A "choice" where one of two outcomes is eternal suffering is not a choice, it's a threat.
Your God would be akin to an armed criminal who gave people the "choice" between taking their money and taking their lives.
The more I read biblical scripture, the "forever and ever", etc. part is more like indefinite and dependent than infinite.
People assume by such words that "hell" is eternal, for example -but then there are verses like these which they do not consider....
1 Cor 3:13
Every man's work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because
it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man's work of what sort it is.
14If any man's work abide which he hath built thereupon,
he shall receive a reward.
15If any man's work shall be burned, he shall suffer loss: but
he himself shall be saved; yet so as by fire.
1 Cor 15:21 For since by man
came death, by man
came also the resurrection of the dead.
22For
as in Adam all die, even so in Christ shall all be made alive.
23But every man in his own order: Christ the firstfruits; afterward they that are Christ's at his coming.
24Then
cometh the end, when he shall have delivered up the kingdom to God, even the Father; when he shall have put down all rule and all authority and power.
25For he must reign, till he hath put all enemies under his feet.
26The last enemy that shall be destroyed is death.
Transgression is such because it degrades and destroys the creation.
What God is doing/described as doing in scripture is allowing just enough experience to bring us to a point of acceptance of necessary government/the law of love.
Though it is presently a harsh reality, it is a necessary on if newbies are to overcome it and get with the necessary program -which is government that allows for all to live and create in peace and happiness without conflict.
Those who strive to overcome transgression and purify themselves/ask God to purify them -and do good works -will fare better later. Those who do not purify themselves/ask God to purify them will be separated and purified as the rest go on ahead, as it were. The possibility exists that "both body and spirit" CAN be destroyed in "gehenna" -but that does not mean that is what WILL happen.
It is a separation and ultimatum -unpleasantness -they go no further unless/until willing to accept/do righteousness, peace and happiness.
Perhaps it can be viewed as forced, but the overall situation forces the necessity.
God is very clear that he will -and must -supersede our personal will -because our personal will can be detrimental to ourselves, others and the creation.
He is going to make us more happy than we can imagine whether or not we like or understand it now.
the present was necessary to create that future, but the ills of the present will be not only healed, but eventually forgotten.
Then we will be given powerful and invulnerable bodies -allowing us access to the entire universe/creation.
1 Cor 6:19 "What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost
which is in you, which ye have of God, and
ye are not your own?
Isaiah 46:10 "Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times
the things that are not
yet done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and
I will do all my pleasure:"
Isaiah 65:17 For, behold,
I create new heavens and a new earth: and
the former shall not be remembered, nor come into mind.
18 But
be ye glad and rejoice for ever in that which I create:
Phil 3:21 Who
shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned
like unto his glorious body, according to
the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself.
Isa 45:18 For
thus saith the LORD that created the heavens; God himself that formed the earth and made it; he hath established it,
he created it not in vain, he formed it to be inhabited: I
am the LORD; and
there is none else.