Wherenextcolumbus
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Honestly, the whole discussion rests on loaded terminology and expectations about interpersonal relationships that I simply do not share. I don't stuff people into the category of "cheater" in the first place because I hold no expectation that a partner of mine only has to have sex with me. For so much emphasis to be placed on who has sex with whom is really very silly to me.
I suppose essentially what I'm suggesting is that instead of putting these labels to people, we accept them for who they are. Unconditional love and acceptance is what makes relationships work, sexual or otherwise.
But if you already have a mutal agreement to be sexually exclusive, are you saying the hurt isn't valid?
Also people do use cheating or the threat of cheating as a form of abuse.
I changed my view on sexual exclusively and thought the same way you do.
But now that I've been on the receiving end of shady manipulative behaviour I think the hurt is valid.
I think the real problem is assuming monogamy throughout the relationship without leaving the boundaries open for discussion.
Basically I think it's far more nuanced than ownership vs non ownership.