Is belief a choice? Why or why not?
Is lack of belief a choice? Why or why not?
In most countries, in most places in the world, people are faced towards each other and the question of religion and spiritual traditions gets brought up. Sometimes this is with their friends, sometimes it is with their family, sometimes they read opinions on the Internet and something resonates with them. It has statistically been proven accurate that people tend to believe the same or similar to their parents, if they were raised in a household which they liked their parents for other reasons. That's the key point. For other reasons.
If your parents are Catholic and you like your parents for reasons unrelating to religion or their Catholic beliefs, you are still more willing to accept those beliefs regardless of how you actually view the Catholic religion. In my case, my parents are Catholics that turned atheist. They believed while they were growing up, but then found each other and then distanced themselves away from the community that the Catholic church brought, and essentially stopped caring altogether if God exists or not. And even though I'm not an atheist, my view points are very similar. When it comes to any monotheistic religion's God, I don't believe that God exists. But I do believe in an underlying view of pantheism, something I've even influenced my mom about occasionally.
So where did my belief in pantheism come from? Well, I came to the realization as a teenager that basically anything is possible, therefore, divinity can be gained and lost by just about every human. And when I realized that, I came to embrace alternative ideas about theologies. I understand now that atheists, agnostics and apistevists actually understand God better than the traditional theists because while they don't believe in God, they understand the importance of the natural world and our affect on it. Pantheism is an extrapolation of atheism, and panentheism is an extrapolation of pantheism. My panentheistic, syntheistic and process theology views are not much different than my parents view of atheism. The difference between their view and my own is that I am much more interested in these subject matters than they are, and have conclusive reasons and I've thought through all of this in my head almost on a daily basis. My parents just don't like religion.
What influenced me more than my parents was the Internet. The first year I was on my own for summer vacation back when I was 12 going into 13 I was alone by myself during the day for the first time, and I stumbled across many websites that talked about religions and spiritual ideas. I heard every side of the argument and even the arguments against religion for the first time in my life, as my parents never introduced me to religion. As I started to understand that each and every religion and spiritual tradition had prophets and ideas about God, I realized at one point during study that the moniker, the vail of religions themselves, was unending the understanding for human divinity. I started to believe that all the prophets had in some way developed their own divinity in their respective religions, not because of what they said, but how they encouraged people to even create these religions in the first place. What is said in religion on any topic does not matter; what matters is that people were called from these religions to create temples or churches where action and good deeds could be followed up by people trying their best to make the most out of their lives. All they needed was the direction to do something about it.
When I was convinced of this there was no going back. I called myself agnostic as a teenager because honestly I had no clue what my beliefs were called. I even used made up terms to describe my beliefs like "Exaltist". I still use that term in some places as a username for myself, and I find it fitting given how I came up with my view points. Yes, I want to believe in divinity; a divinity that I am pressed into and directly understand myself. I started to classify divine traits either by what nature does or what humans do, and now I have a very elaborate idea of what God is, which is more than "all that is", "nature" or "reality." While I often say that God is reality, there is so much more to it than that simple premise. And ultimately I draw back all the inspiration to realize this from that one summer vacation I was by myself with nothing but the Internet to keep me company and to study religion on a daily basis, heading to Christian, Confucius, Hindu and other forums and places to help me understand what I couldn't before. When I realized that all I needed to do to understand all their divinities was to drop the idea of individual religions, I started to develop a very omnist mindset that I still hold today.
There is no going back. Unless something drastic to me happens, like I stop taking my medications, or I get hit really hard in the head and receive a major brain injury, the conclusions I deduced for myself will be the ones I will hold for the rest of my life. Panentheism, syntheism, process theology and omnism are the ideas I believe and understand, as I had a coming of age moment for each idea and came to embrace each concept. At my core there is a deep-seeded root of pantheism that will never subset, and when I actually think about these topics in full, I actually veer closer and closer to omnist-type ideals.
So to answer your question: is belief, or disbelief a choice? It is when you are discovering yourself and where your ideals fall. When you study these things, either in one religion or interfaith, you start to develop emotions and connections to these religious ideas and then when you are entrenched in them, either with community or what sounds good in your head, it becomes very hard to disconnect yourself from the original feelings and emotions you held when you originally made the connection. I remember talking to one of my closest Jewish friends on Discord. She is now dating her ex-boyfriend, who lives in a different state and is Muslim. I asked her why, and although she is quite young, she told me that she built up a considerable relationship before with him and is deeply connected to him in ways most people would not understand. I myself have a best friend for more than seven years that lives in a different country than me. When you develop these connections and ties to these ideas and people it's hard to separate the emotions from the beliefs, which is exactly why religion became what it is today.
I had friends in college, and even friends now, who have attempted to convert me to Christianity, but I have always resisted due to my previous connection to my internal private thoughts about this and coming to the mass realization that all things possess some degree of divinity in them. I talk like an atheist when I am with them, because I don't believe in their God, but my ideas and ideals are the furthest you can get from typical agnostic atheism that is currently the trend right now for those not brought up in a spiritual tradition. It would be practically impossible to change my mind on these matters because of the trends I have seen which have increased the amount of human understanding of themselves and the world around them, and I expect this trend will only continue to increase. When it comes to the God of Judaism, the God of Christianity, the God of Islam, and even the God of the Baha'i Faith, I am firmly atheist, but when it comes to the real people who were prophets in these religions and helped people understand reality better with metaphors and parables, I have increasingly understand why people think people like Abraham, Moses, Jesus, Muhammad, Baha'u'llah, among others are not just passively but actively divine on their own right. What they said doesn't really make any sense to me, who doesn't practice monotheism, but the lives and communities they shaped are divine. And Jesus may be the only person who had achieved an entirely sanctified life for his entire life, a feat that people should not hold lightly.
TL;DR - So, in short, belief is initially a choice when you are studying religion while growing up, but the communities you participate and form connections to are likely going to make an impact that will change who you are and what you think for the rest of your life. Deciding what religion to believe has more to do with the experiences and connections you form regarding this than the actual beliefs themselves. That's why you see so many people being raised and staying inside one spiritual tradition for their entire lives. It's a community, not a commodity. When people start to treat their beliefs like a commodity, then they drift towards atheism, like my parents have.