Father Heathen
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I feel genuinely sorry for the gay Jews in your community
I feel genuinely sorry for any sensible, civilized person in their community.
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I feel genuinely sorry for the gay Jews in your community
I feel genuinely sorry for any sensible, civilized person in their community.
"Disrespectful?"Wow. Such a kind, loving and righteous man you must be. Is this what your rabbi teaches you? To be so disrespectful?
Oh.It clings to irrational, unsubstantiated, and arbitrary viewpoints that foster willful ignorance and bigotry.
"Disrespectful?"
Hmmm... Interesting question.
On one hand, yes - one should not respect the notion that bisexuality and trangenderism is the same as being homosexual or lesbian. That is a bizarre concept and a lie or, if you will, a "politically correct" concept which, in plain English means that it a bizarre concept and a lie.
On the other hand, it is wrong to be deliberately rude to those who are incapable of understanding the differences between ordinary sexuality and new invented "norms" of sexuality.
On the Gripping Hand, from a Torah point of view, G-d tells us that LBGT behaviors are, indeed, confused and contradictory towards the concept of Life and spiritual evolution.
Three opinions... fancy that!
Why?I feel genuinely sorry for the gay Jews in your community
I would rather hear how a closet gay feels being raised in an ultra orthodox community, than take your word for it that they are fine and dandy.Why?
I know some very nice gay Jews. They seem to be as happy and as comfortable and as well adjusted as most people.
Admittedly, the folk I know are not part of my immediate "community," as in not being part of our (ultra) Orthodox Jewish congregation. Or, if they are, they are apparently very comfortable in keeping their particular sexual proclivities to themselves.
But, then again, it is a point of Jewish Law that EVERYONE should keep their sexual proclivities to themselves.
Which means that we don't hold hands and kiss in public or talk about what we do sexually with anyone but our spouses (or, I suppose, partners in the case of our theoretical closet gays).
The Torah teaches that we should be modest in all things, particularly regarding our sex lives.
There are actual discussions; explanations; and instructions on how to proceed if a man or woman gives in to immoral sexual impulses.
The bottom line is that - as our ordinary, "moral" sex lives are not to be discussed and publicized in any way whatsoever - how much more so should our "immoral" sex lives be hidden and kept secret.
The modern concepts of "do it if it feels good" anywhere at anytime and let everyone know about it - is totally antithetical to Jewish Law.
The "sin" of homosexuality is but one of many abominations from which a Jew should refrain. The "sin" of publicizing one's sex life is another. The "sin" of parading one's sex life in front of others and demanding that everyone approve of whatever it is you choose to do, violates many more Torah Commandments.
Bottom line, as Mrs. Patrick Campbell is purported to have said: "I don't care what they do, so long as they don't do it in the street and frighten the horses."
To create a cause celebre for publicly defining how one uses one's genitals has always been a sign of societal collapse, even outside of the Judeo/ Christian/ Muslim world.
I would rather hear how a closet gay feels being raised in an ultra orthodox community, than take your word for it that they are fine and dandy.
One could easily extrapolate that a "closet gay" in an ultra Orthodox community would feel much the same as a "closet" - serial adulterer; probationer of BDSM; one who indulges in Internet porn ; or any other sexual activities that are discouraged.
I suspect that "closet" "ultra Orthodox Jews" who engage in such behaviors will rationalize; have extreme fears, doubts, and guilt's; and exhibit all of the ordinary behaviors that people exhibit when they indulge in activities that they are not supposed to be doing and must keep secret - like cheating on one's taxes or spending time at work playing on the Internet instead of working...
Beautiful!Moishe3rd being gay is not just about sex it is about love too.
Beautiful!
Love love!
So?
so it's not about just feeling guilty for having forbidden sex, it is innate, like heterosexuality, so you can not compare it to BDSM or adultery
The fact that the male desires to mate with almost anything he sees, particularly a multitude of women, is also innate.
So is the male desire for seeing naked women or otherwise visualizing sexual desires.
So?
The Torah has always forbidden many forms of innate sexual desires.
Those who are compelled to indulge might feel guilty about it.
So?
Those who wish to publicize their guilty desires might justifiably be called a tad Confused...
males do not desire to mate with anything they see.
But I agree sexual desire is innate and who we are attracted to and who we can also fall in love with is innate as well, however I am not talking about promiscuity, I am talking about sexual orientation. You can get married have a wife, raise a family and have sex with a woman that you love correct? Why can't a gay person have the same thing? Please keep to the topic and don't bring up orgies and BDSM please, thanks.
Well yes they do since a bisexual person is also attracted to the same sex they face homophobia when dating someone of the same sex and also biphobia as many people do not regard bisexuality as a valid sexual orientation. Transphobia is also a mixture of sexism especially in regards to transwomen and homophobia. Trans is not the same as a sexual orientation but they also need support in a homophobic world and therefore you have LGBT support services.Well, my original sarcastic comment was calling the LGBT moniker as crazy or confused.
I went on to try and make a distinction that bisexual and trangendered have little or nothing to do with being gay or lesbian.
Great but it is ok for you to tell everyone you are married to a woman right?I then tried to elucidate my objections by pointing out that the Torah forbids public expressions of sexuality in any context.
Often people do not just decide that, they are raised in that community from birth.You seemed to be objecting to the idea that specifically gay people were "in the closet" if they decided to live a Torah observant lifestyle in a Torah observant community.
And I pointed out the difference between those things and sexual orientation.I went on to point out that any forbidden or deviant behavior from serial adultery to looking at Internet porn to cheating on one's taxes is going to be "in the closet" if one wishes to live a Torah observant lifestyle in a Torah observant community.
But you have an objection to gay orthodox jews marrying someone of the same sex? Therefore they would have to live romantically deprived lives, am I right?Neither I nor the Torah, as far as I know, has any objection to love of almost anything other than false gods - unless this "love" is considered the same as indulging in forbidden behaviors (such as worshiping false gods).
Oy.Well yes they do since a bisexual person is also attracted to the same sex they face homophobia when dating someone of the same sex and also biphobia as many people do not regard bisexuality as a valid sexual orientation. Transphobia is also a mixture of sexism especially in regards to transwomen and homophobia. Trans is not the same as a sexual orientation but they also need support in a homophobic world and therefore you have LGBT support services.
Eh?Great but it is ok for you to tell everyone you are married to a woman right?
So, apparently, I didn't properly state my opinion.And I pointed out the difference between those things and sexual orientation.
No. You are wrong.But you have an objection to gay orthodox jews marrying someone of the same sex? Therefore they would have to live romantically deprived lives, am I right?
"Disrespectful?"
Hmmm... Interesting question.
On one hand, yes - one should not respect the notion that bisexuality and trangenderism is the same as being homosexual or lesbian. That is a bizarre concept and a lie or, if you will, a "politically correct" concept which, in plain English means that it a bizarre concept and a lie.
On the other hand, it is wrong to be deliberately rude to those who are incapable of understanding the differences between ordinary sexuality and new invented "norms" of sexuality.
On the Gripping Hand, from a Torah point of view, G-d tells us that LBGT behaviors are, indeed, confused and contradictory towards the concept of Life and spiritual evolution.
Three opinions... fancy that!