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Men Should Not Hit Women?
- Thread starter The Neo Nerd
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Father Heathen
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Midnight Pete
Well-Known Member
Yet nothing wins a woman's loyalty like a man who treats her like garbage. Why that is I have no idea. Why do women hang onto abusive men?
Renji
Well-Known Member
Father Heathen
Veteran Member
Because "love is blind"?
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
The Neo Nerd
Well-Known Member
Why do women hang onto abusive men?
Perhaps for the same reason guys like lesbians, because they are unattainable.
-Q
Renji
Well-Known Member
That happens most of the time on some people.....
The Neo Nerd
Well-Known Member
You know what has shocked me the most about this thread is that no on has come and said.
"no matter what you should NEVER hit a woman"
Perhaps we are an enlightened bunch on this forum.
*snicker*
"no matter what you should NEVER hit a woman"
Perhaps we are an enlightened bunch on this forum.
*snicker*
Kathryn
It was on fire when I laid down on it.
Well. I have a few more opinions on this matter (SURPRISE!).
First of all, just because someone hits you, doesn't automatically make hitting them back the best choice. In fact, it's usually NOT the best choice. I believe that unless you MUST hit someone back as a matter of self defense (with no other option available), then all you're really doing is lowering yourself to their level.
Personally, I refuse to be a part of any relationship which involves physical violence. I do believe I can remove myself from that situation, and still WIN - without throwing a punch.
Personal dignity, people - personal dignity.
As for chivalry - I love it. I AM physically weaker than my husband, and he IS a good protector. I LOVE that aspect of his personality and skill set.
But his chivalry toward me (and other women as well) is not based on the concept that women are WEAKER than he is. Certainly we are fully capable of opening doors for ourselves, carrying our own packages, standing rather than sitting in a crowded area, etc. My husband deeply respects women, and this is one way that he shows this respect. It's really no different than a Japanese businessman bowing to another, or a daughter carrying something for her mother, even if the mother is fully capable of carrying it herself, or a hostess bringing her guests a drink.
In other words, it's about respect and appreciation - not strength vs weakness.
Personally, I've never been offended by chivalry - and I've definitely experienced plenty of it myself, with my family's military background and culture, and of course our family's Southern heritage. YES M'AM!
Of course, I also find that most chivalrous men are especially appreciative of women who are gracious as well. It's a very pleasant two way street for many people.
Any man who feels inclined to be chivalrous to me - please don't hold back! And you will be rewarded with a huge smile, appreciation that is expressed openly and publically, and, depending on the depth of our relationship, any number of other little niceties, attentions, and affections!
I've also found that chivalry is far from dead, and knows no age limits. Some men are just, well, fabulous and full of potential - from birth, I guess! Of course, respect for others does have to be taught, nurtured, and encouraged.
First of all, just because someone hits you, doesn't automatically make hitting them back the best choice. In fact, it's usually NOT the best choice. I believe that unless you MUST hit someone back as a matter of self defense (with no other option available), then all you're really doing is lowering yourself to their level.
Personally, I refuse to be a part of any relationship which involves physical violence. I do believe I can remove myself from that situation, and still WIN - without throwing a punch.
Personal dignity, people - personal dignity.
As for chivalry - I love it. I AM physically weaker than my husband, and he IS a good protector. I LOVE that aspect of his personality and skill set.
But his chivalry toward me (and other women as well) is not based on the concept that women are WEAKER than he is. Certainly we are fully capable of opening doors for ourselves, carrying our own packages, standing rather than sitting in a crowded area, etc. My husband deeply respects women, and this is one way that he shows this respect. It's really no different than a Japanese businessman bowing to another, or a daughter carrying something for her mother, even if the mother is fully capable of carrying it herself, or a hostess bringing her guests a drink.
In other words, it's about respect and appreciation - not strength vs weakness.
Personally, I've never been offended by chivalry - and I've definitely experienced plenty of it myself, with my family's military background and culture, and of course our family's Southern heritage. YES M'AM!
Of course, I also find that most chivalrous men are especially appreciative of women who are gracious as well. It's a very pleasant two way street for many people.
Any man who feels inclined to be chivalrous to me - please don't hold back! And you will be rewarded with a huge smile, appreciation that is expressed openly and publically, and, depending on the depth of our relationship, any number of other little niceties, attentions, and affections!
I've also found that chivalry is far from dead, and knows no age limits. Some men are just, well, fabulous and full of potential - from birth, I guess! Of course, respect for others does have to be taught, nurtured, and encouraged.
Men are in a no win situation. If we allow women to hit us with no response we are chauvinistic or chivalrous, (the same thing?).
It is the same thing with a big man little man dispute. If a little man prevails because of no action on the big man's part, people say, "you let that little guy beat you?".
If you punch the aggressive little guy out, people say, "Why did you bully this person?".
It is the same thing with a big man little man dispute. If a little man prevails because of no action on the big man's part, people say, "you let that little guy beat you?".
If you punch the aggressive little guy out, people say, "Why did you bully this person?".
Midnight Pete
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Guest
Look up those two words and see if it's still funny.
A
angellous_evangellous
Guest
In ordinary circumstances, never.
In extreme situations that typically don't involve women, yes.
In extreme situations that typically don't involve women, yes.
Midnight Pete
Well-Known Member
The masochist wants to be hit, and the sadist knows this. So, the most sadistic thing to would be to not hit him. Wokka-wokka?
Storm
ThrUU the Looking Glass
Not all of us do.Yet nothing wins a woman's loyalty like a man who treats her like garbage. Why that is I have no idea. Why do women hang onto abusive men?
McBell
Unbound
To my knowledge that particular rule has never been appropriate.
McBell
Unbound
Why are you so concerned with what everyone else thinks?