Is a prostitute and one-night stand the same?

[LegionOnomaMoi]

I was a one night stand once. This chick in a bar picked me up, said I was going to be her birthday present. I gave her my number but she never called me. I was a bit disappointed but hey, it was still a fun night. Since I didn't get paid and had to buy my own drinks I don't really think there was any prostitution involved. :no:

According to the OP, giving your number is no different than handing over money (I'm not sure, but I guess that means the only way to write down your number is on a dollar bill, a signed check, or some other form of paper which is also accepted as legal tender). Ergo, you are a prostitute. Of course, if you had exchanged numbers, then clearly by the principles of fifteenth-order quantum logic, you would both be prostitutes.

 

[Trey of Diamonds]

According to the OP, giving your number is no different than handing over money (I'm not sure, but I guess that means the only way to write down your number is on a dollar bill, a signed check, or some other form of paper which is also accepted as legal tender). Ergo, you are a prostitute. Of course, if you had exchanged numbers, then clearly by the principles of fifteenth-order quantum logic, you would both be prostitutes.

If I'm a prostitute I'm a very unsuccessful one. I suppose that makes sense.

 

[lunakilo]

In terms of the social implications, I believe a one night stand is considered better, because paying for sex is considered 'immoral' or 'lame' by many people
In terms of the outcomes, one night stands are more risky, but with a chance for a better pay off such as repeat performance

yes, this is the point I am getting at.

considered immoral or lame is interesting in the sense of why people actually think like this.

'lame' because if you can't get sex for free there must be something wrong with you.
'immoral' because (statistically speaking) prostetutes are not prostetutes because they want to be but because they have few other options. So when you pay a prostitute to have sex with you, you are taking advantage of another persons misfortune.

 

[blackout]

If I'm a prostitute I'm a very unsuccessful one. I suppose that makes sense.

Yer just a CallBoy.

 

[Trey of Diamonds]

Yer just a CallBoy.

I am on call every other month and the pay isn't to bad. Can't say I enjoy it though, I feel so dirty afterwards...

 

[lunakilo]

That was not the odd part. The odd part was how she started her laptop and started to watch dismembered corpses directly after sleeping with the guy, with him beside her... and no, it was nothing sexual, she was a police officer and the corpses in question was related to her case . Funny thing was she didnt understand why he suddenly wanted to leave, lol.

Hey, that is Broen/Bron you are talking about. You must be scandinavian

I saw that episode...must see the rest some time

 

[lunakilo]

Handing over money to a girl afterwards is no different to handing over your phone number, or money for drinks and meal.

So if I am married and my husband earns all the money and I have sex with him, does that make me a prostitute?

 

[LegionOnomaMoi]

If I'm a prostitute I'm a very unsuccessful one. I suppose that makes sense.

Actually, I just realized I made a terrible error. The OP states that performing with a prostitute and having a one night stand is the same. Which could mean that, by giving your number, you basically paid a prostitute, not that you were one. However, all this time I've been assuming that "performing" meant "having sex with." Reading it again, I think it means "engaging in a performance, such as exotic dancing, vaudeville, tap, etc, with someone who doesn't care about the art of the performance itself but only the money." This is equivalent to a "one-night stand[-up]." The OP is really a critique of one-night stand up acts. There is no "love" of the performance or the art (at least in the first instance, and in the second even if there is, the performance is such that it is just as bad as someone who acts/sings/etc. without a love for the art but merely for the money).

Basically, amateur one-nighters are no better than artless performances with actors/singers/dancers/musicians/etc. who are only in it for the money.

 

[zenzero]

Friends,

Friend Trey of Diamonds post:

I was a one night stand once. This chick in a bar picked me up, said I was going to be her birthday present. I gave her my number but she never called me. I was a bit disappointed but hey, it was still a fun night. Since I didn't get paid and had to buy my own drinks I don't really think there was any prostitution involved.

This helps in recalling when a friend contacted free Sexually transmitted disease which was syphilis or something from such a stand.
This is one major difference when opting for this method of seeking release of sexual energy instead of visiting prostitutes who have licences to provide safe and secure services under government supervision even regular medical check ups.

Best of course is to understand why and what of sexual energy??

Love & rgds

 

[Trey of Diamonds]

Friends,

Friend Trey of Diamonds post:


This helps in recalling when a friend contacted free Sexually transmitted disease which was syphilis or something from such a stand.
This is one major difference when opting for this method of seeking release of sexual energy instead of visiting prostitutes who have licences to provide safe and secure services under government supervision even regular medical check ups.

