Is masturbation wrong?

[Autodidact]

well i wouldnt go to the extremes your suggesting

Exactly my point. It is not necessary to go to extremes.

the point of Pauls words is to not let sex become your one focus.

Which is completely different form not masturbating. btw, it cracks me up when people tell me what people they never met really meant, as though they know any better than me.

You know I hear people say 'we are sexual beings' as if sex is our main attribute but the reality is that sex is a very small part of who we are. If some choose to make their whole life about sex, then they can do that, but they will eventually come to realize that there is more important things in life then sex and masturbation.

Yup. At the same time, there's nothing wrong with it. There are more important life than coffee and brownies, but we don't have to prohibit them to make that point. We just need to learn some wisdom about what is important and why.

 

[Caladan]

well i wouldnt go to the extremes your suggesting

the point of Pauls words is to not let sex become your one focus. You know I hear people say 'we are sexual beings' as if sex is our main attribute but the reality is that sex is a very small part of who we are. If some choose to make their whole life about sex, then they can do that, but they will eventually come to realize that there is more important things in life then sex and masturbation.

“Puritanism: The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy”

 

[Pegg]

“Puritanism: The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy”

i find it hard to equate sex with happiness in a world where sex is everywhere among people who are mostly depressed and anxious

 

[Mr Spinkles]

“Puritanism: The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy”

Perfect! :clap I demand to know who said this, immediately. These are the succinct words I was looking for, but could not find.

 

[Sunstone]

Perfect! :clap I demand to know who said this, immediately. These are the succinct words I was looking for, but could not find.

I think the first person to say that was H.L. Mencken.

 

[Mr Spinkles]

i find it hard to equate sex with happiness in a world where sex is everywhere among people who are mostly depressed and anxious

Let's attack this problem the way scientists would: put aside pre-conceived ideas, and collect data from the real world.

After analyzing data on the self-reported levels of sexual activity and happiness of 16,000 people, Dartmouth College economist David Blanchflower and Andrew Oswald of the University of Warwick in England report that sex "enters so strongly (and) positively in happiness equations" that they estimate increasing intercourse from once a month to once a week is equivalent to the amount of happiness generated by getting an additional $50,000 in income for the average American.

"The evidence we see is that money brings some amounts of happiness, but not as much as what economists might have thought," says Blanchflower. "We had to look to psychologists and realize that other things really matter."​

Sex Better Than Money for Happiness

 

[Onkara]

As a female, I really don't need to think about men..or anything. I don't know if I'm alone on this.

Sounds like samadhi

 

[The Neo Nerd]

Hey Pegg

Have you found that proof that sex during menstruation is bad yet?

 

[Madhuri]

Sounds like samadhi

Lol. I should have said: anything in particular.

 

[waitasec]

i've never needed to, no

and im not going to

i hope you do...
just for educational purposes and a realization.

 

[Autodidact]

i find it hard to equate sex with happiness in a world where sex is everywhere among people who are mostly depressed and anxious

I reiterate. You're doing it wrong.

 

[Autodidact]

Now, a little stop in reality. Masturbation is not harmful in any way. If anything, it's beneficial to health. It's free. It doesn't bother anyone else, if done in private. It's not fattening. It's not carcinogenic. And it feels good.

 

[Nooj]

(2) It's not something that needs to be controlled, it's something that needs to be enjoyed (with some reasonable degree of moderation).

Moderation is control. It just so happens that some religions try to control sexuality by limiting it to between married couples. Other religions and non-religious people try to control sexuality in other ways.

 

[Primordial Annihilator]

i find it hard to equate sex with happiness in a world where sex is everywhere among people who are mostly depressed and anxious

Being depressed and anxious I usually equate to a lack of sex and emotional bonding.

 

[Primordial Annihilator]

Moderation is control. It just so happens that some religions try to control sexuality by limiting it to between married couples. Other religions and non-religious people try to control sexuality in other ways.

Everything in moderation.

Including moderation.

 

[diosangpastol]

Masturbation goes bad because often it is linked to sinful acts and images.....

 

[Primordial Annihilator]

Masturbation goes bad because often it is linked to sinful acts and images.....

What sinful acts are linked to masterbation pray?

What do you mean by sinful image?

It is hard to get aroused by the mental image of a sunset.

 

[Madhuri]

Being depressed and anxious I usually equate to a lack of sex and emotional bonding.

Two things:

I am all for masturbation. It's certainly helped me to refrain from sleeping around and helped with stress.

But as for the above, I do not associate happiness/depression with sex at all. in fact, the last time i had regular sex life was one of the most depressing times of my life. But I do associate happiness/depression with love/emotional bonding.

 

[Primordial Annihilator]

Two things:

I am all for masturbation. It's certainly helped me to refrain from sleeping around and helped with stress.

But as for the above, I do not associate happiness/depression with sex at all. in fact, the last time i had regular sex life was one of the most depressing times of my life. But I do associate happiness/depression with love/emotional bonding.

For me sex and emotional bonding are the synonymous...I wont sleep with anyone I dont feel anything for.

 

[Madhuri]

For me sex and emotional bonding are the synonymous...I wont sleep with anyone I dont feel anything for.

Ah, but then your aegument doesn't really apply to the topic, right? Because if you did have start having sex without feeling, it wouldn't necessarily cause you more or less happiness.