love and offer them sex as an act of selfless love. The person you are with needs to do the same for you. This person needs to have the same goals and interests you have so you can chart a life path together.

-The other way is to change the nature of your sexual desire through spiritual practice. Now I am not talking about meditation a half hour twice a day. This method needs hours and hours every day.

It would seem to me, if you want to cut back on masturbation the place to start would give up all internet porn. Might be a good first step.

 

[Knowledge Gourmet]

I'm guessing OP's talking about this?
Even though most of the testimonials on the website also including being free from porn addiction, there might be something to it. Even though it's mostly just anecdotes, it's surprising some of the benefits many people have apparently received through this. It would be unfair to merely say that this is all placebo effect or only works for porn addicts or whatever, especially considering how sexual purity is considered important for Brahmacharya.

That is exactly what I'm talking about. They have a similar challenge on a bodybuilding site I frequent.

The testimonials--both on there and youtube--number in the thousands. There is no way it is all placebo. There MUST be more to it IMHO.

Essentially, almost every religion since the dawn of time has frowned on masturbation.

Internet porn and masturbation go hand in hand in my case. I believe they are both harmful, but especially the internet porn.

 

[oldbadger]

I am really trying to stay strong and break my addiction to masturbation.
Does anyone have any tips oR meditations that could help me to stop? I was hoping for those meditations that make sexual energy rise to the other chakras.

Hi....! It's not bad at all, but some prisoners that were held in Japanese prison camps during the 2nd World war later explained that those prisoners who did not control their desires (in this way) did weaken, compared to those who had some kind of rule, or 'fast'.

And so, you could decide what is reasonable, from that allow yourself relief at a particular time in every period, a day or days in a week, or whatever. And then you stick to it.

You will not only have occasions or times to look forward to, but you will find that you can manage. The rewards can be extraordinary.

 

[Knowledge Gourmet]

I've noticed that since I stopped fapping girls look at me far more often. It's as if I am charged with some kind of male sexual energy.


I recommend you all give up that nasty habit.

 

[Aquitaine]

I've noticed that since I stopped fapping girls look at me far more often. It's as if I am charged with some kind of male sexual energy.


I recommend you all give up that nasty habit.

So long as they're not looking at you for the wrong reasons lol.

 

[Sb1995]

this is an ongoing battle! feels like im fighting evil..

 

[Kalidas]

this is an ongoing battle! feels like im fighting evil..

Nope just hormones.

I have always wondered what the Hindu thought about this subject was. I don't see an issue with it as long as it does not take away from daily life, or harm your relationships. Like if I chose masturbation over my wife, that would be a problem a serious problem.

I will reiterate what Vinayaka said months ago when this was first posted :"Everything in moderation"

 

[Sb1995]

I am 17 so that definitely explains it but I still feel very bad

 

[Sb1995]

I still wonder what the God's think of me doing this

 

[DreadFish]

I think you're forming unhealthy thought patterns based on your beliefs about the subject matter.

 

[Sb1995]

I think you're forming unhealthy thought patterns based on your beliefs about the subject matter.

not really, I don't even do it that much maybe twice a month but when I do it I feel very bad

 

[Jainarayan]

I still wonder what the God's think of me doing this

I think they couldn't care less, except for the mental and emotional himsā you're doing to yourself worrying about it. They have bigger things to be concerned with. Ahimsā applies to ourselves too.

 

[Sb1995]

Is anyone aware of sacred mantra's that help to avoid distraction and to avoid such things. Like something to help individuals stay on the right path and away from negative action

 

[Aquitaine]

I think you're forming unhealthy thought patterns based on your beliefs about the subject matter.

I agree. Masturbation is natural, no-one (or thing) is going to judge you negatively for it.

 

[DreadFish]

not really, I don't even do it that much maybe twice a month but when I do it I feel very bad

I think you totally missed my point. Im not encouraging you to keep it up, im saying that the pressure you are putting on yourself and the guilt you experience from masturbating is unhealthy and you are likely doing yourself more harm than good. These kinds of thought patterns become ingrained in our subconscious and can effect our sex lives down the road.

 

[Titanic]

I agree. Masturbation is natural, no-one (or thing) is going to judge you negatively for it.

I agree with this.

 

[Sha'irullah]

I hate puberty and the hormonal effects. Feels more so awful for me. I only view masturbation as bad if it pointless. Personally even I have to masturbate despite being asexual and the only reason I have for it is boredom since my college entry got delayed which is a major set back in entertainment for me.

Masturbation is a form of self indulgence though and not something I am truly fond of and I heavily endorse celibacy and its benefits.