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Open Relationships

What's your take on open relationships?

  • Immoral and wrong. End of discussion.

    Votes: 7 17.1%
  • Plain silly. Talk about asking for trouble.

    Votes: 8 19.5%
  • A great *idea*, but in practice, they don't work.

    Votes: 3 7.3%
  • Like everything, they have many pros and cons.

    Votes: 16 39.0%
  • Great to be a part of, but there are risks.

    Votes: 4 9.8%
  • Sexual liberation at its finest. They ROCK!

    Votes: 3 7.3%

  • Total voters
    41

Dolphin

Member
This has strentghened many couples making that relationship more exciting, however, the relationship needs to be secure and sensative to eachothers rules. Not for the average person to explore.:drool:
 

opensoul7

Active Member
I voted , like everything they have many pros and cons.
And also like everything the morality is for the individual to decide .That kind of "open" relationship is not for me personally , but may work well for someone else. My idea of "open" is more along the lines of being completely honest with my significant other about all aspects of my life and beliefs. I do however know a few people who swing and are happy and secure in their relationships.
 

cardero

Citizen Mod
Sometimes when I think of the word open, I think of the words free and honest. If one does not admire these values they can always fall back on faith and trust.
 

niceguy

Active Member
Ðanisty said:
I've seen people try it and so far it's just asking for trouble.
I think you are right here. It's easy to decide in advance that it would be fun to try but then, when practicing, human instincts kick in and one get's annoyed at that person that makes out with "your" partner. There is also the risk that one person in a coulpe have this as a fantasy and the other person admit it just to be kind but in reality suffer for it. So my personal opion is that partner swapping and similar activities are perfectly ok, in theory, in practice, it's a minefield.
 

Ðanisty

Well-Known Member
niceguy said:
I think you are right here. It's easy to decide in advance that it would be fun to try but then, when practicing, human instincts kick in and one get's annoyed at that person that makes out with "your" partner. There is also the risk that one person in a coulpe have this as a fantasy and the other person admit it just to be kind but in reality suffer for it. So my personal opion is that partner swapping and similar activities are perfectly ok, in theory, in practice, it's a minefield.
This is exactly what one of my best friends went through.
 

MysticSang'ha

Big Squishy Hugger
Premium Member
Like everything, they have pros and cons.



We've known couples who've had open relationships for decades, and they're as happy as clams. I was in a relationship before I was first married where we were open, and it was sheer disaster.



I've seen both sides of it. :rolleyes:



Peace,
Mystic
 

Gentoo

The Feisty Penguin
All I can really say, is that they're not for me. I'd get jealous, not to mention the fact that I can't fathom a sexual relationship with someone I didn't care for romantically.
 

Booko

Deviled Hen
I watched my local friends on SOBnet from years ago in their open relationships.

Score:

Divorce lawyers: 14
Intact relationships: 0

Things followed two common patterns:

1. Couple's children had left home...but then grandchildren appeared. Grandma wanted kids around without all the er visitors. Grandpa wouldn't consent. Grandma tossed him out in favor of grandkids.

The more frequent occurence:

2. Husband pressures wife into taking part in swinging (as it was then called). Husband thinks he's going to get a LOT of extra nookie that way. Husband never stops to think that women are in much higher demand than men, and that he isn't quite the prize catch he thought he was. Wife gets all the action. Husband gets ticked. Divorce ensues. (On 2 occasions, the couple mutually agreed they had made a mistake, saw a marriage counselor, and got back on track.)

That's not what I'd call a stellar record for open relationships.

I think very very few people in relationships are so very detached that they can handle the extra stress on a relationship. Marriage is work enough as it is (though ultimately worthwhile work.)

Oh, and did I mention? This was before HIV, before antibiotic resistant strains of STDs, etc etc. The worst that could happen was an unintended pregnancy when the birth control method failed. But these were all *married* people, so at least they were in decent positions to care for any children they ended up having.
 

Mike182

Flaming Queer
i voted "like everything, they have pros and cons.

for those who can work within that framework, no problems! i don't think i could work within that framework, but then again, i've never tried :shrug:
 

dawny0826

Mother Heathen
Mercy Not Sacrifice said:
What's your take on open relationships--intimate relationships where the couple (or group, perhaps) is allowed to seek other partners at will and without fault?

This kind of a deal wouldn't fit my personality at all.

It seems potentially painful to me.

It's one thing if you have a buddy that you just like to sleep with. If there's no emotional attachment that's a different story but I couldn't see myself being in that position.

I couldn't share and wouldn't want to. That's not me.
 

Shadow Wolf

Certified People sTabber & Business Owner
I guess I'll say they have pros and cons.
I suppose they could be good if both individuals are completly open, honest, and ok with it.
 

Ozzie

Well-Known Member
Mercy Not Sacrifice said:
What's your take on open relationships--intimate relationships where the couple (or group, perhaps) is allowed to seek other partners at will and without fault?
It would solve a lot of problems.
 

PureX

Veteran Member
What business is it of mine/ours, what other people do regarding their intimate relationships?
 

Westy

Member
In this situation its each to their own. BUT in my opinion even the thought of my partner having sex with someone else makes me feel sick! I could never even entertain the idea!

My relationship is both secure and full of trust, but i think this is taking things too far!
 
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