Since when is verbal communication the only one allowed? Body language?
There is usually this sweet, magic moment where both look into each other's eyes, while their mouths slowly edge towards one another like confused bumble-bees... haha. And actually, asking isn't the worst option either, it can be rather cute instead having to be awkward. But personally, I wouldn't even ask that unless I kinda assumed she'd say yes, just like I wouldn't kiss otherwise. I'm just a coward that way ^^
It has never anything to do with outright *guessing* IMHO... If she wants you to, you'll know? And she won't hate you for realizing it two seconds late, so why the rush...
This is my experience:
I am in the womans bedroom, but been there a lot of times before, we are good friends.
She starts telling me how she has been asexual lately. She mentions this many times during the night, so I assume there will be no sex (there has been sex before here). Eventually I go to the bed as we watch a series. She gwts besides me and kinda cuddles. We kinda cuddled since way before we started having sex together. So I am completely confused because on one side she said she was asexual, and also cuddling has happened without sex before, and I dont want her to feel forced to anything, so I decide if she wants anything she will just tell me, cause I can ussually have sex anyways, and she did made a point she didnt want sex earlier that night.
Eventually she says "so we are not having sex right?" And I reply like "its cool" assuming she didnt want to. She stands up angry and says sex is off the table now. I am confused, but dont want to say she just said was asexual because she seems mad and maybe a little pride hurt? So I just say "okay..." "OFF the table!" i stay quiet. Scratch my head.
5minutes after we are having sex, because I assumed she still wanted, but I had absolutely no idea, so I just went for it.
In other times she gave all the body signals and she said that I approached her in the most asexual night of her life.
I am clueless and womens are nuts. I am well aware I am not the only clueless guy nor she e only completely unclear woman
The fact that I actually accomplished that she doesnt feel turned off by my actually asking feels like a major victory to me, and cant grasp why it ever turned her off anyways.
I would never ask if I am romantically interested in the girl, but then again I am not that stupid to come from behind to sexually approach a girl I have never sexually approached before because it makes it harder for her to be able to reject me before there is unwanted contact. Making a sexual approach on a girl in a circumstance where she will be very limited to response is where I would classify it an "attack" for any other circumstance, she is free to remove the limbs/lips of the guy trying to make a move, the same way the guy would if she made the first boldy move and he happened to have a girlfriend (and a conscience)