What I've noticed about people who don't have a leg to stand on is that they ignore the questions that make them squirm and hope they go away.
Little Nipper: According to your definition of bigotry, you either agree that same-sex parents are as good as different-sex parents, or you are a bigot. Which is it? Do you agree, or do you meet your definition of bigot? Not mine, LN, yours.
Do you honestly think if you ignore the issue it changes anything? You're still a bigot, according to your own definition, whether you admit it or not. How do you sleep at night, knowing that you think you're a bigot?