Male Gay Characteristics

[SalixIncendium]

The curiosity is gnawing at me - I may have to ask her directly!

That seems like a silly tactic.

It makes much more sense to me to just poll the denizens of RF.

 

[Jayhawker Soule]

How about treating her not as an object, but as a friend?

Why would you presume that she was not treated as a friend.

 

[Jayhawker Soule]

A dick in their mouth. Or a guy on their arm.

(When did crude become cool?)

 

[Secret Chief]

How about treating her not as an object, but as a friend?

Sorry, do you mean I should cos I don't?

Are you openly in tune with your emotions?

Clarify please

 

[Secret Chief]

I have on occasion been mistaken for being gay.
(I of course am only speaking of the times I know about)

Interestingly enough, it has never once been by a gay/lesbian individual.
It has always been by straights....

Interesting point. Yes this is from a straight woman.

 

[Secret Chief]

That seems like a silly tactic.

It makes much more sense to me to just poll the denizens of RF.

I could try both.

 

[libre]

Could be your fashion sense...

This honestly.
It's stereotyping but 99% of my gaydar is how someone is dressed.

 

[McBell]

Interesting point. Yes this is from a straight woman.

I did not take notice of it only being by straights until it happened in front of some of my gay friends.
They (my gay friends) all burst out laughing when I was asked how long I have been a homosexual.

 

[Secret Chief]

This honestly.
It's stereotyping but 99% of my gaydar is how someone is dressed.

On that front, I don't think I tick that box.

 

[The Hammer]

Why would you presume that she was not treated as a friend.

I didn't.

It's why I asked as opposed to saying "this is what happened".

 

[McBell]

This honestly.
It's stereotyping but 99% of my gaydar is how someone is dressed.

"gaydar"?

 

[The Hammer]

(When did crude become cool?)

He asked for an obvious tell. I gave an obvious one. Don't like it?

Should I be less obvious next time? More symbolism?

 

[PoetPhilosopher]

I did not take notice of it only being by straights until it happened in front of some of my gay friends.
They (my gay friends) all burst out laughing when I was asked how long I have been a homosexual.

Half the time, people just ask me, "How do you fix this computer?"

 

[Secret Chief]

I did not take notice of it only being by straights until it happened in front of some of my gay friends.
They (my gay friends) all burst out laughing when I was asked how long I have been a homosexual.

 

[The Hammer]

"gaydar"?

The ability to determine someone's sexuality via looks and behavior as opposed to asking = gaydar

 

[The Hammer]

The only thing that lets me know someone is homosexual. Is by then telling me they are. Or seeing them engage in homosexual behavior.

 

[Wu Wei]

This was unexpected...
A woman that I have worked with for about a year somehow managed to mention in conversation that she had assumed I was gay. Have you not heard me mention the word "wife" I asked. She had, but it didn't seem crucial in her assessment. I was bemused. She became embarrassed so I didn't ask how she had come to this apparently obvious conclusion.
(It's not that long ago that a woman was seriously hitting on me so I don't think I'm the most camp man on the planet).
So.... what could she have been making this assessment on? Aside from the obvious (whatever that might be) what would make you assume a man is gay?

years ago, my best friend and I hung out together all the time, we were even in a band together. His older brother, who had meant his girl friend and had seen the woman I was dating, asked us one night at a rehearsal of the band if we were gay, because we always seemed to be together. My friend said no, I said no and then his brother looked at me and said...go ahead, punch me in the face, I deserve it for being so stupid..... My response was...no, that would be to easy, I'd rather you live with this for a long time....... he must have asked me 10 more times that night to punch him in the face for being an idiot.....

 

[Secret Chief]

Half the time, people just ask me, "How do you fix this computer?"

 

[Estro Felino]

Thankfully different. Catcalls would possibly elicit an expletive response.

Well...it was to underline how catcalling is just an expedient to survive in an extremely homophobic environment.
Women have it easy. Not men.

 

[The Hammer]

"Canadian psychologist Nicholas Rule studies social intuitions—the snap judgments we make about people we’ve just met. In a series of experiments, he and his colleagues tested people’s abilities to judge others’ sexual orientation, and came to the conclusion that gaydar is real. And the way it works tells us a lot about the nature of social intuitions in general."

Is ‘Gaydar’ Really a Thing?

People can be surprisingly accurate at judging others’ sexual orientation from nonverbal cues, but only because ‘gaydar’ works just like other social intuitions.

www.psychologytoday.com

It really is thing. Gaydar.