Space is dimensional, and therefore physical. Time, on the other hand, is temporal. Temporality has no physical attribute, and therefore, to my mind, is not real. Temporality is something just made up by humans, is it not?
Perhaps the place to start is with the notion of dimension. The surface of the Earth is *2* dimensional. It takes two numbers (latitude and longitude) to describe where a point is on the surface of the Earth. That makes it 2 dimensional.
Similarly, a plane is 2 dimensional because it takes two numbers (say, x and y) to describe the location of a point in the plane. Notice that we can also use polar coordinates and use radius and an angle, but we always need two numbers.
Standard space is three dimensional: it takes three numbers (x,y,z, for example) to describe the location of any point. There are many other coordinate systems, but all require three numbers to determine the location of a point in space.
Now, in spacetime, there are 4 numbers required: three for space and one for the time of the event. This makes spacetime a four dimensional figure. And time is one of those dimensions.
The dimension of a geometric figure is simply how many numbers are required to locate a point in the figure. In the case of spacetime, that dimension is 4 and one of those dimensions is time.
Now, the individual coordinate systems are set up by humans to help us understand things. And there are usually many different coordinate systems that can do this. But in all cases, the dimension is independent of how humans do things.
The great discovery of Einstein is that spacetime is a geometric entity that is four dimensional and that matter and energy exist in/on this four dimensional figure and even affect how it curves. That curvature *is* gravity.