Best of course is to understand why and what of sexual energy??

Love & rgds

I certainly appreciate you concern and since I have been married for almost 20 years now and had to have aids tests when I was working in Kazakhstan around 10 years ago I can say that I'm free of any and all STDs. Luck of the wicked? Maybe.

 

[nnmartin]

Some one night stands are more about seduction... on either persons part.... these are planned and are more akin to point scoring.

point scoring , yes - ie: an ego boost.

so why would it be 'lame' to not bother with this point scoring charade and just pay for it instead?

 

[nnmartin]

Now more to the point: No. If it is not in exchange for money or an equivalent that is worth money it is not prostitution.

I'm not saying that a one night stand is prostitution - more that there is no real difference between the two in an overall sense.

if it's not love, then it's just physical pleasure or an ego boost. Hence the same.

 

[nnmartin]

Saw this series where the main female character had some rather odd social habits. For example when she went to get a one night stand she would look around for a guy she liked and then literally go up to him and ask if he wanted to sleep with her. No money, no phone number, no drinks, no meals. Would that be prostitution?

yes, it would - the only difference being that she would be working for free.

Even the Bible discourages this.

 

[nnmartin]

Yes! Prostitution and a one-night stand are indeed the same -- in much the same way that a battleship and a rowboat are also the same since both of them float.

More seriously, the notion the two things have much of anything in common sounds prudish.

I'm not saying they are similar , but more that they are exactly the same.

I really can't see any difference with using a working girl to wining and dining a woman in the hope of some action later. (with no interest in a relationship)

if there is a difference then someone can please point it out.

 

[nnmartin]

What exactly do you mean by this? Are you suggesting that sexual misconduct or sexual immorality is only something that is disdained by Christians or Christian values? What about eastern countries, where Christianity has never had a foothold, yet the morality on sexuality is similar? Is this due to Christianity?

How about Bangkok and Pattaya - the sex capitals of the world in Buddhist Thailand.

seems pretty much a free for all there as far as sexual services are concerned.

 

[blackout]

So if I am married and my husband earns all the money and I have sex with him, does that make me a prostitute?

Obviously! you whore. :flirt:

 

[work in progress]

So if I am married and my husband earns all the money and I have sex with him, does that make me a prostitute?

Hmmmm, I was hoping you would get an answer to this question...or should I say a response, by now. My guess would be no, you're not a prostitute if you're married....but that's assuming that you're only having sex (intercourse only) for the purposes of procreation and not using birth control of any type, that might allow an escape from annual pregnancy and childbirth. So you may fit into that small category of women who pass the morality test!

 

[nnmartin]

'lame' because if you can't get sex for free there must be something wrong with you.
'immoral' because (statistically speaking) prostetutes are not prostetutes because they want to be but because they have few other options. So when you pay a prostitute to have sex with you, you are taking advantage of another persons misfortune.

ok, so how is this any more immoral than paying someone minimum wage to clean your toilets?

would you say someone that was physically disabled, too old, too unconventional or just downright ugly, and thus needed to pay for it, to have 'something wrong with them?'

 

[work in progress]

'lame' because if you can't get sex for free there must be something wrong with you.
'immoral' because (statistically speaking) prostetutes are not prostetutes because they want to be but because they have few other options. So when you pay a prostitute to have sex with you, you are taking advantage of another persons misfortune.

It would stray off topic to get into a debate about whether or not prostitution should be legal, but here in Ontario where I live, our Provincial Court has paved the way by striking down laws against brothels: Ontario's top court legalizes brothels for safety - Yahoo! News The case will still have to go up before the Supreme Court of Canada for a final ruling, so it's a little too early to say it's green light for the red light districts.

I honestly don't know where to stand on this issue. For the most part, I have been assuming that legalized prostitution will remove the hazards associated with street prostitution, but I'm hearing conflicting claims about the results so far from Holland and other European countries, to say it's a good thing and will make life better for the girls who are in a blackmarket business right now.

 

[dyanaprajna2011]

How about Bangkok and Pattaya - the sex capitals of the world in Buddhist Thailand.

seems pretty much a free for all there as far as sexual services are concerned.

I wasn't aware that there were countries where Buddhism was required. I'm also not aware of any political teachings of the Buddha. What people do is what people do. However, one of the five major ethical precepts of Buddhism is to not commit sexual misconduct. So again I'll ask you, are you suggesting that Christianity or Christian ethics is the only religion that disdains sexual misconduct? Or, are you suggesting that any religion that does disdain sexual misconduct is in some way influenced by Christianity?